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Hi guys

Today I listed to this conversation of parents discussing on how to draw a boy or girl. they were saying like that the girl must have long hair and wear a skirt and the boy must have short hair and of course both must have light skin color (European looking). And while listened to it it made me really upset and I couldn’t walk feel this anger in m stomach but I couldn’t do anything about it. I wanted to say something but I was to scared to do so so I set there had had to listen to all of it. And no I couldn’t just leave this happend in a work environment

Hello

I am Autistic my self and still figuring out my gender. And I was wondering, fellow Queer NDs out there, do you think there is a connection between your gender identity and your ND? I would love to hear your takes on it.

Hello I am 18 an am still very new to the whole LGBTQ sceen. So it kind of started a few days ago when a new friend of mine ask if I was Queer I said no but kind of hesitated because I don't see my self in the normal gender roles either. I kind of allways felt a bit genderles I mean I a male but I don't feel maskulin it is hard to discribe. I mean I have allways felt differnet from other boys and never unstood there way of acting and thinking but is this probably also because of my autism.

So last night becasue I really cloudn't sleep about is I did this 7 gender identity test becasue I wanted peace of mind. And the Anwser where that I am more Agender than cis male 93% to 73%. I know the test is not a answer only mearly a suggesttion But this kind of brought up more questions. I mean what do u do now?

I have allways hated supermarkets because I could never find anything and because of the many people. But now since a year my sensoryproblems got worse or I am noiticing them more and shopping has become even harder. In some supermarkets I have to wear sunglasses and headphones to not get a panic attack. And often in a supermarket I feel this Panik Attack Sensation and it freaks me out. The hardest part is allways the checkout. My mutism takes over and I just manage to say some scrambled words to the cashier and then I walk away fast as possible.

Hello, I want to talk about my struggles at school with dyslexia plus also being Autistic. (I am splitting up the sentences because it is easier to read for me)

In general, I actually like school I like to learn and think. But I always feel very ashamed of my dyslexia.

I always try to avoid or hide my writing because of what the teachers and students might say. It's just so frustrating sometimes.

I think a lot, but I cannot bring it onto paper because I have to use all my thinking power to think about how to construct and write this sentence.

And then I have this thing that I call "word dementia", which forces me to use replacement words.

The thing is even writing down notes is exhausting, so I remember everything in my head.

But because of my stupid autism, I forget a lot of things because my brain decides that Karl Marx is now a more important topic to think about than doing homework.

When it comes to reading its not that bad, although I have this problem of hallucinating words.

Also, some fonts are really painful to read and then the words become really blurry, and I can't read anything, which means I sometimes have to guess the content of a school texts.

Hello, I want to talk about my struggles at school with dyslexia plus also being Autistic. (I am splitting up the sentences because it is easier to read for me)

In general, I actually like school I like to learn and think. But I always feel very ashamed of my dyslexia.

I always try to avoid or hide my writing because of what the teachers and students might say. It's just so frustrating sometimes.

I think a lot, but I cannot bring it onto paper because I have to use all my thinking power to think about how to construct and write this sentence.

And then I have this thing that I call "word dementia", which forces me to use replacement words.

The thing is even writing down notes is exhausting, so I remember everything in my head.

But because of my stupid autism, I forget a lot of things because my brain decides that Karl Marx is now a more important topic to think about than doing homework.

When it comes to reading its not that bad, although I have this problem of hallucinating words.

Also, some fonts are really painful to read and then the words become really blurry, and I can't read anything, which means I sometimes have to guess the content of a school texts.

Hi guys

So about four months ago I rediscovered Hand Flapping for my self again and since then I have kind of been obsessed by it. I also do other stims but flapping just brings back this childish Joy. Since then I have refined my flapping technique. I used to flap with my hands closed and wrist straight and stiff Which put strain on the wrist. but now I flap with hands hanging loosely which causes no strain anymore which is great Because I can flap more.

I also have Trex hands often because they are already it the optimal position to flap which results in very efficient flapping without having to lift your hands all the time. I mean the positives of flapping your hands are endless. It also enhances your music listening experience.

Hi guys

So about four months ago I rediscovered Hand Flapping for my self again and since then I have kind of been obsessed by it. I also do other stims but flapping just brings back this childish Joy. Since then I have refined my flapping technique. I used to flap with my hands closed and wrist straight and stiff Which put strain on the wrist. but now I flap with hands hanging loosely which causes no strain anymore which is great Because I can flap more.

I also have Trex hands often because they are already it the optimal position to flap which results in very efficient flapping without having to lift your hands all the time. I mean the positives of flapping your hands are endless. It also enhances your music listening experience.

hello guys.

I have a small brother who is five and who I believe is Autistic. My brother was Adopted by us and his father is also believed to have Autism. I am currently doing a school Internship at the Kindergarten of my brother which gave me futher inside.

1 I can already see the early signs of masking in him. In Kindergarten he’s often the quietest one never complains or cries

2. Fixations he often gets really fixated on things and get angry or sad when something or someone obstructs his fixation. “on time in the outside sand pit he collected stones for almost 1 and 1/2 hours and literally said nothing„

3.socialisation He does play with childern but he usually copies what they are doing or he takes the lead in a playgroup and tries to explain stuff. In big groups like lunch groups he stays very silent. But in one to one conversations with a caretaker he could talk hours nonsto. Which the caretakers find overwhelming but I find I very sweet as it reminds me of my self.

4. my own Gut feeling. I am Autistic my self and he reminds me so of my self sometimes when I was younger.

My real Questions are 1. Is he Autistic? This question cannot be really answered but I would still like to hear your take on this senario. 2. What should we do about it? My par already know the Autism suspicion of my brother but they don’t seem worried about it at all. They alread raised one Autistic Child (me got early Diagnosed) so they allready know a lot of Autism parenting. But I still it is good to get a Diagnosis now for later when he is 10-14. When my brother will really start to noitice that he is different from everyone else. And having a Diagnosis there could really help knowing that u are not wrong but just special.

Hi 18M here.

I’ve recently been exploring stimming, and I’m finding it to be a really fascinating and grounding experience for me. My primary stim is flapping my hands, and when I do it, I feel this incredible wave of happiness. It’s hard to describe what stimming is like for others, but for me, it feels a bit like a vital urge, similar to needing to breathe.

Honestly, I still struggle with feeling comfortable stimming in public. I often try to do it discreetly, but I feel a sense of shame about it. I’m curious – how do other autistic people experience stimming in public? Do you ever feel that sense of shame, or do you find ways to embrace it? I’d really appreciate hearing about your experiences.

Hi 18M here

I Travel a few times a year with the plane. I allways hated traveling but since I unmasked a month ago it has become unbearable. While in the airport and plane it feels like someone is restricting me like I can’t be my true self. On top of that I have to suppress my stims (hand flapping) which is really hard and feels uncomfortable. But also the sounds and bright light are just to much at some point I even worried that I could get a panic attack due to overstimulation. I already used ANC headphones, sunglasses, stim toy but it was still so mentally and physically draining.

Hi I am a 18M Autistic person and I would like to talk a bit about my experiences in school but I would also love to hear of your experiences. sorry in advance for the spelling I have dyslexia.

I went to school at the age of seven before that I was in Kindergarten. Kindergarten was most of the time a safe space for me but even there I noticed that I was different from everyone else. when I then went to my first school I was so shocked and Traumatized by it because there was no kindergarten safety anymore. I don’t remember much of my time there but the only thing I know is that I got bullied a lot and that my parents and to remove me from that school in the first half year. I then went to a normal state school till the forth class. There I really tried to fit in but I got bullied again so I just started to hide in the emptiest possible place.

Then my parents put me on Waldorf school which was a huge improvement because it had smaller classes and was more ASD friendly. But then I started to become more self aware and started copying people actions. This Masking and trying to fit in lasted until now. As in the recent months I have been trying to understand who I am really am. plus I discovered that I can stim particularly I love hand flapping which is really fun.