u/No-Violinist3205

I have no clue what makes me happy anymore. Its been more than 7 years i moved out and living alone ( i am a guy btw). I am not a social person anyways so idc. But being away from family you sometimes go quiet for hours prolly .

Lately i have been so busy in my life and work . The other day i was wondering what would make me happy. Its not that i am living a miserable life or something.

Maybe a partner ? idk . Maybe money ? i don't think so

Idk what it is . Also i am not depressed .

I am just wondering what makes me happy , so i thought to ask what makes you happy ?

Don't you guys theres just too much positivity stuff going on ?

Like yea things happen for a reason and stuff but you don't have to justify things positively every time.

Sometimes its best to sit back and think. The pain , guilt for whatever happened. Every emotion is not meant to just turned into some positivity lecture. Sometimes its ok to cry about things

Failures and sorrow are part of life and should be felt equally. Cz i think thats what develop your character in the long term.

For me personally i mostly take all things negativity in life. Like never being satisfied with myself or constantly thinking i can do better.

I use the negativity to fuel my motivation/discipline lol. But i think thats what makes me better in the long run. i don't do all that self appreciation stuff .

So yea i might need some positivity in my life 😓.

But what do you guys think about this narrative or am i just wrong ?

So

I am not a very photogenic person and i hate cameras. Part of me believes i don't look good enough (i can be better) and part of me doesn't post cz i am an introvert kinda person and keep things private.

Anyways long story short. I mostly do get compliments. And acc to people " I look good" . I mean idk nobody says "You look bad " to your face. But i get compliments here and there.

Pata hai aaj kya hua

So today my best friend snatched my phone and decided to edit my photos and post on my insta lol. Posting for the first time in mid twenties kinda feel weird. 😭

Idk lets see what the response is. Should i make a dating profile and post there 😓

First things first No body on reddit knows you or your partner as perfectly as you do .

EVEN IF YOU TRY TO EXPLAIN it. Lets say its a 3 month or a 3 year relationship. You cant explain your feelings or everything that happened since day 1. There are always sweet and bitter moments in a relationship.

And also what all your relationship decisions are based on advice from strangers. Its your relationship make the choice . You understand it better

If you feel uncomfortable about something , just do what needs to be done. Dont rely on people to tell you what to do .

Everyone is different and have a different way to deal with situations .You ll only get more confused by posting here .

Its been a long time since i left home. I used to be this skinny dude when i left home. Got some exposure when i started living independently . Did some jobs here and there . Became financially independent . I used to work long hours like really long hours in my early twenties . So my eating and working schedule was f'd up.

Now lately i have started my fitness journey . Well about an year ago . Its going well and i am happy that i am working on myself. Not a skinny dude anymore or maybe i am idk . But its going well thats all i know

About relationships never been in one. I have been approached here and there but nahh idk i think i was short on time back then lmao. I have had a lot of interaction with ladies just not relationships . Like not hookups ykwim just talking and stuff . Idk i think relationships are mehh idk its like too much for a person like me .I have had better luck on reddit than hinge tbh (well thats for another post someday )😑

About money i used to think money solves a lot of problem . And i still think it does. I am currently satisfied with my financial management . But not my job theres still time for improvement but idk times running out too fast .

About friendships idk .I have had a small circle since i was young . And tbh now too i have a best friend and it goes very well. I don't have a bunch of friends but i have the very best of em . Someone who i can actually count on.

To wrap it up i am adulting is whatever somedays i feel lonely , someday i feel i need someone to talk to, someday i think i am just a flirt, somedays i think i am srs .

Its like i am living character of tamasha in the setup of Laila majnu with the destiny of Rockstar .

Little bolly joke there . thanks for reading

“Ohh I like this girl should I go talk to her “ 

Yes firstly use common sense don’t go chase someone totally out of your league or age gap . Secondly yes def do it , worst case she ll say no . Then take it and move on. Don’t make it a mission that I am gonna convince her for a yes . Keep ego aside in a yes or a no . 

“ I am in relationship with this person , should I leave them “

If you are asking this on Reddit I think you probably should . Indicates you want to leave but you are looking outside to see for opinion . It’s your relationship so decision should be yours . No matter how big of a post you write no one commenting will understand the person same as you

“ I think I love this person . How do I know he/she is the one ?”

Well I believe being in love gives you freedom. If you are in a relationship and you feel bothered in it all the time . Cz of trust issues or weird personality of the other person which you can’t handle. I ll say it’s best to get out . Respect and trust should always be there . If this person respects you and you feel free in a relationship stay .

I missed something ? idk