u/No_Dirt9029

Has anyone checked out the ROM's psychedelics exhibit? Is it worth the extra cost on top of general admission?

Just looking for a place to get some work done

I've always hated being an only child. Every birthday wish, shooting star, 11:11 was for a sibling. It geniunley was the only thing I ever wanted. My parents tried but they none of them would last to term and it was a lot of grief for us to go through. My mom ended up getting cancer in her early 30s and that was the end of that. I've been lonely for most of my life. I took care of my mom while she was sick by myself for years of my life. I dont know a single person around my age who has had this experience- something a sibling would've given me. If I had a sibling I wouldn't have done lockdown alone and wouldn't have been as severely depressed. I would've had someone there with me at my side as I lived in hospice and watched my mom die at 16. Instead I was all alone and left with nobody who can even begin to understand me and what I've been through. My dad got with a new woman with a shit ton of kids who dont like me and now Im left on my own as this little island. When my dad dies (which he's fully said he has no intention of making it to retirement) I will be left all alone in this world with no family anymore. Im 20 how the fuck can I even try to prepare myself to be an orphan already? Every celebration and achievement I don't really have anyone in my circle who cares. I feel less important than other people because so few people love me like that. I am so insanely jealous of people with big families and support systems. They will never understand how deeply lonely my life has been

Hey, does anyone have experience getting genetic testing done for hereditary cancers at Juravinski? They have the option to have the first appointment online or in-person, and I live about an hour away so online would be nice but I've heard that they can just do the blood test the same day so in that case I would just go in person to get it all done with. Does anyone know if they do the blood test the same day? For context im definitely eligible and getting tested- just want this all done with as quick as possible.

I just noticed we have $500 in coverage for the chiropractor through the student health plan. How does this work? Do I need a referral or do I just find one then submit the claim afterwards? Do we have any coverage for massage?

Does anyone else find themselves constantly chasing these big accomplishments just to get there and realize the person who would have celebrated with you is gone?

My mom died when I was 16. Its been 4 years since then and a lot has happened. I won prom king and an award at highschool graduation, directed 2 plays that year too, got published x2, became a supervisor in 6 months at my first ever job, got into every university I applied to, got such a great job at the uni, have made the deans list every semester, and just recently won award that got my name on a plaque and some money. And yet for every single thing the only person I even want to tell is my mom. Nobody celebrated and was as proud of me as her. She used to post every small accomplishment of mine online and all my extended family and family friends would know and congratulate me. Now nobody ever really knows what I do. Most i'll get is a good job text from my dad. Nobody took pictures at my graduation. It just geniunley feels like nobody cares, and luckily it is enough of a reason just to do it for myself, but I really miss when other people celebrated me too. Idk that feels so needy and immature of me. I wish there were people who were proud of me again I guess. People who really enthusiastically love me like my mom did

Does anyone else find that adrenaline isnt the same for you as it is for other people?

Im currently at an amusement park and everyone with me loves big rides. They say they like the adrenaline it gives them and whatnot, but I find that I hate the feeling of adrenaline. It just makes me anxious. Im wondering if its because i associate adrenaline with some of the worst things happening to me. Its not really a fun thing to chase as much as I feel like Im constantly running from it since flashbacks and whatnot tend to spike my adrenaline a lot. Has anyone else had this experience?

Why is it that profs are allowed to not tell us our exam grade? I've had it twice already where the final grade on webadvisor wasnt correct and the prof has to go through the department to fix it after classes end. The only way I was able to know it wasnt correct was because I had all my grades. How are we supposed to know that the final grades where we dont know how we did on the exam are correct? Clearly the profs can and do make mistakes but I dont like that we cant even double check it for ourselves in a lot of cases

Does anyone else find that people tend to romanticize trauma then when its actually in people close to them they do all the wrong things or are entirely unsupportive?

Im 20 and was recently diagnosed with ptsd from watching my mom die in front of me at 16. I have multiple friends currently in uni for psych/social work. These same friends really love traumatized characters in media and write papers about the trauma that the characters endured and breaking it down. One of my friends is reallyyyy into a character who has very similar trauma to mine and talks about it a lot and how sad she is for him etc. They are aware of my trauma and that i have ptsd from it. This friend has been repeatedly triggering me into flashbacks by saying very insensitive things and minimizing my experience. Is thing where people romanticize a traumatized person until ones right in front of them? She literally loves and talks about this characters trauma so much yet cant even be careful about what she says to one of her best friends who has the same kind of trauma? I just really dont get it

Has anyone else found that the further they get into transition the more women tend to infantilize you/treat you like you're dumb? My boyfriend and I are both multiple years on T and pass completely but our friends know we're trans. We've started to find that our girl friends increasingly treat us like children.

For example, we're currently on a trip with them and they told us earlier we should pack our bags tonight for our flight tomorrow (just my bf and I leaving) then continously asked us and reminded us to do it as if we're not adults who have travelled numerous times before. They kept calling my friends boyfriend buddy and doing it to him too, but he seemed used to it and like used it as weaponized incompetence. Its driving my bf and I absolutely insane and Im wondering if this is a how women treat men problem or a my friends problem? They genuinely keep explaining things to us like we're stupid 😭 my bf and I are the only 2 in the group who have moved out of our parents house and have been living on our own and paying all our own bills with no financial support for years. We're in harder uni programs and get better grades than them (not that that matters obviously just dont treat me like im dumb). Its actually so frustrating. I dont need to be mothered by my friends