u/Morphisist

This is the first time i have been roommates with a friend. I moved in with a friend i have known for about 6 years, and at first things were going great. He asked if his girlfriend could become part of the lease and I said that was fine. Before we moved into an apartment, he and I use to talk alot, and laugh at each others jokes all the time and do lots of fun things together, but now 7 months later we dont talk much, and he spends time with his girlfriend most of the time, which is understandable. However, I notice he gets aggitated at me at times, and then he will come back later and act like hes not annoyed or anything and sometimes we do joke, but not as much as we use to. He now refers to me as his roommate whenever he is introducing me to anyone, and has not called me friend hardly ever, but just roommate, i dont know if this a bad sign or if im overthinking it. A positive sign is whenever i ask him to hang out, he generally tries to come up with an opening in his schedule and we have gone to do a few things here and there.

I was joking with him earlier today about something and he was laughing, but then he said, "your so weird, what are you going to do when you get a new roommate, how will you make them tolerate your weirdness?"

Im trying to work on letting things that are out of my control, (rude comments from others or opinions not affect me) and focus on what i can control, my reaction and whether i dwell on it, but i didnt know if I'm overthinking this situation or not. Ive been working on brushing off his comment about me being really weird etc, but its been sticking for a few hours. I know there are other instances where he has gotten annoyed, but heres the basic gist of what ive noticed.

Any insight would be helpful

Like if you have people come up to you and say rude things, or talk really bad about you behind your back or avoid you, how much does that affect you?

I am 21 years old and I recently moved out from my narcissistic and very controlling mother and my enabling dad. I know there are verses in the Bible that talk about delivering yourself from the fowler or staying away from harmful people. I know God loves peace and respect and doesn't love control over another person as well. I also know I am an adult and that I can make my own decisions. It's just my parents were raising me to be dependent on my mother and they were trying to control me all day long with awful terrible chores at age 20. And when I put up my first boundary, they started screaming and got into a fight about it. They made it seem when I was living there that feeling joy was wrong and that I should do whatever I'm told all day long. And I was so enmeshed I thought it was normal and it was so awful but they made it seem justified. And my controlling mother has a big god complex where she acts like she's more superior and is to be obeyed. Ever since I moved out and got a job, I can breathe and feel peace, joy, am doing well and am healing every day after being stuck in that awful terrible situation for about 7 years. Is God against someone leaving harmful dynamics (with parents who say control or harsh treatment is normal and justified) to pursue a happier lifestyle and form my own opinions and ideas and enjoy life? Could you provide Bible verses for your answers? Thank you

Ive been playing with a guy for several years and all our interactions were always fun and we enjoyed talking to each other and he sometimes said I was the only person he ever played with, and there was no hint from him that he disliked our interactions or that i ever said anything upsetting, and through the years we would do discord calls while we played and everything seemed genuine and we always enjoyed our gameplay and we were both good at the game. But then recently I hadn't seen him playing any games the last week or so, so I checked my Friend list and messages to him and it said he is no longer my Steam friend, and I am not able to add him as a friend or send any messages through Steam because it said all communication has been blocked with him. Also he's no longer my friend on Discord and I cant send him any messages through there anymore and cant add him as friend through there either. Has something like this ever happened to you? I honestly dont think I did anything wrong, and I cant think of any reason why he would have blocked me out the blues like that because he didnt sound upset or anything his last interaction with me was just the same as all the others, fun energetic talkative etc, because it was all going so well and it doesnt make any sense why he would do that, and as you can imagine im feeling a bit upset over it.. If it was any other Steam friend that I didnt really play with much, it probably would not bother me, but this guy was the main person I always played with.

How are you able to move past the feeling of leaving an abusive or controlling environment and starting your life knowing that instead of normal adolescent years where others got to develop normally got to do normal teenage things and had a life that instead you got put into an abusive role, or were controlled hard and never had fun or were struggling or depressed. And then you move away and start your own life and find life is actually peaceful and realize it never had to be that hard?