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There was four of us in my public gym sauna, as soon as the couple that was with us left, this guy starts staring at me, as in, turning his whole head to look at me.

Guy asks what’s the normal amount of time to spend in here

I say it’s normal to flip a timer about 15 mins, some people do ten, some twenty

He says it’s really hot

I said this one’s cool compared to the other one, it’s even hotter. And you’re on the top bench, it’s cooler if you sit lower

He goes oh really? I thought it was because of you

I said oh ha thanks

A minute later he goes
I’m sorry that I’m staring but I would really love to massage your body , it would be a dream come true

Eeeeeeyuck

I just wanted to share because maybe someone doesn’t know, it’s really not an appropriate place to try to pick up women.

And I guess I also just wanted to share my experience as a way to get this out of my system. I was just trying to unwind and relax and this random stranger brought upon me the absolute opposite feelings of what I was going for.

I asked again if I could send him something I wanted him to see, and told him I wouldn’t be spamming him because I know he doesn’t want to use that app much.

He said sure and sent me his insta, and I shared the post with him

After I did that, I saw that in 2022, apparently, we have already gone out!

There’s only 2 messages between us, him apologizing for last night and saying he was embarrassed, and I replied it’s okay don’t worry!

He asked for a chance to redeem himself, and added that he would understand if I don’t want that.

I never replied to that until I shared the post I wanted to share last night, and saw we have history 😀

I have no recollection of going on a date with him. I will for sure bring it up next time I see him in person, how silly.

Just wanted to update, thanks for everyone’s advice!

My boyfriend only uses Instagram as a way to message one specific friend who doesnt have any other social media. I want to add him on insta but he refuses. He doesn’t post anything on there or use it for anything other than messaging the one friend.

I’m trying not to care but honestly it bothers me, like if it doesn’t matter why can’t we follow each other?

I would like to occasionally send posts to him that I would like to talk about or for him to see. I don’t understand what the big deal is.

We are together for 6 months.

How should I communicate this to him or should I continue to suppress what I want? I tried to a couple of months ago and gave up because he really didn’t want to.

My boyfriend only uses Instagram as a way to message one specific friend who doesnt have any other social media. I want to add him on insta but he refuses. He doesn’t post anything on there or use it for anything other than messaging the one friend.

I’m trying not to care but honestly it bothers me, like if it doesn’t matter why can’t we follow each other?

I would like to occasionally send posts to him that I would like to talk about or for him to see. I don’t understand what the big deal is.

We are together for 6 months.

How should I communicate this to him or should I continue to suppress what I want? I tried to a couple of months ago and gave up because he really didn’t want to.

For people who lack internal drive but wish it was different, what steps of action to build new habits? In what order?

I got advice from the people from my uni who had taken it that they only used mehlman medical, uworld, FA.

That’s it.

Is pathoma and sketchy really necessary?

My boyfriend of 6 months has a bunch of different shampoos at his house, including several different ones for dandruff.

I don’t care whether he has dandruff, I have had it in the past, it really doesn’t matter to me.

Somehow the topic of dandruff came up though, I don’t remember what exactly I said but his response was a fired up “I’ve Never had dandruff in my LIFE”. This was a conversation in bed, after sex, before going to sleep. Vulnerable, honest time.

I just don’t believe him, literally on his profile photo you can even see a fleck or two of it.

Then I brought up the bunch of different shampoos, and he says he got those as maintenance. ????? If you’ve never had it, maintenance for whaaaat?

Anyways how would you feel about being lied to your face about something that doesn’t really matter?

(He did say, isn’t it fungal? In a way that made it seem like it might be a sensitive topic, and I told him not always, I’ve had it because I have dry skin)

Anyone doing this currently or have done it in the past?

There is so much to do and experience in life. I have spent more than half of my conscious life high. I have been successful and accomplished everything I have set out to, aside from my goal of not wanting to smoke. Weed might not be as dangerous as other drugs, thank god for that, because at the amount we all have smoked we would not be here anymore. Smoking cessation will add years to our lives, studies confirm this.

Imagine what you could accomplish with all of the time, energy, and mental clarity you receive upon giving up weed. Align yourself with a purpose, even if it starts out as simply becoming someone who doesn’t smoke. Give yourself grace, and start reading. Go to the gym, if you have access to a sauna, use it. Go outside. Take a bath. Do anything, even do nothing, so long as you do not smoke. Sit with the boredom, and at a point you will find something that is not boring, latch onto it.

Find a purpose greater than serving yourself. We did not come into this world alone, and if we now feel we are alone, it is our own fault that we have isolated ourselves into a corner.

It is selfish to get high multiple times a day. Sure, marijuana is fine on occasion for the people who aren’t addicted to it, but we must remember that it is our drug of choice, equivalent to an alcoholic or a harder drug addict by the behavior we have exhibited over and over again with it. We cannot have a normal healthy relationship with it; if we could, we would not be reading this.

I am reflecting on why I want to smoke: i have made it a habit, it is what I know. It is what I am comfortable with. Now I must relearn to live life without a quick dopamine fix every few hours.

Community is absolutely necessary. Speak to friends, go to marijuana anonymous meetings, or speak to yourself, or God. Write down your thoughts. Give yourself something to do instead of smoking.

It is a miracle we are here on earth, we must not squander our time repeating mistakes. Do something that makes the world a better place, even if it is solely your world. Clean your room. Just don’t smoke, because as soon as the high wears off, you will want to smoke again. Get off the Ferris wheel.