u/Ok_Grade_1798

Lately ive noticed that a friend around my age has been acting different lately. Suddenly shes been making fat jokes about herself, she never wants to eat together, and I heard from her sister that shes basically been ​eating once a day. I don't think she's fat. I think she's generally average ish weight, and I haven't ever commented on her body, in fact I don't think any of her close or immediate family has either.

Im not sure how to talk to her about this or if I'm even in a position too

My parents set a rule that if you're younger than 18, you have to go with them to events, and I thought that was fair and made sense. However, when I turned 18, I had a really hard time finding a job, and I was applying all over the place with no luck. Because of that, they changed the rule and made it if you're over 18 without a job, you have to go with them to events. This made me a little sad because it felt unfair and like they were telling me I wasn't trying hard enough. However, I conceded because I have to and because I thought it was fair enough. When I brought up the rule for an event they were going to as clarification, my mom immediately accused me of not getting a job on purpose, and this made me cry really hard and my parents called me over dramatic. However, recently, I finally landed a job at a grocery store, and I'm very excited. I turned 19 last month and got a job this month, but my parents are still giving me no choice in going to an event. When they told me I had to go to a baptism of some random cousin who I don't speak to or like, I didn't say anything, and they told me I was back talking. They told me I had to go because they said so. My mom came into my room to ask for a reason, and I know if I gave the actual reason, she would only get madder. So, instead of explaining how I felt it was unfair, I said I just didn't want to go, and I didn't know the reason why. She still got upset even though I told her I would go and I wouldn't complain.

I recently turned 19 and I dont know why I thought it would magically make things better for me but it didnt. I think I genuinely hate myself and I think I'm pathetic.

I hate how I look and how I smile. I have such a fat face and and I feel like I'm getting so fat. I used to look so nice and now I look like a freaking pig, and I hate eating now. I used to love eating and now I hate the thought. Im currently eating once a day and even then, I'm trying to limit that. I feel disgusting every time I think about having a snack like a fruit cup because all I think about is how fat I look. I dont even have a nice face to make up for it. I have three other sisters and everyday I have to live with being the ugly sister, and it hurts when other relatives, friends, or strangers point it out.

I feel so stressed. Ive been applying to jobs like crazy. I've gone in person and talked with managers. I've had interviews. And I cant even get hired by McDonald's. I managed to get a job but it only lasted three months because it was just a program, and I applied to the summer position and the manager said they would hire me when the time came because they liked having me. The thing is they didnt hire me and I tried reaching out about why and what I could do better and they just told me to try again next year. It just made me feel like absolute dog poop. I'm a full time college student and all throughout my life I have gotten good grades and I have a lot of volunteer experience, but I have no work experience except that one three month job I did.

I have to figure out a way to pay for college, gas, car insurance, and still have enough for a vet. With that, my car insurance went up by a lot and I cant afford it so now I have to look for cheaper insurance. I hate complaining because I am on good terms with my parents and I live with them, but doing a family plan is out of the question because they dont believe in that and think it would prevent me from being independent. I owe my parents money because recently I couldnt afford the last two months of car insurance.

I dont see a future for myself especially when no fast food, retail, storage, or mailing company thinks I'm good enough to hire. I have always been a staright A student all throughout school and even now in college, but it doesnt mean anything so whats even the point of good well in school if Wendys wont even hire me. What are the chances I'll find an actual job within the field of study? Probably not likely.

I'm 19, I'm an adult, but I dont know how to do anything and I feel bad for my parents who have to deal with me being a bum. A low life. A good for nothing. I cant get a job. I'm not smart. I'm not talented. And I cant do basic things. I'm of no use.

The title is a little dramatic, but it does feel that way. I know I have a crush on this guy, but I won't allow myself to. It's hard to explain, but I will try just in hopes someone reaches out.

I think a big point to note is that I am demisexual, and after about two and a half years of friendship I find myself crushing on him and I feel bad. I don't allow myself to flirt and I don't allow myself to let conversations steer towards any "intimate" conversations (like family matters or deep, inner personal struggles). I think part of the reason is that it scares me because what if secretly I'm just not good enough or the relationship ends up sour.

Another part is just that he's so friendly to everyone. I know he has a hard time adjusting to new environments, but when he puts his mind to it (and he always gives it his all) everyone loves him because he's kind and understanding.

I know I'm young and naive, and the only interactions we have had were usually in school (we became actual friends mid-junior year). But during those times, he would always actively seek me out during free periods and lunches, and even during friend group hang outs, we usually end up talking in a corner together (like we did last month). However, I really think its only because he sees me as awkward and overtly anxious. And I have had problems in the past where friends would only like me because they saw me as something to take care of, and its an awful feeling. I dont feel that way with him exactly, but its the fear that he might actually think that way.

Another thing that scares me is that hes so open with me, and I dont know if he's like that to other people. I've also had friendships in the past where someone was telling me something that I had to take to the grave with me only to find out other people (related friends or acquaintances) already knew before me. But I think he might just generally be an open book, and I'm hoping too much that him telling me that his cat pooped on his floor by accident is funny between us.

And I think the worst part is I dont think I even deserve to be having a crush. Recently I've been really low and generally anxious, and I'm not seeing myself in a positive light. Just from that, I shouldnt even be considering having a crush. I want to talk to him about my worries, but all I ever think of is this message he sent where he said he was fine with venting/ranting because he was used to being people's "therapists". I felt awful after that and I avoid talking about heavy topics because it doesn’t seem fair to him especially when I have close family I can turn to.

But at the end of the day, I've convinced myself its all a phase. I love love, and I get so excited thinking about how one day I might get to share life with someone special. But right now, I just won't let myself because its not fair to me or anyone.

(And I'm sorry I sound so stupid)

I'm 19 and Ive been searching for new insurance and eventually landed on Allstate being my best choice.

I purchased my policy on the​ 15th and it said it would be active on the 17th, which is today. I was panicking the past two days because I couldnt find the id card on neither website nor app, but was told I could acces it on the start date, which is today. I still cant see it or access it and I'm getting nervous, so I called and all they said was that Im able to access it but I cant find it. The policy is active byt according to my bank account, the purchase hasnt been processed, so I'm even more confused.

Am I doing something wrong or am I just a stupid teenager?

I recently turned 19 and I dont know why I thought it would magically make things better for me but it didnt. I think I genuinely hate myself and I think I'm pathetic.

I hate how I look and how I smile. I have such a fat face and and I feel like I'm getting so fat. I used to look so nice and now I look like a freaking pig, and I hate eating now. I used to love eating and now I hate the thought. Im currently eating once a day and even then, I'm trying to limit that. I feel disgusting every time I think about having a snack like a fruit cup because all I think about is how fat I look. I dont even have a nice face to make up for it. I have three other sisters and everyday I have to live with being the ugly sister, and it hurts when other relatives, friends, or strangers point it out.

I feel so stressed. Ive been applying to jobs like crazy. I've gone in person and talked with managers. I've had interviews. And I cant even get hired by McDonald's. I managed to get a job but it only lasted three months because it was just a program, and I applied to the summer position and the manager said they would hire me when the time came because they liked having me. The thing is they didnt hire me and I tried reaching out about why and what I could do better and they just told me to try again next year. It just made me feel like absolute dog poop. I'm a full time college student and all throughout my life I have gotten good grades and I have a lot of volunteer experience, but I have no work experience except that one three month job I did.

I have to figure out a way to pay for college, gas, car insurance, and still have enough for a vet. With that, my car insurance went up by a lot and I cant afford it so now I have to look for cheaper insurance. I hate complaining because I am on good terms with my parents and I live with them, but doing a family plan is out of the question because they dont believe in that and think it would prevent me from being independent. I owe my parents money because recently I couldnt afford the last two months of car insurance.

I dont see a future for myself especially when no fast food, retail, storage, or mailing company thinks I'm good enough to hire. I want to be an art teacher, but most of my family says I'm too sensitive and too quiet to even consider becoming a teacher. Am I dreaming too big? I dont know, but every night I'm pinching myself and crying.

I'm an older teen and legally an adult. I should be better and have thing figured out and settled already and I feel like such a big failure. I really hope I'm not alone in this because it hurts a lot.

The title is a little dramatic, but it does feel that way. I know I have a crush on this guy, but I won't allow myself to. It's hard to explain, but I will try just in hopes someone reaches out.

I think a big point to note is that I am demisexual, and after about two and a half years of friendship I find myself crushing on him and I feel bad. I don't allow myself to flirt and I don't allow myself to let conversations steer towards any "intimate" conversations (like family matters or deep, inner personal struggles). I think part of the reason is that it scares me because what if secretly I'm just not good enough or the relationship ends up sour.

Another part is just that he's so friendly to everyone. I know he has a hard time adjusting to new environments, but when he puts his mind to it (and he always gives it his all) everyone loves him because he's kind and understanding.

I know I'm young and naive, and the only interactions we have had were usually in school (we became actual friends mid-junior year). But during those times, he would always actively seek me out during free periods and lunches, and even during friend group hang outs, we usually end up talking in a corner together (like we did last month). However, I really think its only because he sees me as awkward and overtly anxious. And I have had problems in the past where friends would only like me because they saw me as something to take care of, and its an awful feeling. I dont feel that way with him exactly, but its the fear that he might actually think that way.

Another thing that scares me is that hes so open with me, and I dont know if he's like that to other people. I've also had friendships in the past where someone was telling me something that I had to take to the grave with me only to find out other people (related friends or acquaintances) already knew before me. But I think he might just generally be an open book, and I'm hoping too much that him telling me that his cat pooped on his floor by accident is funny between us.

And I think the worst part is I dont think I even deserve to be having a crush. Recently I've been really low and generally anxious, and I'm not seeing myself in a positive light. Just from that, I shouldnt even be considering having a crush. I want to talk to him about my worries, but all I ever think of is this message he sent where he said he was fine with venting/ranting because he was used to being people's "therapists". I felt awful after that and I avoid talking about heavy topics because it doesn’t seem fair to him especially when I have close family I can turn to.

But at the end of the day, I've convinced myself its all a phase. I love love, and I get so excited thinking about how one day I might get to share life with someone special. But right now, I just won't let myself because its not fair to me or anyone.

(And I'm sorry I sound so stupid)