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Ok so I moved in this place in July, me and my roomate get along just fine and the place is ok.

She has a boyfriend who she brings over a lot which i didn’t mind at first but i’m starting to get annoyed recently and i don’t know if im getting myself worked up or if they’re kinda being annoying.

So first things first i had a cup on the counter where i kept my toothbrush and my toothpaste, about two weeks after he started coming he felt it was ok to put his toothbrush in with mine? So i left it on the counter and put my cup in the cabinet.
He’s used our shower on more occasions than one which is not an issue but he takes so fckng long in there and it’s the evening when im also getting home from work and waiting to get in.

Obviously I know what’s going to happen when you’re in the room, but i can hear the ass clapping WITH MY DOOR SHUT every single time he comes over and my most recent last straw was last Saturday which is also my only day off during the week from working two jobs so i usually stay home and sleep.

I was on the phone all morning and it was going on for far too long and it was really loud so i opened my door and these people ARE ON THE LIVING ROOM COUCH HAVING SEX! I don’t think they knew i was home and ive not brought it up since then with my roomate because i don’t want to make her feel like she has to walk on eggshells if she wants him to come over.

he came back again last night and now he is severely getting on my nerves, though
i forgot to mention he also slams the bedroom and bathroom door every single time he comes in or out like genuinely he just all around annoys me for his lack of consideration.
I’m starting to wonder at this point if im working myself up 😂 like i just want him out of my fckng house or i feel like im going to lose it.
Is this not weird behavior on both parts or maybe im trippin? It’s not like our space is that big either like our rooms are right across from eachother and the living room

i 26F relocated in the beginning of the year to a new state where i have a couple friends but no family. i’ve been doing seasonal work so its not anything new to me but I did have a really hard time adjusting and up until last month was teeter tottering on the idea of just going back home. I already don’t have the greatest mental health and i just lost my grandma last year which has always been my biggest fear, so moving was my way of trying to get back on track. It’s been really hard being away from my family and to top it off my childhood dog died in May so it’s just been a really rough 12 months. I met a boy on valentines day and we slept together, Everything was going really well for a minute we would always talk on the phone he would always come see me, we got along really well and we always made eachother laugh and really pushed eachother to grow and do better. he took me out on my birthday all day because i was going to be alone. Everything was going really well until i found out he was still talk to his ex. he let me see the messages and it was nothing crazy but i just didn’t like the fact that they talked period so that was our first argument. One day we went out to a bar and he started flirting with the bartender right in front of me and nothing was the same after that. Since then it’s been constant arguing we stopped talking and stopped hanging out as much, he stopped calling me when he was drunk or when he was out. There’s so much more that happened over these past 6 months and it’s just gotten really messy. my final straw was last night when i drunk called him and asked him to pick me up, and then he didn’t show up. I went into a frenzy and called him probably 20 times and then i sent a string of messages basically saying how much i hate him and he’s a fucking piece of shit and he doesn’t care about me and all this stuff. This isn’t the first time i’ve done this and sometimes i wonder if im borderline being emotionally abusive. I even went so far as to tell my sister off because she didn’t pick up phone mind you it was like 2am where she lives. It’s not that i do these things unprovoked there has always been a reason that ive blown up towards this boy, but i know the stuff i say is very hurtful and regardless if someone does something or not its not ok to say the things i do. i don’t really know what my goal of posting here is, i guess just to get it off my chest. I don’t know if i’ll ever feel better about it though and i think last night will haunt me for a really long time. I was reacting out of pain and i don’t know how to control it anymore. what if this is just who i am?

I 26F have been seeing a 27M for the past 6 months or so. Everything has been ok and there has never been any comments made about my weight, but it was a big topic when we first started talking because we both want to lose the weight that we recently gained the past year. I think for both of us it’s our biggest insecurity and I have always struggled with accepting my size for about 16 years, and after this past year I know it’s also not very healthy. I weigh 220 pounds and i’m only 5’4. I don’t have that great of a diet, i have an eating disorder, and I don’t workout much or do much, all of which he knows and has never judged me for. I was talking to a friend earlier today and he said that yeah this guy does like me but he’s worried what other people will think “because i’m a bigger girl” Now, he’s been seen in public with me many times and has never given me the vibe that he’s embarrassed to be around me when we are with his friends and has also introduced me to them and to other people in his family and it’s very clear that we aren’t just friends. I don’t know what to think because honestly I agree that i’m big, and instead of making comments to me he’s tried to help me get on track to lose weight like i’ve always mentioned i wanted to do. Am i being naive for thinking this way? In my eyes I feel like maybe this is the wake up call I need to really lose the weight.