u/Neither-Lunch2790

I need your help to understand How to handle the situation, help me understand him better, please:

So.. Just discovered my husbands (33y, me 32y, no kids) history, all kind of porn, I’ve confronted him, I’m so angry, nervous, sick, betrayed. I feel lost ..

There were a loooot of sites, red gifs and diff searches for specific things.

About 2-3 months ago I cached him watching and he recognized and said he s sorry, after that we had multiple discussions and he continues to say that I can’t trust him and that it passed x amount of time and I am the only who can decide to trust him.

Back to now: so he comes home, I show him the history and he says he did not access those and it s shocked at me that I can believe he s capable of something like this. He first says that maybe someone has him credentials log on and they accessed, but in between those searches, are his searches that he admitted to and I recognize.

After he checked where he was logged, and he was only logged into his devices, than he says it s a virus, that he searched on ChatGPT, that he did not acces those sites and that he has an extension to Reddit and that there are hundreds of sites and he could not possible access them and somehow tried to convince me about that.

He got mad and angry that how can I believe that and not him. I’m lost… I really want to help him, I read a lot about this and I understand it s shame and it s not easy, I can’t understand how he can be still the angry one and tries to shift the situation.

Please help, can something like this happen? Even if, maybe not all sites are his access but stil a lot. Why would he act like this? What should I do?

One day later: he came and told me he checked his Reddit access: and he saw that the account was accessed from other countries.

Why is it so hard to admit and try to solve it?

I am thinking for asking his, that in order for me to trust him, I need transparency and an accountability app, to be able to trust him again

So.. Just discovered my husbands (33y, me 32y, no kids) history, all kind of porn, I’ve confronted him, I’m so angry, nervous, sick, betrayed. I feel lost ..

There were a loooot of sites, red gifs and diff searches for specific things.

About 2-3 months ago I cached him watching and he recognized and said he s sorry, after that we had multiple discussions and he continues to say that I can trust him and so on.

Back to now: so he comes home, I show him the history and he says he did not access those and it s shocked at me that I can believe he s capable of something like this. He first says that maybe someone has him credentials log on and they accessed, but in between those searches, are his searches that he admitted to and I recognize.

After he checked where he was logged, and he was only logged into his devices, than he says it s a virus, that he searched on ChatGPT, that he did not acces those sites and that he has an extension to Reddit and that there are hundreds of sites and he could not possible access them and somehow tried to convince me about that.

He got mad and angry that how can I believe that and not him. I’m lost… I really want to help him, I read a lot about this and I understand it s shame and it s not easy, I can’t understand how he can be still the angry one and tries to shift the situation.

Please help, can something like this happen? Even if, maybe not all sites are his access but stil a lot. Why would he act like this? What should I do?

So.. Just discovered my husbands history, all kind of porn, I’ve confronted him, I’m so angry, nervous, sick, betrayed. I feel lost ..

There were a loooot of sites, red gifs and diff searches for specific things.

About 2-3 months ago I cached him watching and he recognized and said he s sorry, after that we had multiple discussions and he continues to say that I can trust him and so on.

Back to now: so he comes home, I show him the history and he says he did not access those and it s shocked at me that I can believe he s capable of something like this. He first says that maybe someone has him credentials log on and they accessed, but in between those searches, are his searches that he admitted to and I recognize.

After he checked where he was logged, and he was only logged into his devices, than he says it s a virus, that he searched on ChatGPT, that he did not acces those sites and that he has an extension to Reddit and that there are hundreds of sites and he could not possible access them and somehow tried to convince me about that.

He got mad and angry that how can I believe that and not him. I’m lost… I really want to help him, I read a lot about this and I understand it s shame and it s not easy, I can’t understand how he can be still the angry one and tries to shift the situation.

What should I do?

Just discovered my husbands history, all kind of porn, going to confront him tonight. I’m so angry, nervous, sick, betrayed. Please pray for me and him. I feel lost ..

Just discovered my husbands history, all kind of porn, going to confront him tonight. I’m so angry, nervous, sick, betrayed. Please pray for me and him. I feel lost ..

Need advice, pls 🙏

my husband and I have been married 3 years now, no kids. He came to me and told me he s not satisfied with the frequency of our sex life, multiple times in the past and we discussed and I taught I was going better. I also have a stressful job and sometimes all I want to do after is chill and sleep. I know it s not an excuse and I was wrong on my side to not prioritize this in our marriage, although when we are doing it, we both enjoy it, and I am asking myself, why don’t we do more often. Also, sometimes he has a hard time finishing from penetration and does from a hj. Sorry, TMI 🙈 we have a really nice and fun marriage, we both help around the house, cook, etc

Fast fwd to a couple of weeks ago: I catches him watching something he shouldn’t and he apologized and I still did not move fwd, he felt bad, told me it was wrong and it came from a frustration he has but it s not an excuse, a couple of days later, I enter his office and he acted strange and I asked him what’s up and he was stressed, of course I suspected he watched something again, but this time I saw a T-shirt of his on the floor with some white ish stains, and asked him about it, if he masturbates, he said no, the he wiped something, couple of days later found another t shirt with the same stains. Confronted him, we had an argument and that’s it. From then on, of course I got suspicious of everything and it s driving me crazy. I checked his phone ( I have never done this before, but I had a feeling it was not only that one time) and founds on Reddit multiple recently viewed pages of diff porn, did not say nothing, I continue to check it and he continues to check/search for it.. maybe not daily, but every couple of days …. so giving this, in sureee he s watching it on his computer as well. I have pictures of everything I found.. some are from 3 /4 weeks ago, some more recent.

We started to talk after that “first time”, slowly behave like normal, did not have any intimacy since than, (first time when I caught him), one part of me tried to ignore it, because it was hurting just thinking about it and thought if we would have more sex, this will be gone, after I did research it and learn more about this, I realize it will not bring me/him/ us anywhere.

Please help, how should I approach him? (Just be frankly honest and tell him I know and show him the pictures? He will be mad for sure, mostly that I behaved normal and did not tell him anything), just show him the recent ones?

Please be kind, share your thoughts and opinions and please tell me, if you were the case, how would you like to be approached? Or if you had a similar situation, what was the best way to deal with it?

Appreciate you reading all this! Be blessed 🤍