i got like a magplant and gaia's and shit i used to run a bfg i think? what yall do now?
like be honest this shit is dead but if u are still playing and having fun what're u doin?
Basically title. To y'all who are in a QPR relationship but not in a romantic relationship, do you see yourself getting into a romantic relationship while in a QPR?
It would’ve been about two years ago now that I (nb23) confessed my feelings for my best friend (m23). We’d known each other for about two years at that point and had been really close for one of them. Now, I’ve known him for four years, and we’ve been incredibly close for three.
When I confessed to him, I told him I loved him as a best friend and that I wanted to continue to love him like that, but with everything that comes from a romantic relationship—more time spent together, dates, cuddling, all that fun stuff. Ultimately, he said he didn’t feel the same way about me.
Nothing really changed with our friendship. We still hung out, maybe not as often for the first month or two. After a few months, I got on dating apps and had a handful of first and second dates with some people. Some felt really good, some didn’t—the typical Hinge experience.
I really thought I was over him—though, to be fair, there were some warning signs. I met someone on those dating apps who reminded me a lot of him, and for a while after that I’d think about him in a romantic sense every so often.
We started hanging out more. He’d come over every Wednesday night and we’d binge shows, get high, and he’d crash at my place. He decided he wanted to go to a trade school closer to my place than his parents’, and we decided he could stay over for half the week and spend the other half at his dad’s.
It’s been about half a year since he started staying at my place for half the week. Feelings didn't really come up for me until about 3 months ago, when we started talking more about relationships and dating in general. Not us dating, but in general.
Anyways, to the crux of my problem: He says he talks about me nearly as much as his own brother, whom I know he loves very much. He says that I’m basically the only person, besides his brother, whom he ever talks about. He'll recall stories from his school of friends asking why we aren't dating and he says "because we are just friends," or how when describing his dream partner it's something as simple as each co-existing near eachother while participating in their own hobbies. The note there is, the two or so time he's talked about this, it's always hobbies we both have. Not shared hobbies, but for example, one of us reads and one of us draws - and he'd phrase it as "someone who I can just draw while they read and just share space".
He even brought up the time I asked him if he wanted to date, something we've literally never talked about since I asked him. I kinda just laughed it off, he said it more of a "remember that time..?" then anything else. I couldn't figure out how to respond or what he wanted me to respond with, I still can't.
As I continue this, I want to make it very clear that I'm made uncomfortable by these and other comments. I'm not really trying to confess to him again, I don't think that's right, I just want to set up a boundary here. These comments and jokes among various others really make me uncomfortable and I'm struggling to find a good way to express that. I want to hear about his dating life, about his relationships, and his longings and etc. But I don't want to hear about it in a way that centers around me; how I set the bar for his partners, how all his friends at school say we should date, how he wants a partner to spend time with while doing our exact hobbies.
We've talked before about how we view relationships differently, he has a long and hard history of friends>relationship>terrible exes, and he's expressed to me how we became close friends at a time where he needed a purely platonic relationship. All of that, in theory, is fine with me. I'm just struggling to find the words and place to make boundaries that allow that to be comfortable with me.
Living, as we are, is sustainable to me. It's short term, it'll only be another half a year, and I really really enjoy the time we spend together. I want to be friends for much longer.
how you would set boundaries with him in regards to those comments and conversations?
**TL;DR:** I \[23NB\] confessed feelings to my best friend \[23M\] two years ago, and he did not feel the same way. We stayed very close, and he now stays at my place half the week for school. My feelings have come back, and some of his comments about relationships make me uncomfortable because they seem to center me or our friendship. How do I set these boundaries without damaging the friendship?
EDIT: Clarifying something I left out — I’m not trying to re-confess, but if he does have feelings for me, I do want to know. Part of what makes these comments hard is not knowing whether they mean something. So the boundary I want is really: either the comments stop, or he’s honest about what’s behind them.
It would’ve been about two years ago now that I (nb23) confessed my feelings for my best friend (m23). We’d known each other for about two years at that point and had been really close for one of them. Now, I’ve known him for four years, and we’ve been incredibly close for three.
When I confessed to him, I told him I loved him as a best friend and that I wanted to continue to love him like that, but with everything that comes from a romantic relationship—more time spent together, dates, cuddling, all that fun stuff. Ultimately, he said he didn’t feel the same way about me.
Nothing really changed with our friendship. We still hung out, maybe not as often for the first month or two. After a few months, I got on dating apps and had a handful of first and second dates with some people. Some felt really good, some didn’t—the typical Hinge experience.
I really thought I was over him—though, to be fair, there were some warning signs. I met someone on those dating apps who reminded me a lot of him, and for a while after that I’d think about him in a romantic sense every so often.
We started hanging out more. He’d come over every Wednesday night and we’d binge shows, get high, and he’d crash at my place. He decided he wanted to go to a trade school closer to my place than his parents’, and we decided he could stay over for half the week and spend the other half at his dad’s.
It’s been about half a year since he started staying at my place for half the week. Feelings didn't really come up for me until about 3 months ago, when we started talking more about relationships and dating in general. Not us dating, but in general.
Anyways, to the crux of my problem: He says he talks about me nearly as much as his own brother, whom I know he loves very much. He says that I’m basically the only person, besides his brother, whom he ever talks about. He'll recall stories from his school of friends asking why we aren't dating and he says "because we are just friends," or how when describing his dream partner it's something as simple as each co-existing near eachother while participating in their own hobbies. The note there is, the two or so time he's talked about this, it's always hobbies we both have. Not shared hobbies, but for example, one of us reads and one of us draws - and he'd phrase it as "someone who I can just draw while they read and just share space".
He even brought up the time I asked him if he wanted to date, something we've literally never talked about since I asked him. I kinda just laughed it off, he said it more of a "remember that time..?" then anything else. I couldn't figure out how to respond or what he wanted me to respond with, I still can't.
As I continue this, I want to make it very clear that I'm made uncomfortable by these and other comments. I'm not really trying to confess to him again, I don't think that's right, I just want to set up a boundary here. These comments and jokes among various others really make me uncomfortable and I'm struggling to find a good way to express that. I want to hear about his dating life, about his relationships, and his longings and etc. But I don't want to hear about it in a way that centers around me; how I set the bar for his partners, how all his friends at school say we should date, how he wants a partner to spend time with while doing our exact hobbies.
We've talked before about how we view relationships differently, he has a long and hard history of friends>relationship>terrible exes, and he's expressed to me how we became close friends at a time where he needed a purely platonic relationship. All of that, in theory, is fine with me. I'm just struggling to find the words and place to make boundaries that allow that to be comfortable with me.
Living, as we are, is sustainable to me. It's short term, it'll only be another half a year, and I really really enjoy the time we spend together. I want to be friends for much longer.
how you would set boundaries with him in regards to those comments and conversations?
**TL;DR:** I \[23NB\] confessed feelings to my best friend \[23M\] two years ago, and he did not feel the same way. We stayed very close, and he now stays at my place half the week for school. My feelings have come back, and some of his comments about relationships make me uncomfortable because they seem to center me or our friendship. How do I set these boundaries without damaging the friendship?
EDIT: Clarifying something I left out — I’m not trying to re-confess, but if he does have feelings for me, I do want to know. Part of what makes these comments hard is not knowing whether they mean something. So the boundary I want is really: either the comments stop, or he’s honest about what’s behind them.
I have a GI appointment in may.. but in the meantime, I've been dying!
I work a very physical job where it's imperative for me to be stable on my feet and for some reason lately I haven't been. I've been getting nauseous after eating, I've had extremely low energy, and then all of a sudden my doctor gave me a blood test and it's very likely I have celiac.
I feel like such a bum lately. I like to think whatever I'm dealing with was triggered back in December, and just has gotten worse since. I had an episode in January & March where I had to miss a lot of work, but for the past three week's I've been suffering. I haven't been able to make it to work, which isn't really a big deal, my parents said they will support me and I'm in the process of getting on FMLA, but that doesn't change the fact that I feel like a bum.
I really am just looking for empathy; when you guys get "glutened", is it this bad? I don't know if I'm overreacting or using the potential diagnosis as a placebo effect to make myself feel worse, yk.