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I've been separated from my stbx wife for a few months. She up and left the house to go live with who she had been cheating on me with who is also separated from his wife. We have kids together and split our time up 50/50 currently. I'm in the military and our plan was for me to have the kids for their breaks from school during the summer, winter, and spring while she is the primary custodial parent so I can continue my career. I'm really not sure about this though because she had been lying about being in a relationship with this guy for a long time, even while we were separated (she would flip out if I even said anything that hinted towards it). She's talking about relocated to another state and I'm pretty sure after we're divorced she's going to marry him just for all the benefits she had with me. I'm considering giving up my career to stay here and pursue 50/50 and prevent the kids from leaving the state. Last time I brought up 50/50 it turned into a massive argument with her so it makes me very suspicious. I can't tell if I'm being paranoid but I have a really bad feeling about all of this. I really don't want want to give up my career because I enjoy it and it would make sure my kids are taken care of and eventually would pay for their college. It will also definitely hurt a lot financially for me to leave and finding a job is probably going to be difficult. I'm just really worried about being in a different part of the country from my kids and I need some input on this.

I've been separated from my stbx wife for a few months. She up and left the house to go live with who she had been cheating on me with who is also separated from his wife. We have kids together and split our time up 50/50 currently. I'm in the military and our plan was for me to have the kids for their breaks from school during the summer, winter, and spring while she is the primary custodial parent so I can continue my career. I'm really not sure about this though because she had been lying about being in a relationship with this guy for a long time, even while we were separated (she would flip out if I even said anything that hinted towards it). She's talking about relocated to another state and I'm pretty sure after we're divorced she's going to marry him just for all the benefits she had with me. I'm considering giving up my career to stay here and pursue 50/50 and prevent the kids from leaving the state. Last time I brought up 50/50 it turned into a massive argument with her so it makes me very suspicious. I can't tell if I'm being paranoid but I have a really bad feeling about all of this. I really don't want want to give up my career because I enjoy it and it would make sure my kids are taken care of and eventually would pay for their college. It will also definitely hurt a lot financially for me to leave and finding a job is probably going to be difficult. I'm just really worried about being in a different part of the country from my kids and I need some input on this.

I love my kids but I'm just sick of paying my ex child support. I always wanted the family, the house, and the white picket fence lifestyle, for awhile I did and I thought I made it in life until the rug was pulled out from under me. I'm 24 but I think that ship has sailed for me as far as marriage goes. I look at the people with 3 and 4 divorces and I feel like that would probably be me. Why would I want to sign a contract with an absolutely broken system again so another bitch will most likely siphon money and resources out of me when she decides she's done? Once my dues are paid and my kids are adults I just want to be able to be done. I'm open to a relationship but not marriage or more kids. Definitely no single moms either, I don't care if that makes me some sort of hypocrite because I have kids. I didn't ask for this and I don't want to take care of another man's kids.

I saw a couple different lists online and was wondering which one is the most current. Wanted to see what there was and if Afrikaans is on there. Curious for Navy if there's any distinction between branches.

I believe they only love how men can make them feel about themselves and what men can do for them. It's never actual love and is highly conditional. I would love to be proven wrong if anyone has any evidence to the contrary.

I'm an English speaker and I really want to learn both of these, which one should I do first?

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"Everything happens for a reason." "Time heals all wounds." "Everything will work out in the end." Crap like that. Just makes me not even want to talk to anybody because I know they don't get it and they think I'm looking for some sort of advice.

Hey everyone, I'm a 24M and father going on six months into my separation. For a few weeks I felt like I was doing good. Some of my peers suggested I try talking to women which I tried but ultimately I just don't think I'm ready. I don't think I'm fully over my ex and would just prefer to wait until my divorce is final. I also just find myself terribly bored of attempting to talk to people and feel like a relationship would be a liability, especially since most women that try to talk to me have kids. Maybe I'm missing something but having to be involved with kids that aren't my own is also not appealing despite people I know saying that I can probably find single moms to be with. Being alone just feels and sounds better at this point.

Which would be easier for an English speaker to learn first?

Hallo, I'm from the US. I have zero ties to Afrikaner culture or anyone that speaks Afrikaans but I lately I've found myself fascinated by the language and wanting to give it a try. My only real language experience is with Spanish. I was wondering where I should begin since there are seemingly way less resources for Afrikaans compared to other languages. Dankie!

Honestly I'm glad this is happening sooner rather than being together for +20 years and it happening but damn. We're already separated and were able to do it amicably for the most part but I just think it's bullshit how my stupid bitch of an ex can wreck her family and legally extort money from me. All the shit I've done for my family and to better our lives was for nothing because she wants to jump shit to go live with another man and get rewarded for it. I consider myself a Christian but there's no way in hell I'm ever getting married or having anymore kids in this piece of shit of a country with its fucking abyssmal laws. It's probably because I grew up in a broken family but I always wanted the typical nice family life with the wife, kids, and house just to have the rug pulled out from under my feet once it seemed like things were looking up for us financially. Fool me once, shame on you. I'm not going to rack up multiple divorces and have to deal with this shit with multiple women, I'm done. Completely done. Fuck this shithole country that I'm serving for not standing up for family values, way to stab me in the back.