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Hi everyone, I am 28 years old, I have been living abroad for the past 4 years, and I just finished my doctorate. My elder sister also has a PhD and she will be 32 years this years. The problem is we both are unmarried, and as you how big of deal it is in our society. We both live independently, earn a good salary but unfortunately we have not been able to find a right partner so far.

My parents are well educated, they feel really proud on our achievements but whenever they see other people and their kids getting married they get so disappointed and start blaming us for wasting so much time in pursuing a PhD. Although, we never said no to getting married, its just we did not like the matches given to us. Also, my sister wants to meet the guy once before deciding anything. It is 2026, and most of the time the persons family has an objection whenever she proposes the idea of meeting the guy before marriage. I feel so frustrated. Today my father called me and said they are going to finalize the next guy they meet. There is no need to meet him in person since it creates a bad impression in the eyes of grooms family.

When I defended my thesis, my relatives called to congratulate me and then they only had one question: When are you getting married? As if I have no other purpose in this life. I am not dependent on anyone I don't understand this pressure. Now, they have allowed us to find partners as per our requirements, but there are so many conditions. Like religion, cast, good family and all. How in this world am I going to find a partner fulfilling all these stupid conditions. Its like I am an animal, who has done enough work in their parents farm and now have to find another place to work. I feel so frustrated, All my life my parents conditioned us to stay away from boys, always keep our eyes down, never give our number to any boy, otherwise we will bring shame to our family. And now, everytime we call our parents they show this sad face that we have already crossed the age of marriage.

We do we still suffer from this stupid mentality? What is wrong with our society? I don't even feel ready for marriage, and most importantly I don't want to get married just for the sake of it. They were so strict with us when we were in school and college, now I regret that I didn't have a boyfriend before, I should have explored my options.

I need to move from my city, and I have two big suitcases. I am taking a train but I need to make 2 changes and I think it will be difficult to take both of them on the train with me. I am also very short so it becomes very difficult to carry suitcases on the travel. I checked the SNCF luggage transfer service but the reviews are not good. Has anyone used any other service? Alternatively, if you have an advice for me about moving, please let me know.

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Hi everyone, I defended my thesis yesterday and received a passed with major revision outcome. Although the examiners said that the thesis does not require major amendments but to avoid putting the pressure on me they gave me 6 months to finish the corrections. They also wanted me to include the new versions of the chapters since they all are currently under review at different publication venues.

I have been offered a postdoc position at a CNRS lab, and my postdoc employer is asking me to provide a proof of PhD. I am worried if the passed with major corrections outcome will have an impact on my postdoc job. Will it be mentioned on the certificate or on the diploma that I got major revision?

Hi guys, I am going to defend my thesis in 5 mins. Let's see if I pass..

Hi everyone, I have my PhD viva on monday. It is going to be on zoom, and I will have two external examiners and one internal examiner. It starts early morning, I am not sure how long will it take. Just asking this to make up my mind. I am allowed to ask for breaks in between.

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I have a postdoc position in CNRS France, which starts from 1st June. My PhD defense is on the 18th of May in the UK, and I am expecting minor corrections. I don't know what kind of document I will receive after my defense. I have to give a diploma to my french employer, as they are waiting for it. I don't know if they will accept anything else other than a diploma. Not sure what I should do in this situation.

I received a rejection decision on my manuscript today. It's not the first time my paper has been rejected. The other two rejections I received were really helpful and allowed me to understand how the papers can be improved. We followed the comments and the papers later got accepted to those same journals when we submitted them again as a new contribution. However, this time I received the comments from the reviewers which are straightaway AI generated. I can't prove it though but I feel very disappointed. The first reviewer has given 13 comments and all of them are just criticizing the paper. They have not referred to any sections, tables or figures . They have not evaluated a paper section by section instead all the comments are so difficult to understand because of added modifiers. It seems like they just uploaded the paper to an LLM and copied the points.

Before whenever I received comments from reviewers they would have equally good and bad feedback. This time all the comments are just very long sentences with modifiers and without actual evaluation on how paper can be improved. The second reviewer has paraphrased the comments of the first reviewer. I don't know how to deal with this rejection right now because I have my PhD defense next week. I feel so disappointed because the paper is the main contribution of my thesis, although it does not matter whether it should be published or not before the defense. I am afraid that they uploaded my paper to the LLM and now the original idea will be distributed to other people.

I am disappointed because the reviewers didn't even bother to read the paper and directly pasted the comments from an AI. Also, it is a big journal in my field. It is beyond frustrating at this point. When I submitted this paper, I was immediately reached out by the auditor to replace the abstract and highlights to the ones they suggested (those were also AI generated ) then I asked my supervisor and they suggested I should do what the editor is asking me to do. I feel like that AI generated abstract created high expectations of the paper while the original abstract was softly worded to show the content of the paper. I should have not ignored this red flag, but this is the first time I was submitting to an open access journal and I thought this must be the way. We didn't pay anything since our university had an agreement with the journal. Also, the comments are very rude, there is nothing constructive about them. After reading them, I have lost all my confidence in my defense. Just last night I was practicing the general PhD viva questions and saying that I was the most proud of this contribution. I don't know how I should deal with this now, and focus on my PhD defense.

Sorry, It may sound like I am whining too much about the rejection but I just feel it's very unfair.

I received a rejection decision on my manuscript today. It's not the first time my paper has been rejected. The other two rejections I received were really helpful and allowed me to understand how the papers can be improved. We followed the comments and the papers later got accepted to those same journals when we submitted them again as a new contribution. However, this time I received the comments from the reviewers which are straightaway AI generated. I can't prove it though but I feel very disappointed. The first reviewer has given 13 comments and all of them are just criticizing the paper. They have not referred to any sections, tables or figures . They have not evaluated a paper section by section instead all the comments are so difficult to understand because of added modifiers. It seems like they just uploaded the paper to an LLM and copied the points.

Before whenever I received comments from reviewers they would have equally good and bad feedback. This time all the comments are just very long sentences with modifiers and without actual evaluation on how paper can be improved. The second reviewer has paraphrased the comments of the first reviewer. I don't know how to deal with this rejection right now because I have my PhD defense next week. I feel so disappointed because the paper is the main contribution of my thesis, although it does not matter whether it should be published or not before the defense. I am afraid that they uploaded my paper to the LLM and now the original idea will be distributed to other people.

I am disappointed because the reviewers didn't even bother to read the paper and directly pasted the comments from an AI. Also, it is a big journal in my field. It is beyond frustrating at this point. When I submitted this paper, I was immediately reached out by the auditor to replace the abstract and highlights to the ones they suggested (those were also AI generated ) then I asked my supervisor and they suggested I should do what the editor is asking me to do. I feel like that AI generated abstract created high expectations of the paper while the original abstract was softly worded to show the content of the paper. I should have not ignored this red flag, but this is the first time I was submitting to an open access journal and I thought this must be the way. We didn't pay anything since our university had an agreement with the journal. Also, the comments are very rude, there is nothing constructive about them. After reading them, I have lost all my confidence in my defense. Just last night I was practicing the general PhD viva questions and saying that I was the most proud of this contribution. I don't know how I should deal with this now, and focus on my PhD defense.

Sorry, It may sound like I am whining too much about the rejection but I just feel it's very unfair.

I received a rejection decision on my manuscript today. It's not the first time my paper has been rejected. The other two rejections I received were really helpful and allowed me to understand how the paper can be improved. However, this time I received the comments from the reviewers which are straightaway AI generated. I can't prove it though but I feel very disappointed. The first reviewer has given 13 comments and all of them are just criticizing one point in the paper. They have not evaluated a paper section by section instead all the comments are so difficult to understand because of added modifiers.

Before whenever I received comments from reviewers they would have equally good and bad feedback. This time all the comments are just very long sentences with modifiers and without actual evaluation on how paper can be improved. The second reviewer has paraphrased the comments of the first reviewer. I don't know how to deal with this rejection right now because I have my PhD defense next week. I feel so disappointed because the paper is the main contribution of my thesis, although it does not matter whether it should be published or not before the defense.

I am disappointed because the reviewers didn't even bother to read the paper and directly pasted the comments from an AI. Also, it is a big journal in my field. It is beyond frustrating at this point.

I woke up in the night to use the toilet and made the mistake of checking my phone. I got an email from the journal about the decision of my paper. It is the main contribution of my thesis. Although it does not matter if it gets published or not before the defense, but I feel very disappointed in myself. Just last night I was practicing the general viva questions where I was saying that I am most proud of this contribution.

It was not the best paper I agree, but the timing of the decision is really bad. Also, the comments were all about the negative things of the paper which I already put in the limitations section. I have had 2 rejections before too, but the comments would always start from something positive about the paper or at least one good thing would be mentioned. This time however it is all negative. It must be a terrible paper then I guess. I should not take it personally. After reading the comments 3 times I feel like they have not provided any suggestions to improve. I don't understand what should I do now.

I don't feel confident enough to defend my thesis. I was going to buy an outfit tomorrow for my defense but I don't think I will be going anymore. My defense is online anyway.

PS: What pisses me off is that the comments are straight away AI generated. They do not help us to understand where the paper can be improved. They highlighted very abstract points. They didn't focus on any good things about the paper. The comments are all AI generated. That is really frustrating.

I am an Indian living in France, I ran out of ideas to prepare something quick tonight. Not getting good quality vegetables to prepare indian style recipes these days. I am thinking about preparing something western with an Indian twist. Please share your dinner recipe ideas. Would love to try them. Thanks