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I wanted to ask this as I saw there hasn't been a question like this for a bit in the sub (at least that I could find). I'm at this point with both parents where I am unsure what my relationship will look like with them moving forward. I have been diagnosed with CPTSD and am also autistic and found out as an adult. I know that my parents are unhealthy people but I still have guilt/feel bad around thinking they're toxic but there's part of me that believes that's definitely the case.

How did you guys come to the realization that your parents are toxic? What did you do about it? What did you do if you felt like you 'had' to stay in good standings with them? I feel kind of lost right now and overwhelmed, so anything is helpful.

Crossposting - What have you guys done that has helped deal with being around your parents when they're major triggers?

My dad is a huge trigger for me and he has made me feel completely unsafe in a female body around him. He has eroded my sense of safety in my body with the comments he has made over the years sexualizing me and saying things that are wildly inappropriate. My mom knows about this and does nothing. She is also a huge trigger for me for other reasons (and it seems like she has always looked at me as competition?).

How do I get by. I don't live with them any longer but I feel obligated to keep a relationship with them. I'm their only kid, and I feel like if I create distance that would be the best for me but complete cutoff is not an option. I live close to them now but I feel like if I moved even to the other side of town I wouldn't see them often. I don't have a lot of other supports locally so I feel kind of lost with what to do.

Hi all! I have had mirena for 12 years now and was sick of feeling like shit and wondered if the IUD had anything to do with it. So my provider put me on a generic form of Yaz and holy shit. Night and day difference.

I am just about to finish up the third week of my first pack, and I realized that I was not having the shitty luteal symptom mess that I usually would for two weeks before my period. Tmi but I’m not super constipated, I’m not retaining a shit load of water, I don’t feel like I’m going insane, no cravings, etc. Mind you, I also have been sick with a super shitty cold and I still notice this difference.

I have noticed that there has been some pretty intense nausea about a week into starting it, but nothing that ginger or peppermint couldn’t help me with. I also don’t know if this has anything to do with being sick, because my nausea has also decreased as I felt better. I also have been sick for about two weeks so the timeline makes sense of the nausea coming in around that time.

Im really hopeful, I am hoping that if this works out that I can ditch the IUD!

I had an ablation many years ago when I was a pre-teen and have had no recurrences luckily.

I have however gotten another diagnosis of autism in young adulthood, and have had other random physical abnormalities and am still relatively young. I was curious if anyone knows of other comorbidities with WPW or if there's a pattern with autism and WPW? I know people are making links with ASD to POTS, EDS, dysautonomia, GI diseases, etc. but am curious if there's a similar theme with those that have had WPW? A lot of this stuff is anecdotal but I think there's still a major gap with medicine and some of those comorbidities.

Cross posting-

TLDR; I was seeing someone for a few years and ended up finding someone that specialized once I got diagnosed with autism, sent a thank you email, and got a super generic response. I am also a therapist.

Once I told my old therapist about my new diagnosis her tone changed and she started to speak to me like I was a child? I am guessing she didn't mean it but that's how it sounded. She brought up she didn't specialize in that which is fine, but also did not have a lot of knowledge around it and I don't think tried to understand it more. I felt as time passed that she was not trained to work with someone with my issues/concerns/neurotype. I needed to get more insight to this diagnosis and made the decision to switch. She agreed with this and all was good.

I sent her a closing out email to thanking her for her help through a challenging time in my life (escaping DV, trauma healing, etc.) and expressed gratitude for her role in that process. She used to be very candid with me and was a straight shooter and I appreciated that. I shared with her I might not be here if I stayed with my ex and she had a role in me realizing it wasn't safe. I don't think it was by any means an inappropriate email (not lengthy or overly emotional or any of that). I know therapists don't always see the 'end' situation and I wanted to close it off nicely and share that I appreciate the work she did with me.

I got a response back over a week later where it seems like she parroted what I had said about switching to a person specialized in autism, but she completely ignored the thanks I gave to her. She told me I can start up again at any time, but I can't help but being hurt and shocked that she didn't at least acknowledge my thanks to her. Especially given the fact we worked together for a few years and saw each other weekly.

There were other red flags now looking back on this but I guess I am just posting to seek some validation that that's as fucked up as I think it is or at the very least hurtful. If someone sent me that I would of course give them credit for the work they did but I would at the very least acknowledge their thanks. At the end of the day the therapeutic relationship is that - a relationship. And it felt like as time passed I almost got the idea she was getting sick of me or running out of ways to work with me and didn't want to refer out because I was a client that if left with no organization I can just talk/verbally process and might have been an 'easier' session for her to just kind of go autopilot and listen.

TLDR; I was seeing someone for a few years and ended up finding someone that specialized once I got diagnosed with autism, sent a thank you email, and got a super generic response. I am also a therapist.

Once I told my old therapist about my new diagnosis her tone changed and she started to speak to me like I was a child? I am guessing she didn't mean it but that's how it sounded. She brought up she didn't specialize in that which is fine, but also did not have a lot of knowledge around it and I don't think tried to understand it more. I felt as time passed that she was not trained to work with someone with my issues/concerns/neurotype. I needed to get more insight to this diagnosis and made the decision to switch. She agreed with this and all was good.

I sent her a closing out email to thanking her for her help through a challenging time in my life (escaping DV, trauma healing, etc.) and expressed gratitude for her role in that process. She used to be very candid with me and was a straight shooter and I appreciated that. I shared with her I might not be here if I stayed with my ex and she had a role in me realizing it wasn't safe. I don't think it was by any means an inappropriate email (not lengthy or overly emotional or any of that). I know therapists don't always see the 'end' situation and I wanted to close it off nicely and share that I appreciate the work she did with me.

I got a response back over a week later where it seems like she parroted what I had said about switching to a person specialized in autism, but she completely ignored the thanks I gave to her. She told me I can start up again at any time, but I can't help but being hurt and shocked that she didn't at least acknowledge my thanks to her. Especially given the fact we worked together for a few years and saw each other weekly.

There were other red flags now looking back on this but I guess I am just posting to seek some validation that that's as fucked up as I think it is or at the very least hurtful. If someone sent me that I would of course give them credit for the work they did but I would at the very least acknowledge their thanks. At the end of the day the therapeutic relationship is that - a relationship. And it felt like as time passed I almost got the idea she was getting sick of me or running out of ways to work with me and didn't want to refer out because I was a client that if left with no organization I can just talk/verbally process and might have been an 'easier' session for her to just kind of go autopilot and listen.

Hi all.
I'm in the process of trying to figure out wtf to do with birth control moving forward. I have been on mirena for over 10 years now and am on my second and trying out generic yaz to see if that will help me with some of the hormonal BS that has been happening.

I tried oral bc when I was 15, almost 15 years ago and had terrible mood effects after three months then went off of it. At this time I had a boyfriend and we used condoms for a while but then stopped and used the pull out method (dumb, I know). During this time (over two years) I never had even a scare. I always had heavy periods when I was younger and now I'm thinking did we just get really lucky or should I look into if I'm actually fertile or not. Is that even a reasonable thing? I feel like a lot of women around my age are dealing with infertility and then I think okay how much should I be losing it about birth control if maybe I can't even have children.