u/MattytheWireGuy

So I have two cocker spaniels, but at the higher end of healthy weights and they are doing quite fine per the vet and just around the house. They are also the type of dogs that always want to eat more, if theres food, they want it and as a responsible dog dad, I dont just give them whatever they want.

So given this, theres been a bit of a joke from my GF that Im obviously not feeding them enough because of their behavior of begging and devouring their food (I had to get them those special bowls to slow down how fast they eat). Ive always thought it was tongue in cheek until today, she made some jokes and then gave "suggestions" about them doing that including feeding them more. At that point, it went from joking to criticism about how I take care of them. Ill be flat out, they get fed all that my vet has recommended and they get treats regularly too. They get their walks and toys, I play with them and treat them like little kids. They want for nothing. Thing is, her making suggestions was insulting to me, like she really felt I didnt feed them enough ect.

At that point I got upset but tried to explain their issues that they wont stop when they are "full", they will eat till they fall over. She said that her dogs never did that and was able to free feed them.

At that point I was actually pretty pissed off and told her so, that she is now telling me how I take care of my boys. She tried to flip it on me and say that I was kicking her when she was down and I made it quit clear that I was VERY offended by these suggestions and was akin to me making suggestions on how her own children eat.

At that point, she said IF I upset you, Im sorry. I explained there was no IF, she DID upset me. I basically had to argue out an "I am sorry I upset you" as everything she was saying was basically well I didnt mean it, but Im sorry your upset and not I am sorry I said something to offend you and just mean it. This has bothered me that unless she feels guilty about it, she doesnt seem to empathize with what her doing or saying can hurt another even if it wasnt her intention. Then she got on her own thing saying "well I will NEVER give you suggestions again" and stuff like that, complete flipping it on me again.

I finally said I accept her apology, tried to drop it, but now she is doing the silent treatment thing to me.

So AITAH for being offended by her comments about how I care for my dogs, who I basically treat like my own kids, and communicating that to her and wanting a real apology?

I lost my son as a baby years ago and Im trying to find a way to look at his upcoming anniversary in a different point of view. I have struggled year after year when mid August comes and only this year did my therapist help me find a way to better celebrate his birthday that didn't leave me a total, depressed mess. He helped me see that I should celebrate and remember his birth and the short time we had together instead of missing him and mourning his loss. That helped me so much.

Im hoping that maybe some other parents have any ways they've found some sort of solace or peace on the anniversary of them passing though? I know I will not be going to where his ashes were spread as the entire experience leaves me entirely broken, but I want to know if theres ways anyone has found to see the better side of it, if you can find anything at all. We all know how impossible it is to forget that day and the emptiness it leaves, but Im hoping more of ways to frame it so its not just reliving what happened again.

This has bothered me the last few days and wanna get a handle on if Im overreacting to it or have a legit issue.

Backstory is that 19 years ago, I was in a serious motorcycle accident caused by someone else and I nearly died. We are talking severe internal bleeding, severe broken bones ect. I leave out my personal details of it and some of the surrounding issues, but it was the most important day of my life. I t literally changed the course of my trajectory and was a just one of those times that a single incident changes your entire outlook on life.

This day also happens to be my half birthday coincidentally, but the importance of the day and me surviving it is what matters. It is the most important day of the year to me, and is more significant to me than even my sons birthday or the day he died, like its that big a deal to me. Because of it, I have called it my RE-Birthday since then and celebrate as my actual birthday. This is nothing new and something Ive done for 19 years.

So morning came and she was talking with me all nice but it was obvious that she forgot and I waited a bit and said "you forgot huh?" She admitted that she did and said it was cause she was still waking up, she was mixed up on days. What hurt is she remembers EVERYONES birthday, like celebrities, friends parents that type of thing and she also knew because of us having a special trip this week for it.

I tried to let it go, but my close friend did remember, he texted me first thing saying happy birthday, glad youre alive got something planned tonight. That alone made me feel like yeah, if he can remember it, my GF can remember it. Instead she said that she just thought I dont like my regular bday and just picked that day instead and that she remembers that one. I reminded her that I havent celebrated my natural birthday since weve known each other and she just said, well I didnt know it was that important to you.

My buddy, who doesnt like her, talked me down and said maybe she was just tired and forgot and to not take it so hard, but I did. For someone that can remember dates of basically anyone that matters and doesnt remember that one makes me feel like Im not important.

So AITA for being upset about this, even though she apologized and all that?

Long story short, my GF has a very large dog that has bit me a few times to the point I have scars from it and not just got nipped. I absolutely love dogs, like I love them more than I love most people, but he doesnt love me.

I am staying with her for a few days and knowing how hes like, I just asked that we be separated for the most part so he isnt pacing and separating us, that I dont have to worry about getting bit in the middle of the night ect. She understands 100% my concerns and she also hates thats the way he is. She also says that hes her boy and hes not going away either and doesnt want to treat him like hes a bad dog. I dont want to get in between them, but I also cant be myself when Im afraid of him.

I just want to know if Im out of line asking for some separation when Im there knowing that its his house and Im a guest, but also being smart enough to know that we probably arent gonna be buddies right now? Im a big guy, but hes a big dog too.

After seeing what uncursing the Knicks did, yall need to pay off Danhausen anyway you can. u/BooBooBreakfast may have said triple fuck Danhausen, but that may not be what yall want...

This came up out of nowhere a few days ago when I myself was expressing my concerns to my gf of 1 1/2 years about communication and feeling ignored. During this, she came out and said that I made her feel like a child because I sent her a reminder to call her doctor in the morning, something she specifically asked me to do and even thanked me for it which happened nearly a month ago.

IDK if this was some attempt at reversing things on me but made a hurtful situation that much worse that me caring makes her feel like a toddler or child and said shes survived before I was around. At first, I thought she was talking about me finding her a medical option that would be covered by her insurance and she said no, it was about that.

There was more to my concerns, but Im seriously questioning if what I did was wrong to do? I told her if it feels demeaning, I wont offer to help but that was a kick to the balls that me just being nice was kept as something to hold against me and made me think that had I not done it, that would be held against me too for some reason.

I was having a conversation with my GF's friend about dinner and she said she was making Chicken Marsala. She (her friend) has been sober for a few years now and Ive been sober for 4 months and been working on it for a yeah and a half. We got to talking about that shes at the point where she can buy a bottle to use in the recipe and leave the rest and I said I was in that gray area where I could pour it in the pan, but Id not like to have a half bottle in the house. My GF congratulated her friend for her sobriety and completely ignored what Ive done and hasnt commented on it in months, but she would if I drank.

Then I invited her to show up for something, she showed up and was happy to make an appearance but didnt even acknowledge I was there and I left.

Then today, I said I was going to watch the Knicks game with my friend who seriously doesnt like her because he thinks she treats me poorly. She made a quip about hoping he sucks an egg whole and her friend (the sober friend) said yeah fuck him. They both said this cause they havent met each other and he only know my side of things and being open and honest, I tell her what him and his wife thinks on the matter.

She made excuses about why she praised her friend for sobriety but not to me, that I was assuming her motives on why she cant acknowledge me in public and that her making excuses was gaslighting me. This extended in to her saying that I was treating her like a project because I sent her a reminder text to call her doctor regarding an issues she let lapse and was turning into an issue for her.

So AMIA for being hurt about this (theres much more) and her gaslighting me or saying Im blowing it out of proportion? How about that she just gives me the silent treatment whenever I make my concerns made?

Ive been unable to check it all day, it makes me log in over and over then randomly will error out and other times it will open but get the oops theres a problem retry in 5 secs.

So I had a foot injury happen that I haven’t called as workers comp but regardless, it required a trip to the er and podiatrist. I received a doctors note for restricted work limiting me to no work on my feet for 4 days prior to yesterday where i can be on my feet 20 mins an hour and/or take health breaks whenever i need em.

So on Saturday I showed up for my shift and gave the MOD my note, he said do training ect. 40 mins later, the SM came in asked whats up and I said I was on work restrictions and needed to handle anything sitting down. He said since everything required walking or standing, I needed to go home.

On my punch card it paid me out for the rest of my shift. Then todat I saw -3:44 which was mire than the time i left so I got short changed a half hour and they didn’t pay for reporting time which is 2 hours if the shift is 4 hours. That means I should have got my pay for 40 mins and 1:20 in reporting time. Before I go complain, what the hell is going on? I have zero occurrences if youre wondering