Meu bebê tem três meses. Gostaria de criá-lo sem tela. Mas passamos a maior parte do tempo na sala , onde temos uma tv de 77 polegadas. O bebê agora quer ficar encarando a tv. Meu marido não acha importante proteger o bebê da influência das telas e quando não estou por perto, deixa nosso filho encarar a tela sem problemas .
Gula dica ?
I’ve been triple feeding since first week due to weight loss. The advice I received was , pump until your output be equal or close to what baby is taking as formula. This never happened.
Though he baby is latching better now, still need formula. (About 70 mls per feed). I’ve been to the 2 months appointment ( I am based in the UK) , and the doctor was very happy that the baby was getting formula. I asked for a referral for a lactation consultant and he sees no problem that baby is having both, breast and milk and only an issue if “he was refusing the bottle”… what ???
I really don’t know what to do from here. Can’t triple
Feed forever ( I can only do it now coz my mom is with me, this will be over next month) , still, I need to know… can my supply increase , is a latching transfer problem? . Any advice?
I am 6 weeks pp and triple feeding. Needless to say very tired. At the moment I feel I am losing loads of good moments with my LO because I am focused on increasing my supply.
The odd thing is, every time, it feels it is getting worst.
I had a wearable pump. Got 100mls one morning and though, yeahhh things are getting better!!! Silly me. My outputs reduced at a point that I was getting 10 mls combined. Bought me a Sepctra hospital grade. Started to to hand compression with pump, and thought ,
Maybe now will work as at the first time loads of milk came down with the massage. Nah. Can get more than 40 mls. Even when I don’t breast feed output is low. To get worst , feels like my Lo is now loosing interest in the nipples. The Henry specialist thinks he is sucking but not swallowing enough, so poor transfer.
I am consuming oats , good fats other stuff , nothing seems to work.
At the moment I have my mom with me, which makes this whole breastfeed, bottle pump possible. But she can’t stay over forever. I feel I am losing this battle.
Baby is taking 60 mls formula per feed , getting weight and having loads of wet changes, not sure if this is from the formula of if he is actually getting something. My NHs team is not very bothered, Said just keep pumping. I really want this to work out and stay EBF, feeling very bad on thinking about quitting.
When did your journey took a turn? Anyone was on shit like me and managed to improve ? What have u done ?
I have a middle name myself. Spent my life so far ignoring the name and hiding it when possible. I absolutely hate it, it was just an extra name to be bullied at school.
( also , where I am from, you need to use your whole bloody name for everything you do).
My partner has 3 middle names. But in the UK, you can just use first and last name on most of your activities.
Just had my baby now , my partner wanted to put a middle name and we agreed he would just have our both surnames and he would have a single name .
Just don’t understand why so many people are obsessed with middle names. It’s hard enough to choose one, child might hate one or both names, bullying at school, let alone the cringe combinations.
Could you guys that like it , explain your perspective of why you think is do special to put more than one name in your child ?
Meu bebê tem um mês e no momento estou fazendo alimentação combinada de fórmula e leite materno.
Ele entrou na fórmula pq na primeira semana perdeu mais de 10% do peso. ( que ele já recuperou).
Eu estou tentando tirá-lo da fórmula e ficar no aleitamento exclusivo, reduzindo a fórmula gradualmente, mas tem sido difícil.
meu bebê está passando pela salto de um mês ( pelo menos acho que seja isso) + tem dificuldade com gases e coco ( diquesia? ) . Por isso está sempre irritado e chorando quando acordado.
A única coisa que o acalma é peito ( e claro, mamadeira).
Meus pais estão em casa, e constantemente ficam me pedindo para dar uma mamadeira pra ele acalmar. Seguido com “tadinho, acho que é fome”.
Isso me deixa arrasada, como se eu estivesse matando meu filho de fome ( e de propósito), enquanto tento estimulá-lo a mamar mais.
Eu tento explicar que quanto mais fórmula eu der, menos ele vai mamar no peito, e maior a chance do meu leite secar ou diminuir. Certamente seria mais “fácil “ pra mim nesse momento dar toda fórmula do mundo, mas não é o que eu gostaria pra ele a longo prazo. Eu tenho consulta para pesar semanalmente e semana que vem vamos ter um consulta com especialista em aleitamento.
Eu sinceramente não sei o que fazer pra acalmar o meu bebê , nem sei como lidar com essa pressão de dar fórmula pra ele. Eu tb quero ver meu bebê de bom humor e quieto, mas entendo que bebês choram e passam for fases.
Qualquer palavra de apoio ou experiência me ajudaria .
On the first weight my LO had lost 14% of his weight. Because of this, I need to top up with formula.
He is currently 4 weeks. I am reducing the formula offer , hoping to move to EBF.
Can’t shake de paranoia of how he grabs the formula bottle after breastfeeding. Neither I can’t forget the shock of when I weight him the first time.
I used the home scale , weighted myself , then weighted again holding him, and looks like he is gaining weight, but I can’t shake the fear. Next available slot to check is on Thursday.
He is producing loads of wet diapers ( often more than 6).
How can I trust my milk is increasing ?
Any piece of advice would help.
On the first weight my LO had lost 14% of his weight. Because of this, I need to top up with formula.
He is currently 4 weeks. I am reducing the formula offer , hoping to move to EBF.
Can’t shake de paranoia of how he grabs the formula bottle after breastfeeding. Neither I can’t forget the shock of when I weight him the first time.
I used the home scale , weighted myself , then weighted again holding him, and looks like he is gaining weight, but I can’t shake the fear. Next available slot to check is on Thursday.
He is producing loads of wet diapers ( often more than 6).
How can I trust my milk is increasing ?
Any piece of advice would help.
I am currently triple feeding and trying to move to EBF, baby is 3 weeks. My plan is to gradually reduce the volume of formula, and technically, this week I did not reduce any volume yet , because with 3 weeks I suppose to increase his volume if I was just giving formula, so I just kept same as last week.
if that makes sense.
We have a routine when I usually sleep 9 pm to midnight ish so I can have energy to endure the night feeds ( to be honest , if was for my Baby I would sleep trough night, but I follow his feeding schedule as he had issues with weigh in the begging and that’s why we are triple feeding).
The last 2 days he is crying a lot while I am away and nothing can calm him down, except of course a bottle of formula. He is cluster feeding. He is also having issues to pass wind and poop ( disquesia? ) and we are having a heat wave , so baby is extra annoyed and hard to smooth.
Between 4pm to late night he does not stop crying and my mom is panicking while I am on my “break” trying to push extra formula as the baby is “starving” .
I feel so overwhelmed, as all I do is BF, pump and give bottles midnight to 9 pm.
Last weigh check he got 400g in 10 days, he is having 6+ wet diaper’s per day ( stool varies), so I have no reason to believe he is underfed.
Please give me some wisdom words !!!!
I am 20 days postpartum, due to my NB loosing too much weight in the first week, he is in formula.
I am trying to BF, supplement with formula and pump. I cannot understand how can I BF, pump 8 to 12 times per day each. I am not panicking that my pumped volume is decreasing!!!! Please help me .
Looking for stories of people that managed to improve their milk supply , and came out from formula please
I usually don’t pull the “I am a nurse” card while I am a patient. I recently had a 2 nights stay in postnatal ward and OMG. Where are they getting these people ??
nurses dropping the meds on the table without telling what medications I was taking.
“Here are you meds”. All the times I needed to prompt them to tell me what are the meds I was taking “now”. No one ever checked if I had allergies.
They gave me the clexane. And a box with 6 weeks treatment followed by : apply it on your thighs .
Zero education, checking if knew what to do, or if I would be able to do it myself.
HCAs coming to check observations : no one ever introduced themselves to me. They told me off for my BP being high, and because I was in the toilet instead of resting. ( what?) .
None of the nurses told me the plan of the day, they did not check if I needed any kind of assistance for personal care even though I was post de c section.
After the C-section I had two big cannulas, poorly fixed, no IV medications. Asked to be removed, no coming back.
I removed my own cannulas and at no point no one wondered what happened with them .
I was chocked with the poor standards of care I received. Seriously. !!!! How can people think this is a good care?
I do understand nhs is pressured, but I just saw the nurses on meds time.
I am struggling with the opposite . My 9 days old baby does not wake up for his feeding times. As a result I don’t know if I am struggling with the breastfeeding because he is always asleep on my boobs .
Needed to start with formula because he is not getting enough weight .
Any successful story of moms that manage to come back from mixed feeding for breastfeeding only ?
After my emergency C-section, my blood pressure spiked to 150/100 mmHg in hospital, and I was given a one-off dose of nifedipine. Throughout the rest of my stay, my blood pressure remained elevated, but instead of escalating my care, the nurses repeatedly retook the readings until they obtained numbers they considered acceptable.
The day after I was discharged, the community midwife visited my home and recorded a blood pressure of 145/100 mmHg—essentially the same readings I had been having in hospital, where no one had taken any meaningful action. She referred me to the maternity triage unit, and that is when my nightmare began.
At triage, I was monitored for about an hour and a half. Most of the readings were acceptable, but the final reading was high—the very reason I had been referred. I was then told I needed to wait to speak with the consultant. I ended up waiting for more than six hours with my three-day-old newborn, only to be told that no treatment was required and that I should simply continue monitoring my blood pressure. I was incredibly frustrated to have waited so long for no intervention.
The following day, I attended another midwife appointment. I was told that my newborn had lost too much weight and required further assessment and a feeding plan. Understandably distressed by this news, my blood pressure rose to 168/120 mmHg, and I was referred back to triage.
Once again, I spent around seven hours waiting between seeing different clinicians, exhausted and in tears in the waiting area. Eventually, I was started on labetalol three times a day. The doctor explained that, ideally, I should be admitted, but also warned me that they could not say how long I would have to stay. By that point I was physically and emotionally exhausted, my baby had been placed on a formula supplementation plan, and I desperately needed to get home to feed and care for him, so I declined admission.
The next day, I returned for my baby’s weight check and, unsurprisingly, my blood pressure was still high. After taking my lunchtime dose of labetalol, I was sent back to triage yet again. As had happened previously, my blood pressure settled while I was there. After another two hours of monitoring, I was told that no further action was needed and was sent home.
The whole experience has been incredibly frustrating. I need to be at home with my newborn to establish feeding and care for him, yet I keep being sent to triage only to sit there for hours, receive no change in treatment, and be discharged.
Over the last two days, my blood pressure readings at home have been concerning again. However, after so many exhausting and seemingly unproductive visits, I honestly cannot face going back to triage. Instead, I am documenting my readings and waiting for my next appointment, hoping that someone will finally review my medication properly and provide a more effective management plan.
Does anyone manage to do this privately
Hello,
I finally graduated with 40 weeks on the dot. My baby boy is here .
Following my experience.
I arrived in the hospital 6-7 dilated. My auntie is a
Midwife 30 years experienced and a professor in the field, she assessed me before going to the hospital and assured I was closed to the end + waters were broken. Though her and the midwife did no agreed on how dilated I was on arrival, this is not the point.
On arrival I was assed and sent to the ward in labour. My pain, contractions pattern, and mental state was compatible to enter active labour, I was having contractions since 4 am, and arrived in the hospital at midnight ish.
I was put on epidural (my choice ) and was told by the nurse to wait 4 hours to start occitocin. I was so exhausted, it was 3am when the epidural kicked in, did not complain on having a little break.
Fast forward 12 hours later, my dilation was not progressing neither the baby was descending to the vaginal channel. Bare in mind that once it reaches 4 cm , we should dilate 1cm every 1.5 hours ish.
I was 14 hours, no progress at all, and baby presenting swelling on his had when touched. My auntie advised me there was likely a mechanical cause ( head tilted , or small passage). Baby would not progress and would be likely to take many extra hours for eventual full dilation followed by forceps and perhaps C-section. I already have made my mind I did not wanted instruments on vaginal deliver and providing baby was on the same stage more than 15 hours I asked for a C-section.
Midwife was offended I did not wanted forceps or vac, and agreed that would be likely the outcome. I needed to stay put and ask for the C-section. My baby was fine through out, but haven forbid , how long would stay this way waiting for a possible dilation.
I asked for the obstetrician consultant advised. She examined me and confirmed : baby was not progressing for too long, likely would have a mechanical cause, having the C-section was the best option.
At 21:18, 42 hours after starting contractions , baby came. Strong and healthy as a horse.
Though I wanted the natural labor, I’m happy to be flexible to make the decision that would be the best for him, also greatfull to have my auntie to advise me.
If dilation reach’s 4 cm, it’s not normal stay so long with no progression. Slow progression is fine, but no progress needs to be looked after.
As the cervix dilates, baby needs to progress down.
I am so very happy everything end up well!!!!
Ready for this next chapter!!!
Saw a video where the parents call the grand parents on video call and they have the surprise of seeing the baby.
Meaning, they did not tell anyone they were going to labour.
Thought was super cute.
But how can I do this if my parents are now texting me and calling every day just to check if something is happening? Lol
Can assure if I ignore my mom calls for more than 20 min she will have a breakdown !!!! Any ideas ?
Hello.
I am from abroad and I will be giving notice of marriage .
I am married/divorced in my home country. Requested the marriage certificate with divorce , but the online document with QR code for verification. That I printed out .
Will this be accepted as original or do I need the paper version straight from the register ?
What is the actual color of colostrum ? I am doing the expression and all i can get is golden see through drops , not milky. Like a golden dew instead of a golden butter color .
Is this colostrum as well??
I meant, I had a good relationship with my grandmothers, but nothing compares to how excited my mom is about becoming a grandmother.
She even called my baby “my baby,” which honestly made me feel a bit uncomfortable.
Now she is worried that I won’t let her hold the baby enough (although, how much is enough anyway?). I don’t remember my grandmothers being this possessive, perhaps because they already had other grandchildren.
She also keeps asking me if I am anxious about the baby arrival, as she herself can barely sleep.
I’ve noticed this behaviour more in people around her age, and it feels like a newer thing. I wonder if it’s because people tend to have fewer children nowadays, or if it’s connected to guilt. In my mom’s case, for example, she wasn’t very present while I was growing up — partly because she was working, and partly because we grew apart during my teenage years due to her marriage with my ex-step dad.
She often says she regrets it now, especially because I became so independent and detached that I moved abroad by myself.
I am feeling very rough with heat wave . Any tips to survive ?
I feel very tired , hands and feet swallowing.
I lived with my in-law , who I absolutely adore. Unfortunately one of his little flaws is that he has a bad taste for decoration, to say the least.
We move to our own home and he now insists that we have one of his paintings ( that he owns, not that he painted) .
It’s not small, it’s something between 60 to 70 inches.
If we take it in, he will no accept I put in a excused place, such as a guest room. In his house the paint is in evidence in the tv room.
Needless to say, I don’t like the paint, but will really hurt his feelings to say no. I could say yes and keep it for a while , but I know my partner , if the paint comes in, will never leave (mainly because he does not believe in throwing things away, the paint was likely costume made). I don’t believe anyone would ever buy from us.
I don’t know what to do…
Give me ideas on how to solve this please . ( I am even considering dropping the paint on my head, as he is under the superstition that if a paint drops , can’t stay in the house).
Hello. I started my pregnancy with a high bmi (32 )
I did not gain much weight on my pregnancy so far, I am being assisted by an specialist dietitian.
Blood pressure and diabetes - nothing so Far. I am having a quite health pregnancy.
Can they decline if I want to give birth in the birth center ?( mine is inside of the hospital)