u/MelodicWing3531

hello everyone,
i just wanted to see if this is normal or if i have a right to be upset.

I had a blood test done well over a year ago as i was having issues with iron, and when i got the results the called me to say something had come up that suspected coeliac disease, i had a tTG IgA of 116.7, my iron levels were improving after medication and diet changes but then levels decreased from 58 to 18, which i believe could be a symptom of malabsorption from coeliac.

i was referred to gastroenterology on the 27th november 2025, so it is coming up to a year. i had not really experienced any symptoms then, but i believe now im starting to.

i then received a letter a week prior that i had a telephone appointment on the 29th September last week, but i could not attend it that day so i requested for it to be rescheduled. they proceeded to send me an email the day before reminding me about the appointment so they clearly had not listened, so i called them again telling them i cant attend it and i need to reschedule. they didn't end up calling but also have not discussed rescheduling the phone appointment, let alone waiting to get an endoscopy.

the situation is causing me worry and i just want it over with

apologies for the long post

i'm 17 and turn 18 in two months. i'm a very anxious person, i cry easily, and i tend to have breakdowns over things that probably wouldn't affect most people.

i left school a year ago and have been struggling to find a part-time job. i live in the uk, and the job market isn't great right now, especially for someone my age. my mum knows how hard i've been trying. she usually encourages me to keep applying and not give up, and she knows i've been trying to get my life back together after dealing with depression.

today i was feeling low and stayed in my room. one thing that really gets to me is that she comments on almost everything i do. within about five minutes she said things like, "when are you going to get rid of these plushies? this is why you can't make friends," "why are you moving that?" and "why do you look so angry all the time?"

i eventually snapped and said, "can i do anything without being criticised?"

she started shouting at me, telling me to grow up. then she said i was useless, that i contribute nothing except being a bitch, and that once i turn 18 i'm no longer her responsibility and whatever happens to me won't be her problem.

she's never said these exact words before, and hearing that really hurt. i went to the bathroom and cried.

what's confusing is that after she blows up at me, she suddenly switches back to being caring. she kept asking if i wanted food, got worried when i kept saying no, and even came into my room and blow-dried my hair because i'd been struggling to do it myself. she does this after arguments a lot, and it really messes with my head. it feels like i'm not allowed to stay upset because she'll get annoyed if i do.

everything has calmed down now and she's acting completely normal, but i can't stop thinking about what she said. i keep wondering whether she actually believes i'm useless or whether she just said it because she was angry. my confidence has taken a huge hit, and i don't feel like i can ask her if she really meant it.

has anyone else experienced this kind of behaviour from a parent? also, i want to make it clear that i'm not someone who expects to be "babied", i am quite an independent person, i just require some extra reassurance, but i feel very bad about myself now.