u/Necessary_Ad9008

4 women, 4 rejections so far in the past 8 months.

Mind you, it’s never random cold approaches, but rather women that I’ve known for sometime through mutual classes, hobbies, and even including one at the college nightclub.

I’m fat (245lb) but pretty tall (6ft 1), so additional data point here that height doesn’t really matter. I’ve seen shorter guys, both jacked and overweight actually found success at my college. I’m pretty shy around women, but I could hold out lengthy conversations once someone breaks the ice. If you’re wondering how I look, just imagine a mid 5 or 6/10 East Asian 24 yo dude.

I haven’t given up, but now I do understand why some people have given up. It’s really exhausting to get rejected constantly.

I understand that attraction is not given and I have no right to demand it. I merely express my exhaustion and sadness from getting constantly rejected.

Can someone pat me in the back virtually here? :)

Today was the second time I’ve ever been hit by a girl. I’m a college student and I also do Uber as a job, usually in night where my fellow students are usually out for clubs or dinner.

I haven’t given my number or snap to any drunk or possibly drunk women, and I don’t think it’s proper for me to do so. Even today, when the girl was really hitting on me (saying I’m her type, asking whether I’m single, and “could I have your number?”), I still said no I’m sorry, usually using “I’m working Uber so I can’t share personal contact” excuse

So far I’ve never been hit by any girls on classes, gym, or tennis court.

Idk if anything’s is wrong with me that makes only drunk gals hitting on me but not the sober ones.

Question : Why is that happening and What’s wrong with me and what should I do to improve my desirability amongst the sober ones?

Allowing women to initiate was Bumble’s main gimmick and made them different to other dating apps, but apparently they had to ditch it. Thoughts?

I’m so bored rn so let’s discuss this. People & Pundits have been saying that Strasbourg is a downgrade for Reyna, but upon checking, apparently Strasbourg have consistently qualified to Europa League / Conference League, while Gladbach had always finished in the bottom half of Bundesliga closer to relegation than to Europe.

I do agree that Ligue 1 is worse in overall quality compared to Bundesliga, however the difference between both leagues aren’t that significant as both are inherently farmer leagues for PSG & Bayern Munich.

Wouldn’t Reyna’s transfer actually provide him with an opportunity to get back to European tourney? What’s your thoughts?

Might delete this later once I finish coping because I’m very ashamed of it, but genuinely TIFU by asking his relative out.

He has said do not try it before, and I was not thinking with my brain.

I realize I f-up, and it’s 100% my fault.

Now I feel ashamed for breaking a bro code and a genuinely good friendship with a good friend all because I acted stupidly without thinking.

The chapter is just closed, he gave a decent parting advice, told me where I did wrong but eventually said the friendship isn’t going to work out anymore.

TLDR, I crossed a boundary, and he’s my first friend I made in college, and although I made some new friends later, I considered him to be my best. Which doubles the f-up I’ve done. What’s even worse is that he warned me in the past and I chose to ignore it.

I am in the US, and I’ve been struggling to find a place to buy an official (replica / players issue) CPFC jersey here.

Preferably a personalized jersey with Chris Richards’ name on it, but atp I’d be contend with a plain unpersonalized jersey.

EDIT : Thank you for the answers.

England :
- Crystal Palace (+UEFA Europa League) : Chris Richards
- AFC Bournemouth (+UEL) : Tyler Adams
- Fulham : Antonee Robinson
- Leeds United : Brenden Aaronson
- Coventry City : Haji Wright
- Chelsea FC : Gaga Slonina (in bench, rarely plays)

Spain :
- Atletico Madrid (+UEFA Champions League): Johnny Cardoso
- Villareal (+UCL) : Alex Freeman

France :
- AS Monaco : Folarin Balogun
- Marseille : Tim Weah

Italy :
- AC Milan (+UEL) : Christian Pulisic, Yunus Musah
- Juventus (+UCL) : Weston McKennie

Germany :
- Bayer Leverkusen : Malik Tillman
- Borussia Monchengladbach : Gio Reyna, Joe Scally
- Borussia Dortmund : Mathis Albert (US Youth player)

Netherlands :
- PSV Eindhoven : Sergino Dest, Ricardo Pepi

Scotland :
- Celtic (+UCL, Qualifiers) : Cameron Carter-Vickers

USA, Major League Soccer :
- NYCFC : Matt Freese
- New England Revolution : Matt Turner
- Real Salt Lake : Diego Luna
- Seattle Sounders : Christian Roldan

Might be missing some names, so please add it in the comments if you want to.

Freshman student here, idk if it’s just a coincidence, but the majority of students that I’ve befriended so far (in classes, clubs, etc.) are from South Florida. I’ve only met 3 who are from Central Florida and 1 from North Florida.

It’s nothing serious, but would like to know if I’m the only one noticing here or I’m just trippin.

And if my observation is true, then why? Where are the local Orlando students? and Why do South Floridians like to go here.

I’m a college student and working as an Uber Driver on the side, few days ago I picked up a group of girls from my uni, all of us had interesting convos about uni life, classes, moving here (we all happen to be non-locals), and it just so happen that all of us are also freshmen so we got a lot to talk about.

Right when I dropped them off, one of the girls said “Oh btw… you’re cute” in a flirty tone to me, and I was caught off guard. I’ve never had a girl hitting on me in my life and I didn’t know what to do or say, so I just said “OH THANK YOU” instead of flirting with her back or asking for her number. I was interested in her and would def ask for her number if given the chance to re-roll that moment.

I told my friend about the encounter and he made fun of me for fumbling it.

Am I the only guy here who’s rarely gotten hit by a gal and just fumbled any chances we got because we don’t know what to do or say? Any good advices for guys like me? Inputs from girls are also MUCH APPRECIATED!!

To clarify : No, she was not drunk. I’ve been by 2 girls before in my car but because they were drunk, I just ignored them.

And yes, I’m indeed a 24 yo Freshman College Student.

Yesterday’s game was a masterpiece not only for the players, but also for Pochettino. It’s a definitive proof for anyone who remained in doubt whether Poch is significantly better than Gregg Berhatler.

In 2024 Copa America, we were down to 10 men against Panama, a weaker side (at least on paper) than the US; similar strength comparison between US v. Bosnia. Instead of playing confidently and attempting to make play, Berhatler chose bunker ball & yielded control almost completely to Panama, allowing them to choke the US slowly. 2 years have passed and I still remember that painful game.

Pochettino understood the assignment, he made some tweaks (3-5-2 to 4-4-1) and after the first 5 minutes following the Red Card, the US rebounded quickly and found a new way to control the game (albeit without significant possession dominance showed prior to the red card), and didn’t resort to bunker ball.

Yes, GGG didn’t make Weah punch a Panamaian player in the face, but it’s more of the problem that he lacked plan B, or had a totally suck ass Plan B by playing scared against Panama (they’re not Spain or Argentina).
Plan B is important.

Pochettino, he’s a magic you know!

Didn’t expect that I’d say this at my first term here as a Knight, I’ll miss the campus vibe, and more importantly my friends.

I’m proud of myself for finally finding my circle, but we just started to become really close recently and only started to hang out at outside of campus area 2 weeks ago. Today we hung out for hours till 4 am while walking around our beautiful campus :).

I know that we’ll all be back in 3 months, and I’ll still have 4 years remaining but damn… I wish the semester wouldn’t end abruptly on a random Tuesday.

As there are numerous posts on this subreddit about how to make friends, in my personal experience I found success by consistently showing up for a thing that you’re passionate about (in my case it’s a sport), start talking to more people in that particular club / area / circle and although 90% of them wouldn’t be more than mere acquaintances, you’d only need a few of them to click well with you to be part of your inner circle.

It doesn’t have to be sport, it could be anything like art, theaters, cultural/heritage groups, etc. There must be a thing that you’re passionate about. And don’t beat yourself up, you’re not alone in feeling alone; everyone grows in their own pace, some are quicker or slower than others.

Good luck Knights! Have a Great Summer!

Few days ago, I (21M) drove my friend (19F) & her friend (F) to a college bar and told them to text me so I can pick them up and drive them back to their dorms. It was the first time I’ve ever driven for a friend (this is my first year in college), and everything went smoothly.

However, after I picked them up for a trip home at 2am, they requested to be dropped-off at frat house (said they were invited to a after-party at the frat house) instead of their dorms and I did exactly what they requested.

Here’s the thing : I remember they were a little bit drunk & tipsy when I picked them up, and I’m feeling a little bit worried about drunk women being surrounded by dozens of drunk men.

So far, my friend hasn’t said anything about that day other than a thank you and a “could you drive us again in the future?” request, to which I said yes.

I’m thinking of refusing to drive her to another frat house the next time I pick her up in a drunk condition, and instead I will just drive straight to her dorm. Idk if that’s the right thing to do or I’d just be an a-hole if I do that. What’s your opinion on this?

For clarification, this is not a jealousy issue, we’re both platonic friends.

UPDATE : Thank you for your verdicts and inputs! I have decided to talk with her in-person tomorrow, I’ll tell her about my concern (a drunk person making sudden change of plan & etc.). And also, I’m sorry for the delayed responses to your comments, I wrote this during my work break (yes, I work night shifts) and I’ll reply to all of you once I’m done with work.