u/Objective-Macaron389

For some context my bf is from up north and I am down south. He came down south to go to uni and that’s how we met. We have been dating for 7 months and in that time him and I have practically lived together in him accommodation alone since we have been together.

He has met my mum for lunch with me and met my dad briefly but I haven’t met any of his family (other than maybe a quick hello how are you on facetime when they facetime my bf while he is at uni) as they live 3 hours away from the uni.

I am going to his house next weekend to stay 3 nights Friday - Monday.

Just wondering how do I make my less awkward as I don’t want to come across as rude but I am a very shy person until I become familiar with them.

I will have to get the train which will take like 2 and half hours.

Is there anything I should be aware of when they pick me up from the station (if they do) and if I should bring them something and how to act less awkward. Staying there for 3 nights means I will also have to shower there, so do I bring my own towel or not and how do I even ask?

Please help

We haven’t been dating long. We started dating November 2025 and we met in Uni. So during the summer and breaks we are 3 hours away from each other. During the easter break we were away from each other for 3 and half weeks and for the first part of our relationship we spent pretty much every day and night together so it was weird to be apart. However during this easter break he got a free trial to OnlyFans and text a co worker of his that he “wishes he didn’t have a girlfriend” & “he would try and get with her if he didn’t have a girl, because other co workers thought they had a thing” she turned him down and she said people were causing drama & then she sent me the screenshots.

My boyfriends excuse was he was drunk out of his mind and he doesn’t mean it at all and he’s just a very horny person and sometimes when he hasn’t seen his significant other in a while his head goes to overthinking and he wishes he was single but he doesn’t want to lose me and couldn’t think of anything worse.

And now i may be very dumb but i forgave him and we moved forward. However now my boyfriend is really into the idea of me sleeping with another guy and when he talks about it he talks down on himself (as like humiliation i think?) and also he would like to sleep with another girl and talks me down when we discuss it when we try and turn each other on.

He wants to watch me sleep with someone else and the same he wants me to watch him sleep with someone. I said i would give it a go at least once.

However i can’t seem to get it out of my head that he maybe says he’s into this to get a free pass to cheat? Is this is a possibility? When i asked him he said it’s not that at all he just finds it really hot. But i also try and think that if he’s being genuine and it is a kink he has then no matter who he has sex with he still is dating me and loves me. But then i also think like what if he ends up liking this random girl more than me?

TL;DR I love him a lot he is a good boyfriend and we have basically lived together for all the months i’ve known in since we both go to the same uni so we eat sleep and study together we even share the same friend circle at uni and i don’t want to lose him but im not sure what to do i feel like im miserable if i stay (but there are parts that make it worth it and good) but then i feel like id be even more miserable without him with very little positive.

We haven’t been dating long. We started dating November 2025 and we met in Uni. So during the summer and breaks we are 3 hours away from each other. During the easter break we were away from each other for 3 and half weeks and for the first part of our relationship we spent pretty much every day and night together so it was weird to be apart. However during this easter break he got a free trial to OnlyFans and text a co worker of his that he “wishes he didn’t have a girlfriend” & “he would try and get with her if he didn’t have a girl, because other co workers thought they had a thing” she turned him down and she said people were causing drama & then she sent me the screenshots.

My boyfriends excuse was he was drunk out of his mind and he doesn’t mean it at all and he’s just a very horny person and sometimes when he hasn’t seen his significant other in a while his head goes to overthinking and he wishes he was single but he doesn’t want to lose me and couldn’t think of anything worse.

And now i may be very dumb but i forgave him and we moved forward. However now my boyfriend is really into the idea of me sleeping with another guy and when he talks about it he talks down on himself (as like humiliation i think?) and also he would like to sleep with another girl and talks me down when we discuss it when we try and turn each other on.

He wants to watch me sleep with someone else and the same he wants me to watch him sleep with someone. I said i would give it a go at least once.

However i can’t seem to get it out of my head that he maybe says he’s into this to get a free pass to cheat? Is this is a possibility? When i asked him he said it’s not that at all he just finds it really hot. But i also try and think that if he’s being genuine and it is a kink he has then no matter who he has sex with he still is dating me and loves me. But then i also think like what if he ends up liking this random girl more than me?

We haven’t been dating long. We started dating November 2025 and we met in Uni. So during the summer and breaks we are 3 hours away from each other. During the easter break we were away from each other for 3 and half weeks and for the first part of our relationship we spent pretty much every day and night together so it was weird to be apart. However during this easter break he got a free trial to OnlyFans and text a co worker of his that he “wishes he didn’t have a girlfriend” & “he would try and get with her if he didn’t have a girl, because other co workers thought they had a thing” she turned him down and she said people were causing drama & then she sent me the screenshots.

My boyfriends excuse was he was drunk out of his mind and he doesn’t mean it at all and he’s just a very horny person and sometimes when he hasn’t seen his significant other in a while his head goes to overthinking and he wishes he was single but he doesn’t want to lose me and couldn’t think of anything worse.

And now i may be very dumb but i forgave him and we moved forward. However now my boyfriend is really into the idea of me sleeping with another guy and when he talks about it he talks down on himself (as like humiliation i think?) and also he would like to sleep with another girl and talks me down when we discuss it when we try and turn each other on.

He wants to watch me sleep with someone else and the same he wants me to watch him sleep with someone. I said i would give it a go at least once.

However i can’t seem to get it out of my head that he maybe says he’s into this to get a free pass to cheat? Is this is a possibility? When i asked him he said it’s not that at all he just finds it really hot. But i also try and think that if he’s being genuine and it is a kink he has then no matter who he has sex with he still is dating me and loves me. But then i also think like what if he ends up liking this random girl more than me?