u/Moiyub

think about it, we use numbers to measure everything in the world - speed of light, mass of proton, what does the number in your bank account measure? your power, agency, free will, ability, freedom, opportunity, control, all the things we naturally crave. but we cant have these stats maxed out like the creative force of the universe that we are literally built from does. the outside world can do anything it wants. but that must be boring thats why it created us to get a taste of powerlessness. we are a vacation from the mundanity of absolute unbounded creative energy. but since were made of the fabric of reality there is still some creative energy and power in us, thats what people with a lot of money are. so the lower the number of money you have, the more you are fulfilling your purpose that the cosmic designer made- which was to feel limitation. jk im behind on my credit card payments and coping.

I’m going crazy here. I am not exaggerating when I say there is a loud sniff, cough, or sneeze at least once every 5 seconds nonstop all day every day for about three months now. She says it’s allergies but refuses to take allergy meds, even though she says they work. She took them once and it was the last quiet day I can remember. She says she doesn’t want to take the allergy meds because she thinks it makes her weak. Not physically or mentally weak but weak in a moral or self worth sense. We tried to convince her taking allergy meds does not make you weak and she still doesn’t take them. She said they do not have any negative side effects. Other than damaging her pride?

I try to use headphones but my job requires concentration and I can’t always listen to something and maintain focus. She comes in later than me and leaves earlier than me. I have started turning the box fan on full blast as soon as she comes in and turning it off as soon as she leaves. People make comments about how loud the fan is like my boss said “open a window it’s nice out” and I say “it’s not for temperature it’s for noise suppression”. We have zoom calls and the fan noise makes it harder but it still doesn’t drown out the constant sniffs and coughs.

I make a comment about the fact I am going insane from the noises every day. “Still got the sniffles huh?” “How was your doctor appointment? Did they give you a solution to the allergies?” “Did you try any allergy meds again yet?”

I bought her some allergy medicine thats more herbal remedy and Chinese traditional medicine (andrographis). She said thank you and I said “it’s for me. I’ll be happy if it works.” She took it in the morning, loudly sniffed and coughed all day like normal then said it worked and she felt better at the end of the day. I said “didnt sound like it.” I cannot be more obvious that I need this to stop but she doesn’t care or is somehow oblivious despite my constantly bringing it up and all my actions that show I am losing my mind over the constant sniffing and coughing all day every day for months now.

I guess I’m going to have to talk to my boss about moving my desk to another room but I don’t think there is anywhere I can move to. What do I do in this situation? We obviously can’t make her take medicine against her will and obviously can’t politely ask her to stop sniffing and coughing every few seconds all day every day for months