u/No-Buddy-1137

Hi!
Forgive about my poor English

We’ve been having issues and are talking about separating, we’re currently in the same house still but different room. Have a 5 YO together.

Our main issue was between my MIL and myself, she treated us unfairly than her other kids… This was how it started, then he thinks that we’re not compatible, we don’t have common interests, I go to see Marvel movies with him, i watch football games with him, he wants to play computer games together, I’m learning. I like to go hiking, he doesn’t, barely make the effort, I like to go to different places, he doesn’t. Do you think this will be the issue for you? Any chance we will get back together? How do we fix this? Been seeing therapist, would like more options.

Regarding the relocate. He makes double than me, our total is $170K, he’s been offered a job, 2 hours away from his families, with $275K plus housing allowance $4000, is it a good idea to move?

We want free start or less stress financially.

We think moving there can solve at least one of our problems, the financial part. For the common interest, we don’t know yet.

We’re happy with our house right now, paying $1200/month, big house. If we move, we will most likely live in the apartment.

Even though I hate moving, because we have a lot of stuff to pack and unpack, but if it helps with our marriage, I’d do it.

He is now more towards accepting the offer, but he kind of likes his current job, no stress, only one to two hours per day, sometimes no work, he is not sure if he wants to do a regular job like 8-5, or sometimes overtime…plus the traffic will be sucks

One of the reasons is I really don’t like his family, so selfish, so evil, but he wants all of us go together when it’s family gathering time, or even just go talk, etc. I’m ok with him go alone or go with kid, he doesn’t, he wants us all go. He thought about not going there too much, but he can’t do it, he is not happy.

The other reason is about sex. There are things he wants me to do and he wants to do, which I don’t like, it’s VERY painful to me…. I can’t do it, what should I do!

After I gave birth to my son, my boobs become saggy, I feel not confident…..

We just told our 5 years old son we’re getting a divorce, we ensured that we will always love him and be there for him, we told him that it is not his fault, it is daddy and mommy’s. I’m crying right now after we talked to him. My husband said our issue won’t change, don’t want to circle back anymore, it’s the best for all 3 of us. I will have to move out to find a shared apartment, I’m going to miss out a lot of my son’s moments, even I will be still seeing him. There are going to be lots of activities I’m missing out, I’m so sad right now, we’re all sad, but this has to be done, how do I deal with my emotions.

Hi everyone,

Me (F36) and my husband (M35) are thinking getting a divorce for both of us to be relieved in this relationship.

The main issue is I have so much hate for my MIL, thinking of going to her house is already making me anxious, mad, this emotion lasts as soon as I know we are going, it can be days. And I just got upset when I hear her voice on the phone with my husband.

Long story short, the reasons I hate her are: There are lots of things she is not being fair for my son, my husband and me. She helps her daughters more than us, because we have 2 people, but we have much more debts than them. She always say no to us saying not being fair to other kids, but she is not being fair by helping her other kids! My mom and her family sent $8000 for my son, we gave to my MIL to invest on behalf of my son, and she put same money to math for her other 3 grandkids, my son doesn’t get anything then. She got one of her daughter a new car, for us, we bought her old car by selling our old car, we still have to pay $7500, we asked for paying of monthly, she said no, she wants every single penny in full, we had to take a loan for these $7500.

She is helping her other daughter’s boyfriend’s whole family as well by charging $1600 less for their rent.

I tried to see a therapist before, but it didn’t work, she fall asleep when I was taking, she just had a baby.

My parents were divorced when I was young, my husband’s parents were also divorced when he was young as well. I really want my son to have a whole family, but this means I have to suffer from my MIL and my husband’s want me to be nice and REALLy engage when we spend time together with them, I just don’t know what to talk

Can I pls get some advice? My mom and family are abroad, I’n along in this country, I’m actually flying back to my mom to spend time with her for 2 months, but not sure if this will change anything

Hi everyone,

Me (F36) and my husband (M35) are thinking getting a divorce for both of us to be relieved in this relationship.

The main issue is I have so much hate for my MIL, thinking of going to her house is already making me anxious, mad, this emotion lasts as soon as I know we are going, it can be days. And I just got upset when I hear her voice on the phone with my husband.

Long story short, the reasons I hate her are: There are lots of things she is not being fair for my son, my husband and me. She helps her daughters more than us, because we have 2 people, but we have much more debts than them. She always say no to us saying not being fair to other kids, but she is not being fair by helping her other kids! My mom and her family sent $8000 for my son, we gave to my MIL to invest on behalf of my son, and she put same money to math for her other 3 grandkids, my son doesn’t get anything then. She got one of her daughter a new car, for us, we bought her old car by selling our old car, we still have to pay $7500, we asked for paying of monthly, she said no, she wants every single penny in full, we had to take a loan for these $7500.

She is helping her other daughter’s boyfriend’s whole family as well by charging $1600 less for their rent.

I tried to see a therapist before, but it didn’t work, she fall asleep when I was taking, she just had a baby.

My parents were divorced when I was young, my husband’s parents were also divorced when he was young as well. I really want my son to have a whole family, but this means I have to suffer from my MIL and my husband’s want me to be nice and REALLy engage when we spend time together with them, I just don’t know what to talk

Can I pls get some advice? My mom and family are abroad, I’n along in this country, I’m actually flying back to my mom to spend time with her for 2 months, but not sure if this will change anything