u/Mindless_Guava_3823

As someone who works in the pet industry. And loves dogs and all pets. I’m starting to realize that dogs should not be so accessible to the public. 95% of the population is completely clueless on how to properly care for them, or handle them. Not to mention the actual costs associated with pet ownership, that the average person can’t afford, which causes them to become neglected and a nuisance to the public or even their owners. I don’t feel as strongly about cats or other pets, although they need to have restrictions as well.

I know sw isn’t a get rich quick scheme, but Has anyone had the funds to pay for a house in cash, or had someone buy them a house. Just curious, I’m really reaching for this goal and saving until I have at least 100k cash

I rent from a private landlord who only accepts cash. She’s elderly and I assume she isn’t up to date with electronic payments. But she won’t take check either. My problem with this is honestly the inconvenience. I have to walk the cash over to her house and then feel obligated to chat with her for 30-45 minutes. I’m grateful for cheaper rent and she’s a kind person but I seriously don’t have time. I work 60+ hour weeks and am often home after dark and gone by 6-7am in the morning. On my off days I’m just so busy with chores and resting. On top of that there is a lot of maintenance to be done on the place that hasn’t been fixed. Today is the 3rd and I know I need to go pay it but I’m so exhausted and just don’t want to keep dealing with this. I’m actually looking into moving out in the next month or two to somewhere that I can at least drop off a check quickly and go on my way. I know I sound dramatic but am I wrong for feeling this way.

Tomorrow will be 7 days since I had a MA. I found out I was pregnant at 5 weeks. I was excited but so scared. I’ve always wanted to be a mother. My partner and I have been together 6 years, not actively trying to get pregnant, but not preventing it either. Deep down I wanted a child more than anything. I wanted to care for a soul that chose me as their mother. I could feel their presence before I even took the test. When I saw the 2 lines on multiple tests I got cold sweats and was hyperventilating. I couldn’t believe my wish had come true.

I told my partner immediately and he was terrified. Not exactly the reaction I wanted. he brought up a lot of points that made me realize we weren’t prepared for this at all. And it’s true, I’m not. I live in a small old apartment. My car is old and who knows how long it will last. I’m just starting my career and still have a couple years before I start bringing in a high income, and Same with my partner. We could technically afford the essentials like a stroller crib diapers etc. but everything else that goes into creating a beautiful life for a child I just can’t provide right now, can’t guarantee what position I will be in 5 years from now.

After days of trying to figure out how to make it work and reaching a dead end in every scenario, We decided an abortion would be the more responsible thing to do. Even though I wanted a child so bad, and my partner expressed he did as well once his initial shock wore off.

We’re both really sad but I think I’m taking it a lot harder just because it’s always been a dream of mine and it was real for a brief moment. The ultrasound showed the fetus, looks like a pea , not really anything to make out. But the fact that I was instantly connected to what felt like another soul is what is so crushing to me.

At 6 weeks I was in the hospital and diagnosed with Hyperemisis Gravidorium, it was awful awful awful. I felt like I was going to die. Which further confirmed my decision on abortion. I had to miss 5 days of work for that and was put on anti nausea medications, I could barely eat and work was really hard to get through without telling anyone what was going on. I told them it was a stomach bug.

Leading up to the appointment I was terrified of the pain. And terrified to lose my dream. But still felt it was the right decision.

The appointment lasted an hour and a half, I went to a clinic and there were quite a bit of people, I had to keep going in an out of the lobby because they split each part of the appointment into a different segment about 15 minutes apart. I really didn’t like it and just wanted to get it over with. It felt very cold and clinical, no real counseling or support from medical staff. Anyways, for the medical portion I took mifepristone in the office around 1:30pm and was sent home with 4 misoprostol,zofran, and 800mg ibuprofen. I had a heating pad, bubble bath, and maxi pads ready to go. I was so scared for what I might feel so I took the misoprostol before bed, along with ibuprofen a warm bath and heating pad to go to sleep. I felt cramping about 4 hours later at 12-1am. It wasn’t pleasant but nothing worse than a really bad period cycle. I passed a pretty big clot the next morning around 9am which I assume was the fetal tissue. I was really freaked out at the sight and had to lay down. After that the cramping lightened up and continued for a while but very light and manageable with ibuprofen.

My morning sickness and nausea went away immediately. And at that point I think the grief hit a little bit. I was horribly sick but almost wanted it to come back in a way. I’ve been bleeding for a week now, small tissue passes sometimes. Today I feel an emptiness in my soul that is painful. I have my follow up appointment next week, but I can feel the presence is already gone. I’m so sad. But relieved at the same time. And also guilty, I feel like a horrible human and I fear karma will haunt me for this decision.

Sorry this is extremely long and drawn out, I just feel so alone, I haven’t shared this with anyone but my partner and the people at the clinic.

I have been a groomer for 2 years now and I know I’m still very new and have a lot to learn! I absolutely love my job. Even on days when every dog is thrashing around and pulling away, or explosive diarreah in the kennel. I can’t imagine doing anything else but working for animals .

But sometimes these clients really break me down and make me question if this is the right career for me. A lot of the clientele I work with is elderly and retired people. They are entitled, rude, and extremely demanding while never seeming to be satisfied. Of course I have a bunch of of clients that are great, but the bad ones seem to outweigh the good.

When I started grooming I was taking on a lot of clients from a previous groomer in the salon that was liked by many of them. I got the vibe that they just needed someone to groom their dog and don’t really prefer me (but keep coming back) I’ve had to fire a few clients for screaming at me during check in or over the phone. It seems to be never ending. Even people who aren’t regulars to the salon already calling with attitude just to book the appointment. The other week I had to send a very elderly dog home because he was not doing well for this groom and I was actually really worried about him. The lady was pissed and said I just don’t want to do my job (lady…he’s DYING)

I guess I’m just wondering if this is a common experience or if I should maybe try moving locations with a different clientele