I’m 32, and I’m attracted/interested in seeing/dating a guy in his 40s and 50s relatively fit plus if he’s comfortable with his body but really not a big deal.
Where to find such audience?
Appreciate any advice!
How to do such thing? I’m pretty shy and I find lots of guys attractive but I worry that they might think I’m a creep or something.
How to approach the situation?
Numbers
One of the most iconic Lost episodes. The numbers mystery is unforgettable, and it’s a major turning point as Hurley grapples with whether he’s cursed. We still talk about this episode to this day, and the numbers have been referenced so many times. As Damon Lindelof once mentioned, they are almost like the equivalent of the Force in Star Wars within the Lost universe. We still talk about them till this day, it’s a testament of how good the episode is.
Everybody Hates Hugo
This one is a bit on the lower side, but still enjoyable. It explores Hurley’s fear of responsibility and builds up his character a bit more. The humor is hit or miss, but it does add some lightness to his arc. It was also an early episode in season 2, which in way resets the drama that we had in the end of season 1 and the beginning of season 2.
Dave
A memorable twist episode. Hurley’s struggle with reality versus hallucination is compelling, and Libby’s involvement adds an interesting layer. We even get to see her interacting with Hugo in the outside world to some extent. However, since Libby gets killed shortly after, that storyline never really gets a proper conclusion, which makes the episode feel a little incomplete.
Tricia Tanaka Is Dead
A fun, lighter episode. The van storyline with Hurley, Sawyer, Jin, and Charlie brings warmth and hope. It’s a nice break from the heavier arcs, and it’s one of those episodes where we finally get to relax a bit and just watch the characters grow together. I’m happy this episode exists.
The Beginning of the End
A decent episode. It provides a strong opening for Season 4 and introduces the Oceanic Six arc. We also now know for sure that Hurley can see ghosts. It’s interesting, but it doesn’t recapture the magic of Numbers.
The Lie
A solid episode. It explores the guilt of the Oceanic Six and what they are lying about. Hurley’s conflict is interesting, and his interactions with ghosts add more weight to the story. It’s also more action-packed, and you can tell ABC was trying to add more action into Lost at this point.
Everybody Loves Hugo
Not my favorite. The episode drags a bit, and the flash-sideways story feels like one of the weaker ones, in my opinion. I understand that the writers were trying to wrap up the series, but this episode doesn’t fully land for me.
I really like Hurley as a character. He is the heart and soul of the group, and Jorge Garcia brings a lot of warmth to the role. I just wish we had gotten more tonal variety in his centric episodes. The writers often leaned on comedy in his flashbacks, which makes sense for his character, but I wish they had given him a few more layers to explore.
Pilot, Part 1
This is one of the strongest character introductions in the show. Jack wakes up in the jungle, runs toward the crash, and immediately starts helping people. It tells us everything we need to know about him without overexplaining it.
As a pilot, it’s iconic. As a Jack episode, it perfectly establishes him as the reluctant leader.
White Rabbit
This is a solid early Jack episode. We get more insight into his relationship with Christian and why Jack carries so much guilt. The “live together, die alone” speech is also one of the most important moments for him as a leader.
It’s not as exciting as some later Jack episodes, but it does a lot of important character work.
All the Best Cowboys Have Daddy Issues
This is a very good Jack episode. The flashbacks with Christian help explain why Jack has such a deep need to fix everything and prove himself. His relationship with his father is one of the most important parts of his character.
The island storyline with Charlie and Claire is also intense, and Jack’s desperation makes the episode work.
Do No Harm
This is another fantastic Jack episode. The contrast between Jack trying to save Boone on the island and his wedding flashbacks works really well. We see both sides of Jack: the doctor who refuses to give up, and the man who struggles with commitment and pressure.
The episode also does a great job showing Jack’s biggest flaw: he cannot let go, even when he probably should. Matthew Fox is excellent here.
Man of Science, Man of Faith
This is a strong episode because it sets up one of the main conflicts of the show: science versus faith. Jack represents logic, doubt, and control, while Locke represents belief and destiny.
The flashbacks with Sarah are good, and the introduction of Desmond is one of the best parts of the episode. It’s not my absolute favorite Jack episode, but it’s still very solid.
The Hunting Party
I like this episode, but it’s not one of Jack’s strongest. The island storyline is interesting because we see Jack, Locke, and Sawyer clash while searching for Michael. The confrontation with the Others is also memorable.
The flashback is fine, but it doesn’t hit as hard as some of Jack’s better episodes. Still, it’s a good character episode overall.
A Tale of Two Cities
This is a good episode, especially as a Season 3 premiere. Seeing Jack trapped by the Others creates a different type of tension, and Matthew Fox plays his anger and confusion really well.
The flashbacks are decent, but the island storyline is much stronger. Juliet’s introduction also makes the episode more interesting.
Stranger in a Strange Land
This is probably one of the weaker Jack episodes. I understand what the writers were trying to do, but the tattoo storyline feels unnecessary and heavy-handed. It tries to explain something about Jack, but it doesn’t really add much to his character.
The island storyline is more interesting than the flashback, but overall, this episode feels like filler.
Through the Looking Glass
Easily one of the best episodes in the entire show. This is Jack at his absolute peak, and Matthew Fox gives one of his strongest performances here. The flash-forward twist is legendary, and the reveal that Jack is broken off the island completely changes how we see the character.
The island storyline is also excellent, with Jack finally stepping into the role of leader and pushing everyone toward rescue. Everything about this episode feels huge, emotional, and important. One of the best finales in television, in my opinion.
Something Nice Back Home
This episode has some good moments, especially with Jack and Kate in the flash-forward. It shows that even after leaving the island, Jack still cannot fully be at peace.
That said, the episode is not one of his strongest. It feels more like a bridge episode for his future breakdown than a fully satisfying Jack-centric story.
316
I really enjoy this episode. It feels like a major turning point for Jack because he is no longer the same man who wanted to leave the island. Now he is the one choosing to go back.
The episode has a lot of mystery, and I like seeing Jack accept that not everything can be explained logically. It is a strong episode for his character arc.
Lighthouse
I think this episode has some interesting ideas, especially with Jack and his son in the flash-sideways. It shows a softer version of Jack and gives him a chance to deal with fatherhood in a different way.
The island storyline with Jacob’s lighthouse is interesting, but the episode feels a bit uneven. It has good character moments, but it does not fully land for me.
Jack is one of the most important characters in Lost, and Matthew Fox carried a huge part of the show. His centric episodes are not always perfect, but when they work, they are some of the best episodes in the entire series.
Raised by Another
Easily one of the best episodes in Season 1. It blends elements of horror, mystery, and even the supernatural. In this episode, I think the writers wanted to highlight a common issue in the real world, which is human trafficking. Young pregnant women can be targets for trafficking, and the way Ethan is portrayed reflects that. He is a cold-hearted person who had no issue with killing Charlie.
The acting in this episode is top-notch. I do think it’s disappointing that the writers didn’t know what to do with Claire as a character in the later seasons, but as a standalone episode, this is one of the great ones.
Maternity Leave
This is a terrific episode. We see Claire take matters into her own hands and go after the vaccine. I liked the three women in this episode: Claire, Kate, and Danielle. We also get to see that the Others are highly advanced. This is also the first time we get a flashback within the island storyline.
Par Avion
I find this episode good, but not as good as her first two episodes. The flashbacks are the most interesting part, and we get to learn about the relationship between Claire and her father. I wish we had been able to see more of that relationship, since Claire needed a bit more development, in my opinion.
Overall, Claire is an underrated character. She should have gotten one extra episode in Season 4. Maybe the writers could have included her boyfriend storyline and connected it to her being controlled by the Man in Black, as both lied and manipulated her.
The writers gave her two episodes about being kidnapped or controlled, and two of her episodes involve elements of Alfred Hitchcock’s signature character type: a blonde woman in a desperate situation, which fits the casting of Emilie de Ravin.
This is my first rewatch of Lost since it ended in 2010. For context, I was 11 in 2004.
Solitary
This is a pretty good episode. We get to see, and finally be sure, that our survivors aren’t alone. We also meet the French Woman and learn a bit about her. And who could forget the Whispers? The theories we had about them were incredible.
The flashback is a bit boring, but Nadia is a cool character, and I’m glad we got to see more of her in other episodes. Overall, a pretty good episode.
The Greater Good
Well, this is a boring episode. The writers were clearly getting ready for the big finale and had to throw something in. The flashbacks are just boring and drag a bit.
One of Them
This is Lost at its peak. A brand-new character is introduced, and the flashback ties nicely into the episode. There’s a lot of dynamic content here between everyone. Sayid is still grieving the death of Shannon. By far, this is his best episode.
Enter 77
Here, we can tell the writers were about to go on strike. I enjoyed this episode as a full-blown adult, and the flashback is about real trauma that victims of war go through. The action on the island is balanced well with the flashbacks. This is a pretty solid episode overall.
The Economist
I think some aspects of this episode work. Seeing Sayid as a cold-hearted killer was an interesting take, but it led nowhere. The episode feels like a side-quest episode, like ABC wanted to fill a slot. It’s also a bit boring and relatively predictable.
He’s Our You
Season 5 is by far the most network-feeling season of Lost. It tries to act as a “reboot,” and every character we see seems to mimic one of the original survivors. In this episode, Sayid gets a taste of his own medicine.
While the attempt is there, it feels a bit formulaic and heavy on exposition. I do like Sterling Beaumon’s acting as young Ben the most in this episode.
Sundown
Like He’s Our You, this feels like ABC was trying its best to make the show more formulaic. The on-island storyline keeps getting more over-the-top, and the writers try to add Claire more into the season, but it feels a bit too late.
The flash-sideways is a bit more interesting. We see Nadia married to Sayid’s brother, which I didn’t understand because she was married to Sayid in the real world. Overall, it’s an okay episode.
All in all, I think Sayid had a lot of centric episodes. The writers tried to make him very complex, but because the show was PG-13, and because Sayid used to torture people for a living, they couldn’t fully execute that complexity. Still, I like Sayid a lot.
This is my first rewatch of Lost since it originally ended. I decided to watch it again after finishing Once Upon a Time. I knew that many cast and crew members from Once Upon a Time had also worked on Lost, but I finally started to feel their influence in the writing during season 5.
Edward Kitsis and Adam Horowitz had the idea for Once Upon a Time before Lost became a show. Then ABC greenlit Lost, and the duo were hired as writers from season 1 onward. After watching Once Upon a Time this year, I decided to revisit Lost, and it has been a great time seeing these characters that I once loved again.
Season 5 of Lost is, by far, the season that feels the most like Edward Kitsis and Adam Horowitz’s style. I think the way some characters behave is very similar to characters on Once Upon a Time. For example, Ben in season 5 is extremely over the top, and he reminded me of Rumplestiltskin from OUAT. Kitsis and Horowitz were executive producers in season 5, and their influence is truly felt.
We even see Ben kidnap Alex, which is something Rumplestiltskin is also known for doing. I’m not sure who originally wrote Ben kidnapping Alex, since we know about it from season 2, but maybe Kitsis and Horowitz added to that part of the story. Even the way Ben kidnapped her feels over the top, with a performance style similar to Robert Carlyle’s Rumplestiltskin. This is not a criticism, as both Michael Emerson and Robert Carlyle are great actors.
Another thing I noticed is the way Kate is written in this season, especially how motherhood is shown. It feels very similar to OUAT. You have a special child who is thrown away, picked up, and raised by an adoptive mother with deep emotional issues. Even when Kate visits Cassidy, their conversation feels very similar to the ones in Once Upon a Time. The melodrama, Kate needing this child, and Sawyer breaking her heart all felt like the work of Edward Kitsis and Adam Horowitz.
What struck me as the most similar to Once Upon a Time in season 5 of Lost was the “side quest” structure in each episode, and how the flashbacks feel more scattered. This is also how OUAT is written. If you compare the flashbacks from seasons 1 to 4 with season 5, there is definitely a shift in tone.
The Black Smoke in “Dead Is Dead” also really fits OUAT. It looked cartoonish and not very intimidating. Once Upon a Time is a lighthearted show, and I felt the Black Smoke had that same kind of feeling in this episode.
This is not a criticism. It is just something I observed, and I’d like to hear your thoughts on
I’ve been rewatching Lost for the first time since it ended, and I have to admit, Elizabeth Mitchell’s facial acting is beyond incredible. It’s like her face is made out of clay, constantly shifting to match exactly what the script needs from her.
I loved the moment in Season 5 when she holds baby Ethan, then completely changes her expression and puts him down. There’s also her first introduction in Season 3, where she’s looking in the mirror. You can feel how badly she wants to get off the Island. Then she burns her baked goods, and you can see how completely burnt out she is.
It’s unfortunate that she only received one Emmy nomination and didn’t win. She truly is a great actress.
Happy Mother’s Day to all the moms here. As a fandom of Lost, we are blessed to have complex mothers. They’re not perfect, and some of them are absolutely insane with no redemption. But that’s the beauty of Lost. It’s the journey that matters not the destination. I’m glad that the moms here weren’t written with all the stereotypes of motherhood. It’s a testament to how diverse and different these women are.
Who’s your favourite mom from Lost? I think I’ll go with Kate. She did the best she could with her being burnt out and scared and taking responsibility of a child that’s not her is no easy task.
In “The Other Woman,” we see a new layer to the Others. This is especially true with Goodwin. He is shown as a married man with problems coming at him from every direction.
What makes this interesting is that Goodwin almost comes across as “relatable.” We know he is a killer and a kidnapper. So seeing him act normal and emotionally complicated adds something different to his character.
The way Ben tells Juliet about Ana Lucia suggests that Goodwin saw something valuable in her. It makes it seem like he did not truly want to hurt her. In his mind, he may have believed he was doing all of this for Jacob and “the greater good.”
At the same time, I do not think trying to make Goodwin sympathetic fully works. By this point, the Others under Jacob’s influence feel almost like a cult. Most of them show very little mercy. They are blinded by their leaders. Especially Jacob, who comes across as a glorified manchild with family issues.
But when thinking more about Goodwin and the Others, maybe they can also be seen as outcasts. The lonely. The unloved. The people who had nothing to lose. People who found peace, purpose, and meaning on the island. In that sense, maybe the real blame falls more on Jacob and Ben for turning these people into killers.
Kudos to Brett Cullen for playing Goodwin so well. His performance reminded me a bit of The Night of the Hunter. You are never fully sure whether the character has any chance at redemption. Goodwin’s small moment of redemption is that he wanted Ana Lucia alive even though she was not on the list. But his other actions still make him an agent of evil. That includes murder and kidnapping
Question for men who are 45 to 65. What gets your attention from a guy in his 30s (mainly through dating apps).
I just made an account on Hinge and would like some insights.
Thank you
As someone who’s rewatching the show for the first time since it ended, I have to acknowledge the absolute intelligence of Yunjin Kim. In her centric episode in season 3, D.O.C, she delivers a really complex performance.
She doesn’t trust Juliet, but really has no choice. The way she talks to Juliet while taking the ultrasound is amazing. Regardless of whether Jin is the father or not, Sun will be miserable either way, because if it was Jin’s baby, she’ll die.
The way she tells Juliet that she gave her good news was just the cherry on top. I also enjoyed the way Sun talked to her father. She knew he was a horrible man and used that as leverage to get the money.
Yunjin Kim is a fantastic actress. She simply elevated the material given to her and gave her best performance.
Genuinely asking here. If someone masturbate with someone and there’s kissing and possible cuddling, is that considered a “fap”. No porn is involved
I recently came across a claim that Mira Furlan (RIP Queen) described her on-set experience on Lost as abusive in her memoir. I also saw it summarized as her feeling that the cast was complicit, with the exception of one main actress.
I don’t want to misquote her or turn this into gossip, so does anyone know the exact source and context? Was this directly from her memoir, and did she explain what happened in detail?
I’m especially curious because Danielle Rousseau was such a memorable character, and it’s sad to think Mira may have had such a difficult experience behind the scenes.
This is an interesting episode. Exposé provided a fresh perspective on some of the other survivors of the doomed flight.
Kiele Sanchez and Rodrigo Santoro play Nikki and Paulo really well. They don’t contribute much to the overall narrative, but I enjoyed their addition.
I vividly remember people hating these two when the show aired, and I understand the hatred. Two people suddenly appear out of nowhere and are treated like “main characters,” but they have no chemistry with anyone, and their inclusion feels forced.
As an adult, I see many Nikki and Paulo types: people who are secretive and selfish. I actually like that the writers never gave them any redemption or tried to humanize them too much. In the show, Nikki and Paulo are cold-hearted killers and criminals.
Another aspect I enjoyed about this episode is that it shows the Smoke Monster/MiB is capable of shapeshifting into any living creature and killing anyone he desires. The way the spider bites Nikki is truly horrifying. It’s also fun to see Maggie Grace and Ian Somerhalder back on the island.
We also got a few iconic lines, such as “Who the hell is Nikki?” and the one and only “Razzle Dazzle.”
Shoutout to Kiele Sanchez for having such a good-sport mentality. She knew the new characters were disliked, but she still gave it her best. She’s also claustrophobic, and she was in the grave when they filmed the death scene. That shows high level of professionalism.
I didn’t hate these characters as much as most people did. I wonder what people think of them after all these years. One question as well: do we think these characters were able to move on after death? I personally don’t think so, because they never cared about anyone and killed someone in cold blood.
Losties that met any cast member. How was that interaction? Who did you meet? I’m interested to know more about the experience.
I’m an Arab Palestinian who watched Lost when it originally aired. I’m currently rewatching the series for the first time since then. For context, I lived in the Arab world, across multiple countries, for 18 years of my life, so I’m very familiar with the culture, language, and traditions.
Naveen Andrews is a great actor. He was clearly cast because of his acting skills, and I honestly wouldn’t change the casting just for the sake of authenticity. That said, there are a few things I noticed that made me laugh because they simply aren’t Arab at all.
First, his accent. It sounds like a made-up accent. There’s definitely some British influence there, which makes sense since Andrews is British. I understand that in 2004, it was probably harder to access Arabic media compared to now, but ABC spent a lot of money on the pilot, so I’m surprised they couldn’t hire a dialect coach or someone who spoke Arabic to check his accent.
The second thing is Sayid’s passport. It’s clearly not written in Arabic. I believe it’s Urdu or Farsi, which use a similar script, but they are completely different languages.
Another thing I found funny is the message Nadia wrote on her photograph. It sounds like something a child would write. No adult would really speak like that. The writing itself is also wrong, which makes it clear that they didn’t check with anyone who actually spoke the language.
Sayid also can’t really speak Arabic. Andrews tried his best, but whatever he was saying in “Arabic” was honestly laughable.
Another thing is that Arabs speaking to each other usually mix languages depending on where they grew up. Sayid is from Iraq, where people may speak Arabic, Kurdish, and, in some communities, Turkish or Aramaic, along with English. But you generally wouldn’t find two Iraqis speaking English to each other all the time. Sayid speaks English to other Iraqis about 95% of the time, which always felt strange to me.
I also saw some people on this subreddit mention that his skin colour and features don’t represent Arab features. I understand where that point comes from, but being Arab is similar to being Latino in the sense that it’s more about language, culture, and identity than one specific skin tone or facial feature.
Personally, I think if Sayid had been written as Afghan or South Asian, it might have fit better. Naveen Andrews is of South Asian descent, and that background would have matched him more naturally.
Diana Scarwid delivered a great performance in one of the least interesting episodes of the series, “A Stranger in a Strange Land.”
Scarwid is an Oscar-nominated actress and an Emmy winner herself. Her energy matches Michael Emerson’s energy in the show. But sadly, she only gets one episode.
Her character has an interesting look and a distinct voice. If she had stayed longer, maybe she could have been related to someone. Scarwid is from Georgia, which is where Josh Holloway is from, so maybe they could have been related if the writers had found room for her.
But I think in terms of character development, she might have been similar to Eloise Hawking, so having two characters of the same type might have been redundant.
A really great performance, and another reason why Lost is great, even when the episode is on the weaker side.