u/Old_Lobster_9629

So, I’ve never approached women on my own. Over the last 1 year some women on Reddit dmed me and i managed to mess most of them up. But i got into one relationship which ended up being a live in one, she and i lived for 6 months together. We thought we had time but all of a sudden she got a marriage proposal which she had to accept and that relationship ended and i moved on from it after her engagement happened.

so, i’ve been trying out dating apps but most of the women there look shallow, they don’t even write things about themselves, they’re not attractive to me because of that. Even if i find someone they’re not likely to swipe right on me as well.

how do i find someone as someone who’s trying things first time.

posting my feedback that my ex gave me in the comments to give a better idea, what do you suggest i do ?

Was in a live in with a Redditor and some events happened and we had to break up even tho we liked each other.

I feel so lonely, missing an essential person in my life who didn’t leave me at least 1 day for the last 6 months.

anyone wants to hangout in the weekends? for food or some other activity , I’ve got a big list of good food places that don’t disappoint 😄

did any ugly ones from here get matches or dates from there

I’m a 24 grad that did an internship related to rag projects and then joined Accenture(4.5 lpa) because i had no other offers.

They first trained me in java and then retrained me in dotnet and gave me gen ai work for a few months and back to dotnet again.

Getting a hike here is almost impossible in my project and it will take another year just to get 10k rupees more per month.

I’ve been freelancing on the side but that hasn’t been working that good because indian clients suck at paying.

I found some overseas clients as well but they’re indians again and they made problems with payments.

I interviewed at some places back in 2024 and 2025 but they said something during the hr calls but asked something else in the interviews

Getting interviews is hard, i get calls from my naukri sometimes but they look at my notice period and just say that they need people who are serving notice period or immediate joiners.

My ex got a marriage proposal and the guy earns 10x my salary so she couldn’t even tell her parents about us, she just left me.

What do you guys suggest i do? Is dotnet as a techstack going to look bad on my resume? Should i just look for dotnet related roles ? how do i go close to earning almost a lakh rupees per month in the next 6 months?

Brown skinned, 6 feet, software engineer who started lifting a year ago and hasn’t stopped since.

My idea of a good time is finding a small restaurant nobody’s heard of yet and ordering too much food.

I read manhwa obsessively and I’m slowly getting into light novels. I watch a lot of movies and I will absolutely make you sit through my recommendations.

I have a motorcycle. Lakes, scenic drives, stargazing, eating at weird hours — that’s my kind of date.

I’ll be upfront about who I am — I’m blunt. I say what I mean and I mean what I say. I’ll be honest with you even when it’s uncomfortable because I think that’s what actually makes something work.

What I’m hoping to find — someone who doesn’t shut down when their opinions are challenged, who takes care of themselves, who keeps their word.
Someone who wants to build something together, not just feel good in the moment. Financially ambitious is a plus. Nerdy is a very big plus.

Bonus points if you’re a software engineer and eat as enthusiastically as I do.

I drink once or twice a year, don’t smoke, and would prefer someone who doesn’t smoke either.

Preferably Hindu — less about religion, more about cultural familiarity.

I’m Padmanayaka Velama (OC). Your caste doesn’t matter to me at all — just putting mine out there in case it’s relevant to you.

If any of this resonates, say hi.

6 feet, dark skinned, software engineer, one year into taking fitness seriously and hitting new PRs every week.

I like finding good food in places nobody’s talking about — not the viral spots, the hidden ones. I read a lot of manhwa and I’m slowly getting into light novels. I’ll also watch movies with you until we run out of them.

I have a motorcycle. I want to take someone out on long rides, find lakes and sceneries, watch the stars. Maybe kiss under the moonlight if we’re being honest.

Fair warning — I’m very blunt. I’ll be honest with you every step of the way, even when it’s uncomfortable. I’d rather have that than pretend.

What I’m looking for — someone open minded. New perspectives should make you think, not shut down. Someone who keeps their promises, takes care of themselves, and wants to build something real together — financially, emotionally, all of it.

Nerdy is a big plus.

I’m Padmanayaka Velama (OC) and genuinely don’t care about your caste — but mentioning it upfront in case it matters to you.

If any of this sounds like you, say hi.

Made ai improve and arrange my points, sorry for sloppifying it, lol

6 feet, dark skinned, software engineer, one year into taking fitness seriously and hitting new PRs every week.

I like finding good food in places nobody’s talking about — not the viral spots, the hidden ones. I read a lot of manhwa and I’m slowly getting into light novels. I’ll also watch movies with you until we run out of them.

I have a motorcycle. I want to take someone out on long rides, find lakes and sceneries, watch the stars. Maybe kiss under the moonlight if we’re being honest.

Fair warning — I’m very blunt. I’ll be honest with you every step of the way, even when it’s uncomfortable. I’d rather have that than pretend.

What I’m looking for — someone open minded. New perspectives should make you think, not shut down. Someone who keeps their promises, takes care of themselves, and wants to build something real together — financially, emotionally, all of it.

Nerdy is a big plus.

I’m Padmanayaka Velama (OC) and genuinely don’t care about your caste — but mentioning it upfront in case it matters to you.

If any of this sounds like you, say hi.

Made ai improve and arrange my points, sorry for sloppifying it, lol

6 feet, dark skinned, software engineer, one year into taking fitness seriously and hitting new PRs every week.

I like finding good food in places nobody’s talking about — not the viral spots, the hidden ones. I read a lot of manhwa and I’m slowly getting into light novels. I’ll also watch movies with you until we run out of them.

I have a motorcycle. I want to take someone out on long rides, find lakes and sceneries, watch the stars. Maybe kiss under the moonlight if we’re being honest.

Fair warning — I’m very blunt. I’ll be honest with you every step of the way, even when it’s uncomfortable. I’d rather have that than pretend.

What I’m looking for — someone open minded. New perspectives should make you think, not shut down. Someone who keeps their promises, takes care of themselves, and wants to build something real together — financially, emotionally, all of it.

Nerdy is a big plus.

I’m Padmanayaka Velama (OC) and genuinely don’t care about your caste — but mentioning it upfront in case it matters to you.

If any of this sounds like you, say hi.

Made ai improve and arrange my points, sorry for sloppifying it, lol

6 feet, dark skinned, software engineer, one year into taking fitness seriously and hitting new PRs every week.

I like finding good food in places nobody’s talking about — not the viral spots, the hidden ones. I read a lot of manhwa and I’m slowly getting into light novels. I’ll also watch movies with you until we run out of them.

I have a motorcycle. I want to take someone out on long rides, find lakes and sceneries, watch the stars. Maybe kiss under the moonlight if we’re being honest.

Fair warning — I’m very blunt. I’ll be honest with you every step of the way, even when it’s uncomfortable. I’d rather have that than pretend.

What I’m looking for — someone open minded. New perspectives should make you think, not shut down. Someone who keeps their promises, takes care of themselves, and wants to build something real together — financially, emotionally, all of it.

Nerdy is a big plus.

I’m Padmanayaka Velama (OC) and genuinely don’t care about your caste — but mentioning it upfront in case it matters to you.

If any of this sounds like you, say hi.

Made ai improve and arrange my points, sorry for sloppifying it, lol