u/MoaningLisaSimpson

Yesterday, I was having a day... Not bad but extremely busy and frustrating. I stopped for gas at the Shell on 41st and I didn't have my scene card. You scanned your scene card and gave me a Snickers bar.

I thanked you at the time, but at 11 pm when I still hasn't eaten lunch or supper I found the snickers in my bag. It was awesome.

I appreciate you and hope you have a wonderful weekend.

I (56 F) raised my son (22) as mainly a single parent. My alcoholic ex husband left a few days before my son was 6 months old. I had a live-in partner for a while but he was the equivalent of a "weekend fun Dad". It's been jist Sonny boy and me since he was fourteen.

So my son finished college last week. He starts a job as an apprentice in his field, with his preferred employer, in two weeks. Yesterday, I helped him move to a suburb about an hour away, close to his new job.

I'm proud, sad, lost and excited all at once. I don't really have friends in the same boat... Either they are partnered, they are child free, or still are in the thick of it.

So... Pointers? Today I am organizing my house, that looks like a tornado went through. I put on "Glass Houses" , by Billy Joel, which was the first album I bought myself with my own birthday money. I've got sourdough started. I'm planning a road trip at the end of the summer.

I'm looking for my crew who can relate.

Hi all. I used to work in North Van so I always got my car fixed there, but now I need an in-city mechanic.

I have a 2016 Honda CRV with about 120L km on it. I was in a few small accidents last year with bumping into stationary objects and hitting the curb ( I had vusion issue that is resolved) and then took my car off the road. I'm better and ready to drive again. The brakes were re done in 2024 the battery was new last year.

I know my car for sure needs an alignment and new tires, plus some body work to make it drivable, but also more body work to make it "pretty". (That can wait. )

Right now I can't drive it at all, one tire is completely blown and it has sat for a year, so I will have to get it towed wherever I send it.

Ideally I'd like to go to a place that "does it all" but there is also a reason places specialize. You might not want to buy your tomatoes from the butcher shop, and so forth. I'd get estimates if my car was insured and drivable but since it isn't I felt kind of stuck.

Any recommendations for good honest mechanics in sunset/south Vancouver area? Does anyone have suggestions? I don't have any car enthusiasts in my circle, and I just don't know where to start.

Or considering the age of the vehicle, should I cut my losses, sell this and consider just getting a reliable used car? I'm not driving for work anymore this will mostly be used for trips to the island twice a month and weekend visits to Costco, the suburbs and local day trips?

The "cheerful stupids" is a term I coined for a certain prodome /during migraine symptom. Sometimes it accompanies my silent migraines, sometimes with a "typical one". I really need to track this better... Usually I get panic attack type anxiety/flurry of activity as an aura, but sometimes I'm just ... Stupid.

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Once I got lost in a botanical garden, when I could see the parking lot, theain building and the main street. I just couldn't figure out how to get to any exit. I saw a map and couldn't understand it at all. "You are here" ? Ha ha no, I'm not on a map, I'm a live person, in the Gardens...

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Put on shoes and tie the laces? Silly, that's more than lil ole me can manage!

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This morning it was about the grease and salt cure. At three in the morning.

Oooh I have a migraine. Or I'm going to. I should probably eat. Maybe McDo? Okay... (I moved a year and a half ago and have never tried to get to McD's from this place) There's two nearby-ish...

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Let's see... It's early I guess Egg McMuffins and hashbrowns... that One is probably closer, down hill but maybe in a more sketchy area to walk at this hour. The other is a bit further, vaugely uphill, probably safer, but is it really?

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There's other ones that will be easier to get to once transit starts...

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Long periods of happily listing all my options. Maybe... Maybe not McDonalds...maybe A&W.

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Oooh, a and w, I can go there... Wait when does it open? I don't know...but I could walk to the corner and get a coffee at Tom Hortons while I wait.

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Decide to do that...then realise they also serve hash browns and great breakfast sandwiches...

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Got a breakfast, copious amounts of coffee inside me and everything made much more sense and duh, I could have done this all along!

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I am a 56 year old woman, single, and about to be an empty nester at 56. I rent. (I live in a high cost of living area and...well life has handed me lemons over the years)

I have not lived alone since y2. K and was looking forward to it but I can't afford where I am living as it is. My adult son finishes college in two weeks and is moving out at the end of the month to start his job in a suburb about an hour away. Fortunately, a friend, Mike, (M48) has expressed interest in moving in. I've known him for seven years and we've been in regular but intermittent contact for the last three. However, it's been almost thirty years since I lived with someone who is neither a partner nor child.

Mike and I are having a chat this weekend regarding policies, boundaries, etc. I know we are on the same page about having people over, quiet hours, etc since we are both early sleepers and early risers. There will be discussions about the kitchen, bathroom schedules, and chores.

What else do we need to address? I want to be smart. Splitting rent is great but not at the expense of my sanity and haven from the world.

TLDR I haven't had a roommate other than a partner or my child in thirty years. What else do we need to talk about before he moves in?

Mini Update: Thank you to all who responded. Some very good points have been raised, I've looked at a few roommate agreements onlinem. I've added a few items to the list of things Mike and I need to discuss.

A few of you have never had a non sexual relationship with the opposite sex and it shows. I wonder if women are as safe with you as they might think. I think people who automatically assume the worst about people are telling on them selves

There are a lot of questions about why I want to remain here. I'm not about to go into details about my financial situation but I have been living paycheck to paycheck for the last year and a half. It was worth it to provide a stable environment for my son so he ccould graduate from college debt free. Now it's my turn to actually enjoy my life a bit more. I also want to finish a post graduate certificate I started.

Also I was in my 20s once too. My son may want to/need to come home in the next few years. If I'd just got settled into a tiny place and he had a crisis where he needed me that would be less than ideal. I Mike knows and agrees my kid's ability to move in is non negotiable.

Be well. Thank you to all who have responded to my post.

The announcement on the Queen of Oak Bay right now. I have never heard them say that. Is this new? My parents live on the island. For a while I was over there weekly.

Is this an updated speil? Did the announcer get bombarded with questions?

EDIT. Later I saw there were 3 or 4 trainees in the run, being shown everything. I guess they were running everything "by the book" today. Shipshape and Bristol fashion.