u/Objective-Average387

I got the distinct impression that DFW was using this characters like sock puppets so that he could say the N word. As a Black Woman reader with millennial sensibilities, it felt cheap. There wasn't any redemptive social commentary that made the N word worth it. Along with the misogyny in the book, it was like being abused and paying for the privilege.

I quit after 2 thirds. That's enough of your weird story, you racist sock puppet.

Have any of you read these articles about people who went through a drastic weight loss then getting divorced? Have any of you observed this in the wild?

I'm divorcing a sex addict with secret babies and starting the second act of my weight loss journey. I feel way more confidence about my future dating prospects now that I have reta in my toolbox. This confidence makes it even easier to leave a marriage that was already unbearable, but I can't see myself leaving a marriage that was actually good just because I'm hotter now.

I these days of influencer overconsumption, I was thinking about what the optimal fragrance collection would be.

Here are my metrics:

1. I can actually see the whole collection at once. (Collections so large where the person forgets what they even have - are out)

2. Each item is distinct enough where one isn't so easily substituted by another in the collection. (Ten slightly different vanilla scents are a No)

3. The fragrances are all nines and tens and I really love each one. (Curated to my taste, No impulse buying.)

What other metrics go into building a collection? How big is your collection? How did you come into it?

I am in the process of divorcing after discovering multiple affairs and secret babies.

I found the Surrendered Wife and Empowered Wife books early in my marriage and put the skills to work. I love the teachings and completely believe in them. I even bought the book for other women as gifts!

No amount of intimacy skills are going to solve a problem that occurs outside the relationship and then spills over into the marriage. Towards the end, my ex was trying to train me into performing a fake marriage with him. He wanted to play in my face and me not say anything. He wanted me to fund his secret life. He wanted me to be a brainwashed cult follower instead of a help-mate.

I refused and had to love him out the door.

The intimacy skills definitely made the most of whatever the marriage was destined to be. It definitely made me a happier and better wife. But the skills can't overcome a husband who thinks he's entitled to actively undermine the marriage in the most devastating way possible.

It's my prayer that I will one day have a wonderful husband and a beautiful marriage with a healthy man. A man that I can use the skills on and they work for a lifetime.

❤️🙏🏽

I watched a few YouTube videos of Molly Crabapple talk about this era of Jewish history that was unknown to me and I am so interested!

I want to read about the Bund but hate how she sounds like the biggest pickme simp whenever she talks to Muslims. Can anyone recommend me a good book about the Bund that's not a minstrel show for gentiles?

Thank you 🙏🏽❤️😊

To me, the Duchess of Sussex is the epitome of what a solid, airtight level up can do. I really admire her and if you watch closely, she's giving the playbook away for the cost of time and research. Watching her Netflix show and looking at her blog, the Tig.

Meghan Markle was studying the British aristocracy for years before she met Prince Harry. She was ambitious and focused and doggedly determined. Her example is worth studying.

I'm doing a 90-day plan to be "that girl" so to speak. Getting into the upper class social scene in my city, leveling up my options and changing my life.

1. Weight Loss - strict healthy eating and hard exercise
2. Etiquette Book - Amy Vanderbilt Complete Guide
3. Eye Makeup Game - Shadow, Eyelash Curler and Mascara
4. Calligraphy and Flower Arranging (bougie housewife energy)
5. Inner Work - Mantras, meditation and self-esteem

Having (in general) closer ties to extended family and reduced exposure to mind-numbing technology, Africa's children are in a way better position to deal with the future.

Especially the kids from peaceful African countries. It's been said that by 2050, one third of the babies born will be on the continent of Africa. The future looks bright!