u/Ok_Weird_6756

I'm making my first server currently, an ultra hard core HQC cold war server. I've added ACE core dev and various ace mods but I cant figure out how to remove the bananas. I've basically only opened the workshop once, so I'm unfamiliar with it.

I've really just quit arma after the downfall of spearhead. I don't care what excuses they have, they always fail their player base and make everyone mad with poor decisions. Excuses can only be valid for so long. Cyber attacks, mod issues, crashes, full server crashes, and making servers no no one wants to play which only fucks the queue even more. Literally never seen a more unstable server in my life. They seem to have some bigtime commitment issues or something man. It's a shame they made the best server and some of the best mods.

When I was consistently playing this game for a while I felt like they always made some bullshit server different than the typical UHC gameplay(the stuff people actually want to play and that spearhead is known for). Bringing back core gameplay even though nobody wanted it because the owner felt like it, Bringing back HC even though most still just wanted UHC (although some did play HC), starting afgansistan servers, and now I boot up the game after a long time and see this black hawk down and ww2 bullshit. Most stupid server decisions ever dude. They know most of the players just want a stable UHC server with good maps but they just cannot seem to bring themselves to do that. Not to mention they are trying to branch out to different games when they can't even do one right consistently.

My thought is that all of this stems from the core staff (whoever makes all the decisions whether it's solely RUMOR or not) not personally liking the UHC gameplay they are known for. Every single other server I've played in my 1,150 hours in this game rarely make big changes to their server. They find their bread and butter, and make that the stable consistent gameplay that people can look forward to when they get home. Fuck spearhead. They gave me what I wanted the most out of any game I've ever played and then continue to ruin it.

here’s what’s been working for me to drastically reduce screen time.

- deleting TikTok, Instagram, Facebook, all of those sorts of apps except YouTube. I just don’t have will power to stay on top of not scrolling and it’s easier to just delete them.
-restricted YouTube access through an app. Limits my YouTube usage into 4 15minute block totaling to an hour.
- cleaning out all old apps and photos to reduce digital clutter
- heavily restricting YouTube on my computer through a google extension. YouTube in my computer is literally just a search bar for videos. There’s no suggestions, home page, comments, and no shorts. Just a black screen with a search bar, my liked videos, and watch later videos.

I’m nearing 2 weeks on this and the results are:

- Tolerable silence, enjoyable more recently. I enjoy sitting, driving, and doing things in silence a lot more now. I used to always have to be listening to either music or YouTube.

- Reading and drawing. The reading part is newer. But I’ve always wanted to do both of those but it was never actually satisfying to do either of them. I think this was due to dopamine sensitivity mainly.

- Doing more day to day chores and they are honestly enjoyable now. Things like dishes, sweeping, laundry, those sorts of things. Again I suspect this is due to dopamine sensitivity. The dopamine hit I get from these activities is no longer compared to a baseline dopamine level of doomscrolling.

- watching movies and YouTube videos I am way more engaged in them and have much more attention span.

- I’ve found my self looking through my photos when bored. This is a willpower thing. I could end up going on YouTube for a 15min block, going on Reddit, or playing mobile games. And while I know those are available and I do give in to them sometimes, I try not to.

- better sleep schedule and generally taking better care of myself. It’s a whole lot easier to go to bed on time when the signal for sleep is not shouted over by scrolling or video games. I used to scroll and play videos games so much I wouldn’t even realize I was getting tired until I was ready to pass out at 2am+.

-listening to music now is euphoric now. I didn't listen to any music the first week and a half and only started listening to it again the past 3 days or so. I mean euphoric is the right word here. Its just amazing now and before it was just an everyday thing. Not sure why but still a positive change nonetheless

-Eating without entertainment. This one is more recent. I used to almost religiously eat with Youtube. Even when I wasn't home. I find myself eating in the silence of my thoughts lately and its weird. I haven't ate like this since I was a kid. No tv, no phone, no audio, just food and thoughts. This is not the biggest change I don't think, but its the most shocking to me. Youtube with food had just become such a way of life for me over the years.

TLDR- deleting harmful apps and restricting YouTube has been hard, but very worth it. Significant noticeable improvements in my daily life. Replace the phone with activities. Don’t just remove it alone.

- I’m about to put 6, 5 minute block restrictions on Reddit because I’ve been starting to scroll on here. It’s gets easier but the temptation is always there is some fashion. That fashion has just been feeding itself through Reddit recently

Genuine question. I've had multiple specific events from childhood all the way to now and I don't want to say too much in order to not dox myself. But the kicker is I don't feel empathy and I don't think I ever have, throughout many deaths. When I was a boy I watched a dog get ran over square in the forehead 10 ft away from me. I saw its brains explode out and the blood pool and it was no different that watching a bird fly away or something empathy wise for me. I lied at funerals as a kid that I was sad at the death(death of family friends) because I felt as a kid that it was weird to say no when you're asked " are you sad?". Things like those two examples from when I was boy all the way to now I've all had zero empathy for and it's confusing having to lie about it. Maybe I'm not a psychopath and just genuinely have no empathy? idk man. I can recognize events are sad and why you would feel empathy for them, but I can never feel it.

I recently thought about this for a while and I think it really a two part question of "Can we make decisions?" I think so. And also "Are we really making decisions on our own accord?" And I think yes as well.

Yes there are a million things that influence decisions which, causes a confliction with "on our own accord". But I think humans are not some third party entity where we are separate from our past experiences and genetics. I think those past experiences and genetics are part of what make us who we are Of course some influences are bigger than other and some smaller. If we are separate from those things then choices become soulless and random rather than chosen.

So yes basically all of our choices are driven by influences, but those influences are what makes the choices we make "on our own accord" to me. We are what happens to us and what happens to us shapes who we are. If a choice were free from all influences, would it really be our choice?

I think when you die its exactly like before you were born, its like being on anesthetic, or sleep without any dreams. I could see how this could be depressive for some but for me it seems calming and beautifully simple. Just curious what other people really think will happen to them when they die.