u/Naive-Cash-3385

so when i have been on the Kylee’s hormonal IUD since i was 15. I am on my second one now (i am now 23.) ny first experience was great, i had light periods and aside from that not really any side affects. was aware of. around a couple years ago i got my second Kyleena IUD inserted. Since then i have had cysts appear on my face right before im about to start my period. they usually have been on my chin but are now starting to appear a little bit higher near my lower cheek. it seems like i am getting more than i was compared to the previous couple years as well. if i leave the cysts alone they go away within a few days typically, but unfortunately sometimes i do mess with them and then i am left with an awful lump for sometimes weeks. After reading some posts i realized hair loss is a side effect as well, and while though u don’t feel like my hair is thin, i am shocked it is not because i feel so much falls out when i shower. since i got on the second one i as well have gained around 15/20 pounds going from 105 to 125 lbs, this im unsure if its associated because it was always hard for me to eat and gain weight and now i have no issue with it. How do i know if these issues are caused by my IUD? i can’t tell if this is just my body changing with age or if it’s my IUD.
Would switching to a copper IUD help stop the acne or did it for anybody else? i feel like it’s really depleted my confidence. i always had pretty skin and now im constantly breaking out. when one goes away another shows up. does anyone have recommendations to help treat the cysts?

i am 23 right now now, my bf and i have been together for 5 years. What is the best age to have children? of course when we are financially and mentally ready, but assuming we are at any age, what would be the best time?

this is a rant/vent post which idk if it’s allowed but i’m gonna anyways. when i was 18 i had a roommate who an OF star pretty much. she told me if i made one i would make stupid money. i’m very impressionable so i did, and i did make stupid amounts of money. i do not blame her for telling me about it or saying those things to me or blame her for me making the choice to do it AT ALL. i am my own person at the end of the day. and i did it, stupid too. i didn’t hide my name, i did it on my public accounts. i did it so i would get the most traction and money. i was not thinking about the future. to say the least there’s hundreds of photos of me out there now. if you do a google search you could find them. i stopped OF maybe about a year into it or a little less. i started getting threats, i started having panic attacks, i couldn’t sleep at night knowing what i’ve done, that everyone can see me, have access to me in a way. i stopped wanting to go out, out of fear people would see and “recognize” me. after i quit the feelings didn’t go away, because the things you put out, don’t just go away obviously. even though i was “done” it was still out there, it is still out there. for years i dealt with the anxiety, dirty feeling, depression, and just guilt. i felt nobody will ever truly love me or understand that’s a sort of my past i wish never happened.
but this is why i have started to be against SW so much. i experienced it. and maybe im biased because of my experience, maybe other girls don’t feel that. but i feel like nobody would choose that route if it weren’t for the money. i wish young girls, like me, did not have access to post on those sites or that world. at 18 your frontal lobe isn’t even developed, you can’t even drink alcohol or smoke. but you can sell your body online? its disgusting. I will never have a big career because i would never pass a background check for any serious job. i would love to be a teacher for kids, but that obviously won’t be happening lol. and i understand that, no kid should be able to look up their teacher and find that. I am at a place now (5 years later) where i have accepted what happened. it still makes me feel gross when i think about it, but i don’t think about it constantly. i don’t hide inside, i don’t lose sleep over it at night, i am not depressed over it anymore. i wish i could tell every young girl to not do it. the money is never worth what it does to your mental.