A small insight from Eastern Taoist practice: stop forcing your mind to stay calm.
In reading posts in this community, I've noticed a common issue: most people try too hard to fight anxiety or force their minds to go completely blank. This often backfires.
It's not that the methods themselves are wrong, but rather that they go against a fundamental principle: how can one possibly fight against thoughts that arise from within oneself?
Taoism teaches us to "go with the flow." In Taoist practice, there is a perspective on muddy water: if you try to stir it up or force it to clear, you only make it murkier. The only way to make it clear is to leave it alone and let the sediment settle naturally over time.
I feel that modern mindfulness sometimes involves too much attachment—treating chaotic thoughts as enemies to be defeated. Yet, the more you fight a thought, the more power you give it. Our philosophy speaks of wu wei—non-forcing or effortless action; it is the art of letting things take their natural course.
I used to be very anxious myself. I am a highly sensitive person with a heightened awareness of the world around me. Whether in life, romance, family, or friendships, the slightest hint of trouble would plunge me into deep, exhausting internal conflict. I would doubt everything, triggering a cycle of negative emotions and thoughts, and then fight against myself—leaving me utterly drained.
Because I was exposed to Taoist traditions from a young age, I tried applying those concepts: instead of being a combatant, I chose to be an observer. I would watch where my emotions and thoughts originated and seek the root cause there.
When I practice sitting meditation—or what you might call "mindfulness"—I don't try to empty my mind. Instead, I naturally accept those thoughts and slowly relax, allowing myself to enter a meditative state quite quickly.
Of course, in the beginning, it took a lot of struggle and resistance before I could connect naturally; I tried countless times, and there were moments when the jumble of emotions nearly caused me to break down.
So, what I want to share is this: peace isn't something you achieve by striving for it; it comes from giving up the fight against your own thoughts. This is just a personal insight I wanted to share, and I'd love to hear your thoughts as well.