u/Nottybarbie

I’m the only blk nurse at my job & it’s exactly what u think it is lol.

We have store bought meds in the nurse office for the staff. ACNA came to the office and c/o chest pain & asked for TUMS. After she described her symptoms to me I suggested taking aspirin & going to the ER ASAP. My white male coworker (also nurse) told her that it was just heart burn & to take TUMS. She asked me so many questions & twirled the aspirin around and threw it away. She took the Tums and chewed thru 2 FULL bottles during her 16hr shift.

4 days later she called us from the hospital & said that she could’nt come in bc she had blood clots in her lungs. I’m glad she’s okay but my thing is…why didn’t she question him? We have the same titles and I’ve worked there longer than him…my cousin(way older than me) is her husband ffs!

I just hate that we say things like “we need more black professionals” and do shxt like this. UGH!!!

Anytime my bf and I make special plans out of town he asks me to wear a blonde wig. He’s asked me this 5x before.

Today he asked me if I would wear a blonde wig for our weekend getaway & I said, “No, why do you always mention blonde wigs when we go somewhere…do u prefer blondes?”

He snapped and told me to stop labeling him and to stop saying “always.” He claims it was his 2nd time mentioning blonde hair & that he asked bc the last blonde wig I bought was taken by my sister. I don’t wear blonde wigs and I only bought that one for him and I hated the way it looked so I didn’t wear it.

He told me that I upset him and to call him tomorrow. I’m calling shxt. He’s grown as hell & acts like such an emotional little bitch sometimes. What did I do that was so bad?!

My patient was admitted for a physical issue and even though she was “bubbly” she seemed very depressed & her behavior was odd. I went to the get the psych team and she “removed” herself. It took 4min. I asked an aide to sit with her until I came back and was told that it wasn’t their job to do1:1 without an order. I’m not trying to live in that shoulda coulda woulda mindset but I feel like had I not followed protocol she would still be here.

EDIT: The CNA was willing to sit and wait with the patient but MY supervisor told him that it wasn’t necessary bc there wasn’t an order and he was with another patient when I asked. He’s a good guy/CNA. My supervisor is always distracted & never offers any real solutions tbh but they’re keeping her around for a reason.

I went out with a guy I met at a bar a few weeks ago. He’s respectful, 28, very attractive, educated & seems normal. We went out for drinks last night(he drove) and we rented a room bc we were both too drunk to drive. In the room we made out while I sat on his lap….his pants were zipped up and his belt was still on. We did not have sex & I had no intention of having sex with him.

Out of nowhere he started shaking & I thought something was wrong with him until he squeezed me and whispered “I love u baby.” I saw the “mess” on the groin area of his pants. He came from a kiss & said ILY when we have only hung out a few times and it was usually in bars/restaurants he doesn’t even know my favorite color. I went home immediately. He texted me asking if things were okay but I didn’t respond. I just don’t know what to say to him. The whole thing was weird & I just don’t want to deal with him anymore.

Years ago when I was in my mid 20s I met a guy who told me that he was 21. We met in a club (outside of USA) and I later found out that he was actually 18. There was never a “thing” between us. He just had a crush on me and would flirt with me but it was never reciprocated. He’s not a bad kid & we kept in touch, He’s 24 now. I give him $50 on his bday each year & he keeps me updated with his life/school. It’s very platonic these days & our friendship has mostly been thru video calls since we live in different countries.

I told my bf all of this bc I want to be transparent. During an argument he threw it in my face & claimed that I’m a predator/gr00mer & if roles were reversed then I would’ve been in jail. This isn’t even the worst thing he’s said to me but this bothers me. Feels like he thinks the worst of me and he never apologizes. I just question my own self worth at this point.

I feel like I don’t even want to talk to him anymore.

A few weeks ago I was giving report to a coworker and she was texting/laughing on her phone the entire time. I asked if she was listening and she said, “Not really, I’m doing this thing where I don’t pay attention to things I don’t care about so you’re really just wasting your breath.” I only said, “This is a shift report but okay.”

Since then I’ve only been greeting her “Hey NAME” & immediately giving her the keys. I leave the paper report with the patients name and “See EMAR notes.”

Today she gave me an attitude while telling to do better with my shift reports bc she never knows what’s going on for the shift. She had the nerve to ask me to stand there and verbally give report…the exact thing I did when she told me that I was wasting my breath. I just told her to read the EMAR notes & I walked away. I couldn’t believe the audacity! She is something else!!

I am a nurse and a CNA came into my office & showed me a paper with a name & told me that his gf was worried sick looking for him & his phone was off. I told her “No we can’t do that” but it was so odd. When she left I looked up his name and he was there. I float so I have access pretty much everywhere & I went to his floor & saw him there with his wife who has apparently been there every single day for hours. He was using his phone and he was admitted for an injury caused by another person who has not been caught.

The CNA is a bit naive and has broken English so I’m pretty sure the “girlfriend” was taking advantage of her employment access. I can’t help but wonder what she would’ve done had she known he was there? And does she just answer questions for people all the time.

Should I report her to a supervisor? Our job takes that seriously so she might get fired & I hate that for her but it’s just not sitting well with me. She’s very sweet otherwise and again I think she’s being used.

My PRN job is in a memory care facility. I was FT at this facility & DON…I was the go to person for mostly everything & I KNOW what’s required here. They have recently been hiring the bottom of the barrel. I can’t tell if this is a joke.

3 of the new overnight hires are friends & they just don’t care. They ALWAYS leave people soaking wet & they never get anyone up. When the morning aides come in they start 2hrs late bc they have to pick up overnights slack. I told the DON 3wks ago(that’s when I found out) and she said “Thanks for the info” but continues to give these girls shifts. They don’t do laundry or anything so there is really no point of them being there.

Last night was my first time meeting them in person & I immediately asked, “why do you guys keep leaving ppl soaking wet all night?” They tried to defend themselves with some BS so I interrupted them and I got loud. We have so much skin breakdown and UTIs on their halls & it’s never been like this so I’m a little irritated.

I told them to please STFU bc there’s absolutely no excuse for leaving all of those people soaking wet in their beds for 8 fucking hours EVERY single time they work! I asked them if they were stupid or dumb & told them that they’re inconsiderate to every single person in that building when they clock in for their free money. They are lazy triflin bitches and I told them all of this and dared them to do something about it bc yeah I was at that point. I told them I would’ve fired them and reported them to EMR.

I probably looked psycho but they PMO! I feel like yelling at the DON too bc she’s so docile and eager to be liked I question if she even said anything to them. Regardless they’ve been CNAs for 5-10yrs and know better but they’re taking advantage of the DON. I’m usually very composed & professional but these 3 have a lot of audacity & they’ve been doing this for 2months.

I’m PRN/no longer DON now so I try to “stay in my place” but this is ridiculous & it’s not fair to the residents/morning staff. I want to report the entire building.

My sister and her kids recently moved in with me. Her kids are screen kids & her 12yr old had dark circles under her eyes. The others are extremely emotional/sluggish. They’re on their devices the entire day and my sister sends them to bed at 11pm. I told her that she needs to give them a routine/hobbies and send them to bed earlier since school starts 7:30am.

She told me they’re fine but clearly they’re not. She’s been going out more/working so I’ve been home with the kids. I limited their screen time, bought art supplies(little one loves them), sent the 12yr old on 10min walks around the building with music( she’s been walking 20+min by choice now) and I don’t feed them that processed trash my sis buys. I send them to bed at 8, 12yr old @9/9:30.

My sis witnessed this last night and told me that her kids will go to bed at 11pm bc 8pm doesn’t work for them. Sorry but it has been working for over a week now & I told her that. She’s upset and told the family. They want me to apologize for overstepping a boundary and not understanding “parenting.” I don’t think I attacked her parenting. I felt like I was coming from a good place…AITA for going over her head?

My DON is spineless. There are NO repercussions for anything…the caregivers come and go as they please, they call off daily & at the last minute bc they don’t feel like working. I start my shift 2hrs late bc I have to find coverage & I spend the rest of my shift playing catch up especially when I have to pass meds at the last minute. It’s very frustrating. The staff doesn’t give a phuck so families ALWAYS come to the nurse to complain. I leave work feeling overwhelmed & anxious. When I “complain” they say, “this is just how it is in facilities.” Well…

I was standing DON for 6months(huge raise) and put rules in place and the staff complied bc they knew I was serious. The facility was running smooth, I was fair and they knew what was expected. I even had housekeeping on their A game. Families had no complaints bc I was on top of everything and I didn’t feel stressed/burned out. When the regular DON came back everything became chaotic again.

I know why they won’t give me her job but this is ridiculous. If you see the obvious difference you’d think the company would make the better choice. I just can’t keep doing this but I’m having no luck finding a new job. I typically find a new job hours after quitting one but for some reason I feel STUCK here.

Any nurses here? I’m curious if anyone else has a job where there are absolutely no repercussions to calling in? The staff picks up and takes off whenever they want and the DON says absolutely nothing!

4ppl called off my shift this morning. I honestly don’t care to find coverage or stress myself. I have to pass meds and make sure the residents look decent enough for their families (Mother’s Day). We have families that show up during the morning shift change just to start shxt. I get super sassy with them & I hate that but I have to bc I’m doing the best can with so little to work with so having someone in my face calling me incompetent bc a CNA didn’t brush mothers hair is very frustrating. I’ve told the DON before that the lack of discipline and frequent call offs puts me in an anxious/irritated mindset.

I keep getting told that it’s like this everywhere but this is the only job I’ve had so far with so much audacity. It’s the same ppl who call off/walk out of their shifts and the same relatives who rant. WHY does she ignore structure/solutions? I was acting DON for 6months & we didn’t have these issues at all so it’s very doable. The DON just doesn’t care! It’s taking everything in me not to go home right now.

I’m PRN but I rarely pick up and this reminded me why. Whatever happens today just happens. Ugh!