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Hey everyone, I’m 22. I’m in pretty good shape and usually get around 6–7 hours of sleep a night. I train with kettlebells almost every day, and I work in a factory where I average about 13,000 steps a day.

I weigh around 165 lbs and I’m about 6 feet tall on a good day. I’d estimate I’m around 14–16% body fat. I don’t have a six-pack, which might just be genetics, but overall I’m lean and pretty athletic. I can do around 20 pull-ups with good form, about 80 push-ups without stopping, and I’m comfortable training with a 62 lb kettlebell.

I mention all of that because I know low libido can sometimes be related to hormones, poor health, lack of exercise, etc., but at least from the outside, I seem relatively healthy and active.

The problem is that I think I might have ED or some kind of porn-related sexual dysfunction. I feel almost no sexual desire toward women in real life anymore. I still feel it with porn, though.

I’m getting matches on Tinder and I’ve met women who have clearly left the door open for something to happen, but when the opportunity is actually there, I’d rather go home, be alone, and watch porn. I’ve gradually started isolating myself more and more.

Last week I managed to go four days without porn. Even after the first day, I felt a level of mental clarity that I honestly couldn’t remember having before. By day four, I was actually starting to feel some real desire again, but then I relapsed.

Now I’m back to watching porn for around three hours a day and masturbating 3–5 times a day. I feel like an addict, and I’m genuinely embarrassed by how much control this has over me.

I first watched porn when I was around 11, and I basically haven’t stopped since. That means this has been part of my life for roughly half of my entire life.

Women in real life almost feel uninteresting to me sexually, while with porn I have no problem feeling desire. That’s what scares me the most.

Has anyone here been in a similar situation and actually recovered? What helped you get out of it? After using porn this heavily for this long, can my sexuality and attraction to real women return to normal, or have I permanently messed up my brain?

Any advice or experiences would be appreciated.

Hi, I just moved to this town. I’m 23 and don’t know anyone here. I work pretty far away, but I’m relatively social and extroverted, so I don’t really have a problem starting conversations or making friends.

The problem is that since I work and don’t know anyone here yet, I don’t really have people to go with to bars or other places where people usually go in groups. I’m not sure where to start.

Can anyone recommend any activities or hobbies where I could meet people around my age and go by myself without feeling out of place? If anyone has been in a similar situation, I’d love to hear what worked for you.

Hi, I’ve been struggling for days to verify my business phone number. I don’t have a dedicated business number, so I opened one with Tello and ended up wasting $10 because it didn’t work. I also don’t have a utility bill or phone bill under my business name since I’m still in the early stages of building my online business.

What would you recommend I do to get my business phone number verified?

Hi, I’ve been struggling for days to verify my business phone number. I don’t have a dedicated business number, so I opened one with Tello and ended up wasting $10 because it didn’t work. I also don’t have a utility bill or phone bill under my business name since I’m still in the early stages of building my online business.

What would you recommend I do to get my business phone number verified?

Hi, I’m trying to register an LLC so I can start running Facebook ads for my freelance services. I just spent money on Tailor Brands, and now they’re asking me to pay an additional $99 for the EIN. On top of that, the address on my LLC was entered incorrectly.

I don’t understand any of this paperwork. Does anyone know if there’s a better option, or whether it’s worth paying the extra $100 for the EIN?

Hi, I’m trying to register an LLC so I can start running Facebook ads for my freelance services. I just spent money on Tailor Brands, and now they’re asking me to pay an additional $99 for the EIN. On top of that, the address on my LLC was entered incorrectly.

I don’t understand any of this paperwork. Does anyone know if there’s a better option, or whether it’s worth paying the extra $100 for the EIN?

Hi, I’m thinking about applying for a job at Trane, but I’ve read some negative things about the company online. The few people I know who have worked there have spoken positively about it, so I’m not sure what to believe.

Has anyone here worked at Trane? What was your experience like? Is it true that they fire people frequently? If I start working somewhere, I’d like it to be a stable, long-term job.

I'm looking for some honest opinions about Peterson Academy, but first I want to give a bit of context.

I'm 21 years old, and the last few years have been very difficult. I've been recovering from a deep depression, and I've also been trying to leave behind the Red Pill/manosphere mindset, including some genuinely far-right communities. Looking back, I realize how much those spaces encouraged a victim mentality, especially for someone like me who already struggled with depression and negative thinking.

Ironically, Jordan Peterson played a big role in helping me get out of that mindset. While he often criticizes the political left, one of the biggest lessons I took from him is that people on both extremes often have much more in common than they realize, especially when it comes to resentment, victimhood, and seeing the world through ideology.

Reading his books and watching his personality lectures on YouTube genuinely changed the way I think. They helped me understand responsibility, human psychology, and, more importantly, myself. The idea of "don't criticize the world until you've got your own house in perfect order" had a huge impact on me.

Since then, I've been trying to rebuild my life. I got a good job, I'm seeing a psychologist, I'm educating myself, and I'm learning to genuinely listen to people with different perspectives instead of just defending my own beliefs. I'm trying to become a more responsible, proactive, and thoughtful person.

Because of that, I'm considering joining Peterson Academy.

I'm especially interested in the practical self-improvement side of Jordan Peterson's work, similar to what he writes about in his books. At the same time, I like the idea of learning about a wide variety of subjects from different experts, which seems to be one of the main goals of the Academy.

Money isn't really the issue. What I want to know is whether it's actually worth it.

Has anyone here been in a similar situation and joined Peterson Academy? What was your experience? Did it provide value beyond what's already available in his books and YouTube lectures?

Would you recommend sticking with his free content, or is Peterson Academy genuinely worth taking the next step?

I'd really appreciate any advice or personal experiences.

Hi everyone!

I recently moved to La Crosse and I don't know anyone here yet. I'd really like to get out more and start meeting people.

I love hiking, so I was wondering if there are any hiking groups, meetups, or places where I could join others for a hike.

I know a lot of people have been in the same situation based on what I've seen in this subreddit, so I figured I'd ask.

Anyway, good luck to everyone else who's new here, and I just wanted to say I'm really enjoying La Crosse so far. It feels like such a welcoming town.

I'm not a student.

Hey everyone,

I recently moved to the La Crosse area and I'm looking for places to learn or dance salsa.

I'm especially interested in beginner friendly options.

Thanks in advance! 😊

Hi, I recently moved to La Crosse and I'm looking to meet new people. I've been trying to find activities like book clubs, hiking groups, or other social events, but I'm not a student and I work second shift, so finding activities for young non-students during the mornings has been a bit of a challenge.

If anyone knows of any groups, clubs, organizations, or has any recommendations, I'd really appreciate it. I'm open to pretty much anything.

Thanks!

Hello, I’m looking for a place (preferably a studio) to move. I’m looking for something affordable, my maximum budget is $1,000/m, and most importantly safe. Any recommendations on where to look, and more importantly, any areas I should completely avoid?

Hello, there’s something I don’t understand about the manosphere and I’d like those of you who are part of it to explain it to me. I’m doing a research project as practice for a journalism course, and I’m focusing it on the manosphere, and there are things I don’t understand.

Basically, the foundation of everything is that women are hypergamous, and due to social media, dating apps, and the flood of stimuli and access to men with more money, better looks, taller height, and fame… what are stereotypically known as “alphas.”

Since women are hypergamous, they will only go for them, and then they become incapable of desiring or feeling attracted to someone “normal,” meaning an average man.

Under this premise, the only options are:

1. Improve yourself to become an “alpha.”
2. Be part of a “boycott” and try to create a movement where men go on a kind of “strike” and refuse to date women.

Keep in mind I don’t know much, but this is what I understand so far.

I would also like to ask: why do they think this way? Do people who think like this actually have real-life experiences that confirm it? In my case, I feel it’s the opposite— with so many options, it seems like the best time to meet someone.

I feel that a person who works on their personality, has basic hygiene, knows how to dress, and is in relatively good shape shouldn’t have any problem.

Which seems to be what the manosphere originally focused on when it started with PUA (which I don’t have much negative to say about).

Again, I just want to ask if I’m understanding it correctly and if you can argue your point of view, because it seems like a very large movement and I’m interested.

The report will never be published; it’s just for a journalism course assignment, so don’t be afraid to share your opinion.