u/NationalOkra2931

Has anyone been to the summerfest? Is it too crowded in the evenings? I want to go there tomorrow with my child.

Hello,

If someone separated from their spouse in Germany, could you please DM me, I have some questions?

My husband repeatedly failed to address my concerns. Whenever I feel pain or face a challenge etc. His response is:

"No, that didn't happen."

"You're too sensitive."

"You took it the wrong way."

"You're overreacting."

"It was just a joke."

"That's not what I/she/he meant."

"You're imagining things."

Whether his narcissistic mother abusing me, or his friends insulting me, his relatives being disrespectful in his presence - his response has always been that. But what hurts the most is that a stranger harassed me and he still behaved in the same manner. I can understand that he may not be able to stand up to his family and friends. BUT a stranger? And I feel that a lot of anxiety, stress, hypervigilance and pain came from him denying my experience or making me look like a liar or someone who didn't understand or someone having to gather proof to explain.

It took me 10 years to understand what he was doing. Till now I was gathering proof, trying to explain my pain but now I realised that no matter how well I explain, or even if he witnesses the incident itself, his response will always be this. I tried telling him this, that he needs help. I tried telling him that he should see a therapist maybe there are deeper wounds which are making him like this. He got defensive. Instead of listening he started saying things like "you always complain."; "you just find reasons to fight." etc.

This is more than just passivity. His behaviour has made massive impact on my mental, emotional and physical health.

I have come to the conclusion that this relationship cannot work if he doesn't choose therapy and work on himself. And I mean he should want to work on it. But he is still defending himself. He is not even ready to listen.

What did you do if your spouse didn't choose therapy?

Who is eating so much Tofu?! :D

I am vegan and lately I am having trouble finding tofu in supermarkets (Aldi, Lidl, Kaufland, Rewe). The shelves are always empty regardless of time or day. I get it from Alnatura but I hate the taste.

Are you experiencing this too? What other vegan sources of protein do you use instead?

I am not pursuing this by choice because I feel that it's not important. But I have seen Swami Sarvapriyananda participating in these debates time and again. Am I missing something? Do these debates give you any more clarity than the Gita?