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This isn't about anyone's superiority or anything nor about if Steppe is good or AASI battle. Neither is good, neither is bad. It's about Geography, only.

Post the Delhi Ridge and West UP where the former pastoral lands have high steppe groups like Jats and Rors, in the native communities (Khatris are non native to Delhi), and the Brahmins of Punjab and Northwest to Bihar, the ones that came out of the Kuru kingdom, and even through MP, oscillate at 25-30% Steppe, throughout.

But a strange ridge exists beyond Bihar, as you enter Bengal, it drops to 17-20%, aka South Indian levels.

In the South of Vindhyas, the reason is the existing established communities, there, into whom the Brahmins merged. What's the reason for the drop into Bengal? Similar one, I guess? The Native Austroasiatic, Dravidian etc tribes and traders, were well established, there, I guess, when the Brahmins started moving in, or the fact that the region couldn't support a large Brahmin migration, unlike Bihar and UP, because it was a marsh? Because if not, it's UC would likely look similar to Rajasthan and MPs..

And what about Assam? Why is it's profile too, with abrupt drop? The fact that it was heavily forested?

My reason is however likely this: the Propulsion effect. Punjab, West UP and Haryana are drylands with pastoral and floodplain landscape before the rise of later irrigation and cultivation. East of Yamuna and Ganga, the land starts becoming wetter and forested and clearing them, meant too much abundance. The propulsion weakened by the time they settled Bihar, not needing to go to Assam or Greater Bengal. There were attempts by Kannauji kings, Guptas, Janapadas, etc to settle Bengal including Bangladesh, Assam, Northeast, etc, but most fizzled out, after the initial Ashwa Medha Yaagnya, because nobody were willing to move and build, especially the Aryan classes, who were happy with the feudal and trade wealth in the Ganges.

I guess the worst would be Millennials and Baby Boomers. Especially mid to younger millennials. In the US, it's about policy and voting stuff. In India, it's about upbringing style that makes them totally unfit for today's high individualist society, and several other issues.

Best would be Gen Z and Millennials. Most of these have grown up in a similar World. To similar trends and understand each other, much better.

Hello, all , second shot here.

I'm 31, Male, and an entrepreneur. I'm into Robotics and Deep Tech ideas, blew up a lot of my 20s, due to various childhood issues and neurodivergence, which I'm healing from. Don't worry. I'm not traumatized, bitter and angry at anyone except the dysfunctional systems that caused me pain, growing up. The people I've spoken to vouch for how calm, understanding and patient I am. I'm very chill. Of course, I have less tolerance to some behaviors like manipulating,etc.

Lost a lot in my 20s to it, rebuilt myself and immersed into my startup idea, in Deep Tech, which is expected to pay off reasonably well. Now, I'm looking at how I can settle down with a girlfriend in a long term relationship that leads to marriage. I am someone who invests deeply in my emotions and have a higher emotional depth and short term relationships isn't for me. Nor are hookup kind.

I'm an optimist, and hence I prefer someone who doesn't want to go DINK or CF. No offence to those who go with it. I'm not judging anyone. Also, I'd say since I have a childlike love for life, and Neurodivergent like childishness, surfacing, I don't think I would do well with divorcees. Previous relationships are okay. But divorces in my point of view, cause too much pain that it causes the people involved to mature too much. I want someone to share laughter, childishness and stuff, with me. Also, me being socially inappropriate and impulsive at times, won't go well with serious and mature personalities, in that.

I have plans to settle abroad, too, expanding my startup there.

I'm not someone who might own a Land Rover in 1 year or such. Maybe yes, someday, and we'll build this together. But if you come to me being transactional like those Arranged marriage stuff, I'm sorry I cannot take that, nor do I have what you want, in the present. I have the confidence we can build it, eventually, though..

I'm wheatish on skin tone. Going lean. Muscle tone okay and working out on it. It will turn out decent, in a few months. I'm quite tall, at around 6 feet 1-1.5 inch.

Now coming to hobbies and interests, or what you want to connect with me on:

I spend a lot of time designing, dreaming what future systems and stuff might look like, Global Geopolitics, National Politics, National identities, how different nations formed, alternate histories, think about a lot of Science stuff, can't say if it's just Science Fiction or "Eccentric Science", as I kind of run thoughts on various possibilities about what Science could become.

History. Big lover of this. I research and read a lot about History, especially of the lesser known eras, like "What were the Pahari regions before the Gupta era? Folk cultures and things", "How did the Vedic era clans settle much of India?", "What were the patterns of the Late Guptas settling in Jharkhand, Bengal, etc, in lesser known communities?" and a lot more. I visit museums, galleries, etc a lot, when I travel, and note down, photograph stuff, regularly. And get lost in thoughts about History and Art..

Geography: Love this a lot. I love different climates and their effects, the meeting points of climate zones, mountains, river flows, etc. Get good photographs and explorations of this, when I travel.

Psychology: Read about this a lot. Cosmic connections between Psychology and bigger things, now situations affect psychology, and the reverse, as a sustaining loop, how people think and do, different things, what kind of persons do what things, etc. It's a good exercise and stimulation, though I must admit there's a lot of thought spirals happening there..

Rail, Air, Urbanism and transportation: Ohh, a big thing. I love Rail and Aviation. In clubs dedicated to these. We regularly explore how and why, of this, the different types, history, etc of these, and Rail travel is an all different experience to me, compared to others. A hobby I can't stop ever! And I read and write a lot about Urbanism, Sustainable construction, Energy and it's future, Space tech, etc. I'm selected for a content creator course, for this exactly.

So, what can I look forward to? Someone not in an urgency of settling down to marry in a few months, would be good, but settle down enough to consider each other long term partners or at least talk seriously about marriage. Connect with me for a few months, and then we need to see where we take things. At least a year or year and a half, for dating and maintaining a close relationship, before marriage, is something I look forward to, because I believe we need to grow up together for a significant amount of time, before being married. I find marrying with low familiarity, strange and uncomfortable, for my Neurodivergent mind. I also don't like the transactional aspect of it. And another thing, it helps me stabilize things by then, too.

Age: I'm open to someone 26-32. Can at most think of 25, which is 6 years younger. Because we have the time to grow up together. I do think that psychologically, men and women grow up differently and in different timelines, and hence the preference. Of course, for Neurodivergent women, I could consider slightly younger ones, too, because you can relate to them, and connect with them. Otherwise, age gap makes things unrelatable.

Personal style and outlook: I prefer someone with a more modern outlook and behavior. Someone who believes that a couple needs to grow up together, and support eachother, than strict gender duties, as per tradition, etc. Sort of like friends, to solve problems, discuss, talk and be open about. The power balance difference, should be low, and low tensions, in a relationship, too. Religion is okay, but as long as it's for "good teachings and teaching about good things.". I have some red lines where religion is used to abuse kids, control them, etc, which are not good. Or use religion to control diets, daily life, etc too much. Of course, as someone born Hindu UC (I'm not telling you any caste or subcaste, but just South Indian), I don't eat beef and pork. But otherwise, I eat meat regularly. I have certain views on religion and God, that's quite unique, and flexible. I strongly believe that my caste and religion, is something that's relevant only for the government policy makers to know, to whom I need to reveal it, to enable resource allocation, etc, otherwise, not much. More than religion, I would look at culture and upbringing to match..

As modern as I am, I believe Humanity being a species with strong emotional bonds, will never change. I hence, cannot go with a hookup type relationship. We love, build and have visions for our lives, together, and we do it together. Some things are best archaic.

I prefer something with less parental interference as possible. You can expect the same from my side. My parents have agreed to keep it mostly independent, unless "I do something bad to someone". I want to keep it independent, because I think parental interference often causes the first spark of rifts, that usually grow. Friendly and good relations is the best way for it.

Yeah. So, already long. Anyone interested, give in a friendly DM. Let's continue there. I have an eagle eye for transactional stuff, so if you're that, avoid...Someone emotionally rich and polymath kind, I would say we would hit off real quick.

While I'm relaxed about the timeline to marriage, I expect the timeline from nothing serious, just talking, to serious, in max of two weeks. No reddit conversations beyond that. Build trust, exchange pictures and numbers, and continue off site, in an app where you're not anonymous. I don't like wasting each other's time and investment, or playing with emotions. In this regard, I'm straightforward.

Hello, all , second shot here.

I'm 31, Male, and an entrepreneur. I'm into Robotics and Deep Tech ideas, blew up a lot of my 20s, due to various childhood issues and neurodivergence, which I'm healing from. Don't worry. I'm not traumatized, bitter and angry at anyone except the dysfunctional systems that caused me pain, growing up. The people I've spoken to vouch for how calm, understanding and patient I am. I'm very chill. Of course, I have less tolerance to some behaviors like manipulating,etc.

Lost a lot in my 20s to it, rebuilt myself and immersed into my startup idea, in Deep Tech, which is expected to pay off reasonably well. Now, I'm looking at how I can settle down with a girlfriend in a long term relationship that leads to marriage. I am someone who invests deeply in my emotions and have a higher emotional depth and short term relationships isn't for me. Nor are hookup kind.

I'm an optimist, and hence I prefer someone who doesn't want to go DINK or CF. No offence to those who go with it. I'm not judging anyone. Also, I'd say since I have a childlike love for life, and Neurodivergent like childishness, surfacing, I don't think I would do well with divorcees. Previous relationships are okay. But divorces in my point of view, cause too much pain that it causes the people involved to mature too much. I want someone to share laughter, childishness and stuff, with me. Also, me being socially inappropriate and impulsive at times, won't go well with serious and mature personalities, in that.

I have plans to settle abroad, too, expanding my startup there.

I'm not someone who might own a Land Rover in 1 year or such. Maybe yes, someday, and we'll build this together. But if you come to me being transactional like those Arranged marriage stuff, I'm sorry I cannot take that, nor do I have what you want, in the present. I have the confidence we can build it, eventually, though..

I'm wheatish on skin tone. Going lean. Muscle tone okay and working out on it. It will turn out decent, in a few months. I'm quite tall, at around 6 feet 1-1.5 inch.

Now coming to hobbies and interests, or what you want to connect with me on:

I spend a lot of time designing, dreaming what future systems and stuff might look like, Global Geopolitics, National Politics, National identities, how different nations formed, alternate histories, think about a lot of Science stuff, can't say if it's just Science Fiction or "Eccentric Science", as I kind of run thoughts on various possibilities about what Science could become.

History. Big lover of this. I research and read a lot about History, especially of the lesser known eras, like "What were the Pahari regions before the Gupta era? Folk cultures and things", "How did the Vedic era clans settle much of India?", "What were the patterns of the Late Guptas settling in Jharkhand, Bengal, etc, in lesser known communities?" and a lot more. I visit museums, galleries, etc a lot, when I travel, and note down, photograph stuff, regularly. And get lost in thoughts about History and Art..

Geography: Love this a lot. I love different climates and their effects, the meeting points of climate zones, mountains, river flows, etc. Get good photographs and explorations of this, when I travel.

Psychology: Read about this a lot. Cosmic connections between Psychology and bigger things, now situations affect psychology, and the reverse, as a sustaining loop, how people think and do, different things, what kind of persons do what things, etc. It's a good exercise and stimulation, though I must admit there's a lot of thought spirals happening there..

Rail, Air, Urbanism and transportation: Ohh, a big thing. I love Rail and Aviation. In clubs dedicated to these. We regularly explore how and why, of this, the different types, history, etc of these, and Rail travel is an all different experience to me, compared to others. A hobby I can't stop ever! And I read and write a lot about Urbanism, Sustainable construction, Energy and it's future, Space tech, etc. I'm selected for a content creator course, for this exactly.

So, what can I look forward to? Someone not in an urgency of settling down to marry in a few months, would be good, but settle down enough to consider each other long term partners or at least talk seriously about marriage. Connect with me for a few months, and then we need to see where we take things. At least a year or year and a half, for dating and maintaining a close relationship, before marriage, is something I look forward to, because I believe we need to grow up together for a significant amount of time, before being married. I find marrying with low familiarity, strange and uncomfortable, for my Neurodivergent mind. I also don't like the transactional aspect of it. And another thing, it helps me stabilize things by then, too.

Age: I'm open to someone 26-32. Can at most think of 25, which is 6 years younger. Because we have the time to grow up together. I do think that psychologically, men and women grow up differently and in different timelines, and hence the preference. Of course, for Neurodivergent women, I could consider slightly younger ones, too, because you can relate to them, and connect with them. Otherwise, age gap makes things unrelatable.

Personal style and outlook: I prefer someone with a more modern outlook and behavior. Someone who believes that a couple needs to grow up together, and support eachother, than strict gender duties, as per tradition, etc. Sort of like friends, to solve problems, discuss, talk and be open about. The power balance difference, should be low, and low tensions, in a relationship, too. Religion is okay, but as long as it's for "good teachings and teaching about good things.". I have some red lines where religion is used to abuse kids, control them, etc, which are not good. Or use religion to control diets, daily life, etc too much. Of course, as someone born Hindu UC (I'm not telling you any caste or subcaste, but just South Indian), I don't eat beef and pork. But otherwise, I eat meat regularly. I have certain views on religion and God, that's quite unique, and flexible. I strongly believe that my caste and religion, is something that's relevant only for the government policy makers to know, to whom I need to reveal it, to enable resource allocation, etc, otherwise, not much. More than religion, I would look at culture and upbringing to match..

As modern as I am, I believe Humanity being a species with strong emotional bonds, will never change. I hence, cannot go with a hookup type relationship. We love, build and have visions for our lives, together, and we do it together. Some things are best archaic.

I prefer something with less parental interference as possible. You can expect the same from my side. My parents have agreed to keep it mostly independent, unless "I do something bad to someone". I want to keep it independent, because I think parental interference often causes the first spark of rifts, that usually grow. Friendly and good relations is the best way for it.

Yeah. So, already long. Anyone interested, give in a friendly DM. Let's continue there. I have an eagle eye for transactional stuff, so if you're that, avoid...Someone emotionally rich and polymath kind, I would say we would hit off real quick.

While I'm relaxed about the timeline to marriage, I expect the timeline from nothing serious, just talking, to serious, in max of two weeks. No reddit conversations beyond that. Build trust, exchange pictures and numbers, and continue off site, in an app where you're not anonymous. I don't like wasting each other's time and investment, or playing with emotions. In this regard, I'm straightforward.

Be it Child goddess ritual in Nepal, where the girl is unharmed, and leads a totally normal adult life, conducted by a tribe who did nothing to you, or the snake ritual in Bihar where Twitterati literally started celebrating British persecution of the tribes, I kind of am made slightly disgusted, because these did nothing to you or me or anyone. They conducted it with much more civic sense than the Urban festival celebrations, where dhols are banged till midnight, or roads are blocked, or during the much favourite festivals, aka Christmas and New Year, when roads, traffic management and Metro rail systems are totally overwhelmed, in Cities like Bangalore, because FOMO.

Of course, I'm the first to criticize harmful rituals and celebrations, like big weddings, POP Ganeshas, or rather large scale Ganesh festivals that actually causes roads to get blocked, etc. I've also said it's not the celebration that's the problem. Should they do it in their own artificial water body, and in the outskirts of the city, I don't criticize it. I infact have praised Bangalore Ganesh Utsava for conscious celebration, with a colourless Ganesh idol immersed, while the display idol is stored.

But shall we maintain some fairness and justice? Why do we bash something unnecessarily, when they did no harm to us? Stop making harmless tribes your soft targets and call out the actual things that cause harm or poor civic sense.. Can we?

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Hey, everyone.

I'm a 31m, Deep Tech entrepreneur, from Bangalore, living there, open to moving abroad.. Tall enough (won't mention height, I would say it's good, and you can stalk my posts and get it).

I'm not going into details, but as a Neurodivergent and someone with a typical Indian family, I wasn't a "grown man" in much of my 20s and have started rebuilding my life, now, with a good amount of promise. I still don't have a workspace and will be working from cafes, etc for the time period. Even otherwise, visit them in My free time. Or other socializing places, to connect. Of course, because I'm at that stage of my life, now! Hehe!

I would want to know, how would you, if you were someone who was working in a cafe or a bar, or someone out for socializing. Or the venues you prefer. To first say, I'm not someone, or a man who "doesn't know how to talk to girls", or "consider girls humans". One of my potential co-founder is a girl, and we do meet in cafes, etc, and I do to to entrepreneurship and startup meets, where I shake hands, meet women, exchange ideas, talk about potential collaboration, etc. These are perfectly normal. It was hard at first, but the structured environment made it easier for me, later on.

In more unstructured environments, how do you want me to establish trust, to approach you, and connect, everything aside for later? For say, befriending you, or say, later going on a date, if things work out, etc? Being neurodivergent, I struggle in unstructured environments, and a lot of propaganda against men, has made me a bit afraid, to start a conversation, in unstructured environments. I don't face this issue in structured environments where trust is easier to establish, so don't judge me saying "I don't know how to talk", and unstructured environments stress my neurodivergent mind a lot, if trust isn't easier to establish. In "softer natured" and high HDI states, like Himachal Pradesh, I've faced less of this issue, with the native women at least, my age.

Don't mention dating apps or arranged marriage platforms. These are transactional, and have parental involvement, less individualism, and more conformity, which is something the staunch individualist in me, hates deeply. No offence to those who want it. To each their own.

Hostile or bitter people, who want to abuse people, or turn this into a gender war, I'm in no interest. I've condemned the worst of the lot in males, especially Indian males, a lot, and would do the same for women, too. This gender war needs to be stopped. Sorry, you might be bitter and angry for 1001 things in the World, but when I've not done anything to you, I expect the same, in return. I've developed thin patience on that. Whatever those reasons, your therapist is a better fit for that. Nor do I intend to harass anyone or make anyone uncomfortable, I'm only asking for suggestions about environments to socialize..

Hello, everyone.

I am an entrepreneur in Robotics and Deep Tech, and someone who restarted my life, in my late 20s and have a promising future, as of now, with my prospects. Have started working with my startup and getting it off the ground. Looking for an ambitious, emotionally rich partner who resonates with me, can walk in the journey, with me and wants to share my life and promises with me.

I am not religious, but born in a Hindu UC background is all I can say (no, I will not give you what caste or sub caste because I don't want you to choose me for that, and regret later). I'm very independent from my family, and building my own life. I am a meat eater and a social drinker. I enjoy hobbies, into Rail and aviation hobbies, Science and Engineering based hobbies, building and recreating things from History, or Alternate History, displaying them as models (have a Dussehra project for this year), and I explore the Country and the World, a lot..

Those on behalf of parents, there here, should stay out. I can't deal with those politics. You can expect the same from my side. Parents have been fortified out, from involving here. They'll come as guests, and that's that.

What I can give you: An emotionally safe household for you and kids, a liberal and progressive values, unbounded creativity and nurturing, a promising future, an opportunity to settle abroad and work in some of the cutting edge deep tech environments, and a mostly cosmopolitan environment. Expect a lot of travel and stuff.

More later. Anyone wanting to play mind games, need to stay away. Honesty is valued extremely, by me. Only those invested in serious things and a serious future should contact. We need to build trust and move away from reddit.

Hello, all.

Please please readers, don't consider this about any one particular person. It's NOT. It's in general.

For one thing, I'm very against continuing discussions on reddit, without identity reveal, once enough trust and conversation is established. Of course, nobody sane advises you to send your identity to an anonymous stranger on reddit. That's not what I mean, and if you do it because you read this, I'm not responsible.

I believe people need to be crisp and open about their intentions and conversations. If you talk with someone, get to know them, establish trust (I know this is hard), and move off reddit, post face reveal. Beyond this, I usually will consider things as mind games. Which I don't like. I'm an old school sensitive soul, if you call me that, and I don't like people playing with feelings of others, deriving validation of genuine conversations where people are putting their efforts, etc. Be honest in rejections, or disconnect. If not, continue the connections and move off the anonymous platform.

We're in the World for something, to achieve something, to find someone, and live our life. We don't need mind games, manipulation, what not. Like me? Get to know me, ask me a few leading questions, get the intent out, decode the personality, do a face reveal, and that's it for me. We've got to move off reddit, into more serious conversation platforms. At that point, if you've got no reason to trust, you need to back off saying "not interested"

Extending reddit convos forever, ghosting, playing with each other for manipulation, isn't something to be done. If you have done this, stop and correct it. To others, don't do this. After all, we're here to find someone honest, compatible and truthful, right?

TL DR: Reddit is an anonymous platform. Don't play with real people who exist beyond the anonymous accounts, build enough trust and faith, do an identity reveal and move off reddit, if you're serious.

Boys and Girls, don't encourage someone who wants that. Everything aside, keeping to an anonymous platform, for something serious, isn't the way.

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Hey, everyone..

I've always been fascinated by the Tantric cultures, art, behavior and thought processes in those, and the origins of those.

What I anecdotally notice is Tantric regions generally, not everywhere, have more greenery and wetness, less feudalism, more autonomy, more intellectual based, not rent seeking (not always and not in every era), more individualism, more trade based and stuff..

Is it right to say that there might have been a root in Dravidian trading cultures, for this to emerge? Tulunadu, Goa and Kerala are the only ones with proven Dravidian roots, within the Tantric sphere, while Bengal, Assam, parts of Bihar and Kashmir, are the others. Bengal you can say is like a Constantinople or Rome for Tantrism, if it was the defining identity. Bihar, Assam and Kashmir's Dravidian roots are uncertain but Bengal's, is quite obvious, with it being a "Sangam" or "meeting point" for Austroasiatic, Dravidian and Indo-Aryan classical cultures (the original "Sangam" happened in the East of Delhi Ridge, post Aryans arrival, I know, but I'm talking Classical.

Of course, Odisha and Nepal can be considered honorary in the Tantric sphere, however they have a heavy mix of Bhakti Hinduism. Also, any idea about Plains Uttar Pradesh, if it was also Tantric, before 1500s?

Next up, do you consider this a variant of "Protestant Hinduism" or something like that? Tantrism places a lot of emphasis on the Body being a temple, or the seat of power, like Protestantism in Germany, started preaching that Priesthood is for every person..

I see a lot of similarities in Tantric regions of India, and Northern Europe, in terms of thought process, culture, etc, too. Of course, anecdotal..

Any ideas and speculations you have about this?

Hey, everyone. How are you all doing..

I'm 31M, entrepreneur, into Embedded systems and Robotics. I'm 6 feet 1, don't smoke, drink occasionally. I don't want to get into too much technical details here, to avoid any cringe stuff, but let me give a brief. I wrecked my twenties a lot, and Covid came in between, too, plus a lot of my neurodivergence also added to it. I'm now independent, building my business, considering a move abroad, potentially to the UK, and about to get a Deep Tech startup off the ground, of course, after a lot of learnings, mess, etc, which I won't go in detail.

How do you suggest I get back to date and to marry? With this age, I can consider 26-33 year old woman, independent in thought, not enmeshed with parents (I broke patterns of that and I can't deal with that trauma again), secular outlook, better irreligious (I don't mind a nominal or a liberal H/M/S/P, though, as long as it's not to the level of my parents').

As someone with a lot of goals and emotional depth, I simply cannot stand transactional people, too. I would love to see an emotional connection and confidence in the woman, too. History of the woman doesn't matter as long as no attachment and commitment issues, and recognizes the trauma, etc if present and open minded to heal from it. But my requirements are a modern outlook and emotionally deep, with enthusiasm in life (I've been through a lot but still enjoy travel like a child).

Where do you think I should start? Please, no joking comments or arranged marriage suggestions (I'm fairly independent from my parents for any of that to work). Not that I'd care, or take it as an insult but genuine comments that will help me, will be missed.

I'm thinking of boardgame meetups, books, music, etc hobby events, something I really enjoy as a Neurodivergent man. Of course, I am regular at my rail and aviation hobbies but those are near 100% male dominated.

PS: If someone thinks I'm rich, have money to buy a Mercedes, a big luxurious villa, etc, let me tell you, I'm not any of that. Of course, when and if the time comes, I will build that, and build them together. But if you're coming to me, for THAT, I certainly haven't built it yet. I hope to build, indeed. So, a like minded woman is better..

Suggest me how to go ahead

PS2: This was copied from the other sub, so excuse the additions. Just use it as a lead. Anyone with good emotional intelligence, love for life and big goals, feel free to message me.

Parents pressure? It will have to be under the scanner, and you will have to tell me about it, beforehand (I'll avoid judging but I need to take care of myself, too).

Hey, everyone. How are you all doing..

I'm 31M, entrepreneur, into Embedded systems and Robotics. I'm 6 feet 1, don't smoke, drink occasionally. I don't want to get into too much technical details here, to avoid any cringe stuff, but let me give a brief. I wrecked my twenties a lot, and Covid came in between, too, plus a lot of my neurodivergence also added to it. I'm now independent, building my business, considering a move abroad, potentially to the UK, and about to get a Deep Tech startup off the ground, of course, after a lot of learnings, mess, etc, which I won't go in detail.

How do you suggest I get back to date and to marry? With this age, I can consider 26-33 year old woman, independent in thought, not enmeshed with parents (I broke patterns of that and I can't deal with that trauma again), secular outlook, better irreligious (I don't mind a nominal or a liberal H/M/S/P, though, as long as it's not to the level of my parents').

As someone with a lot of goals and emotional depth, I simply cannot stand transactional people, too. I would love to see an emotional connection and confidence in the woman, too. History of the woman doesn't matter as long as no attachment and commitment issues, and recognizes the trauma, etc if present and open minded to heal from it. But my requirements are a modern outlook and emotionally deep, with enthusiasm in life (I've been through a lot but still enjoy travel like a child).

Where do you think I should start? Please, no joking comments or arranged marriage suggestions (I'm fairly independent from my parents for any of that to work). Not that I'd care, or take it as an insult but genuine comments that will help me, will be missed.

I'm thinking of boardgame meetups, books, music, etc hobby events, something I really enjoy as a Neurodivergent man. Of course, I am regular at my rail and aviation hobbies but those are near 100% male dominated.

PS: If someone thinks I'm rich, have money to buy a Mercedes, a big luxurious villa, etc, let me tell you, I'm not any of that. Of course, when and if the time comes, I will build that, and build them together. But if you're coming to me, for THAT, I certainly haven't built it yet. I hope to build, indeed. So, a like minded woman is better..

Suggest me how to go ahead.