Checked my portal today to see this was added under my health conditions. Currently rated 80% (PTSD,IBS,SHIN SPLINTS-since Oct 2025). and was station at MCAS Miramar. my question is does this provide a path to any future claims?. should i be doing anything about it?. I was denied for tinnitus though i worked directly on the flight line most days. any info helps.
So some Context I have been with this girl for 4 years in August. We have had a few ruff patches but for the most part tried to work through whatever we faced because we had the same goal in mind (family marriage). At one point we were engaged but since November 2025 that was put on hold. I have been asking her What are her plans for graduation and how excited i know she was and i was to support her milestone (masters degree all online). Mind you I'm up with her at 12AM while she's asking if x is a good answer or if she should put Y. totally invested because i love her. She told me flat out "its to far I'm not traveling across the country (Midwest) to graduate". i would ask periodically to see if she would change her mind because i know that's a huge achievement and i wanted her to celebrate it. she kept telling me no so i left it alone.
Fast forward to Mid - May. I found out she not only lied about not wanting to go to graduation(may 2027), but planned to go overnight( a few days) with another teacher who is openly lesbian ( my GF was in a relationship with a woman for 5 yrs). She never told this woman she was dating me and when i confronted her about it she told me "it's cause you ruin everything" she says i always take away from her big moments ( moments i have made sure to be there for every time) and that i would ruin her graduation. She says she never spoke about the friend because i am to controlling and she should be able to have friends of all walks ( i totally agree but given the history it didn't feel right) Before this we were on and off (around the time we moved out to live separately December 2025) but it remand consistent we were not sleeping with, entertaining, or talking to anyone else. I immediately cut her off and went no contact because i was destroyed. she apologized and i wouldn't respond finally (late May) i gave in and she came over.
Long story short since the first week in June she has been over my house super clingy, wanting to go on a trip, wanting to be under me 24/7, constantly asking me if i am ok, wanting to have sex every other night (intimacy was something we struggled with - she claimed low libido/ I always thought it was cause she was still truly attracted to women). she never brought up the the teacher "friend" or graduation since coming back over and I am at the point of not wanting an explanation or closure, I just want her gone. The situation is on my mind 24/7 and i absolutely don't see a future with her. but i don't want to hurt her feelings because it seems she's already emotionally volatile (mom has cancer - doesn't want to move back in with parents). How do i ask her to leave without destroying her emotionally?.
TLDR: My Girlfriend who used to be a lesbian herself, invited her lesbian friend to her college graduation overnight after telling me she wasn't going.
So some Context I have been with this girl for 4 years in August. We have had a few ruff patches but for the most part tried to work through whatever we faced because we had the same goal in mind (family marriage). At one point we were engaged but since November 2025 that was put on hold. I have been asking her What are her plans for graduation and how excited i know she was and i was to support her milestone (masters degree all online). Mind you I'm up with her at 12AM while she's asking if x is a good answer or if she should put Y. totally invested because i love her. She told me flat out "its to far I'm not traveling across the country (Midwest) to graduate". i would ask periodically to see if she would change her mind because i know that's a huge achievement and i wanted her to celebrate it. she kept telling me no so i left it alone.
Fast forward to Mid - May. I found out she not only lied about not wanting to go to graduation (May 2027), but planned to go overnight( a few days) with another teacher who is openly lesbian ( my GF was in a relationship with a woman for 5 yrs). She never told this woman she was dating me and the texts read like they were in a "talking phase". When i confronted her about it she told me "it's cause you ruin everything" she says i always take away from her big moments ( moments i have made sure to be there for every time) and that i would ruin her graduation. She says she never spoke about the friend because i am to controlling and she should be able to have friends of all walks & she confided to this woman about our relationship. ( i totally agree but given the history it didn't feel right). She expressed she is not attracted to women anymore.... Before this we were on and off (around the time we moved out to live separately December 2025) but it remained consistent we were not sleeping with, entertaining, or talking to anyone else. I immediately cut her off and went no contact because i was destroyed. she apologized and i wouldn't respond. until finally (late May) i gave in and she came over.
Long story short since the first week in June she has been over my house super clingy, wanting to go on a trip, wanting to be under me 24/7, constantly asking me if i am ok, wanting to have sex every other night (intimacy was something we struggled with - she claimed low libido/ I always thought it was cause she was still truly attracted to women). she never brought up the the teacher "friend" or graduation since coming back over and I am at the point of not wanting an explanation or closure, I just want her gone. The situation is on my mind 24/7 and i absolutely don't see a future with her. but i don't want to hurt her feelings because it seems she's already emotionally volatile (mom has cancer - doesn't want to move back in with parents). How do i ask her to leave without destroying her emotionally?.
TLDR: My Girlfriend who used to be a lesbian herself, invited her lesbian friend to her college graduation overnight after telling me she wasn't going.