u/Outside-Hamster-2002

Very long story short we live in an extremely hot climate in the summer and my kids bday is in the middle of the summer. I’ve always had his parties at the pool from like 10:30-12:30. I serve a great lunch, snow cones and then we eat at the house across the street, have cake and go home. A family member is trying to convince me and is absolutely dead set that having the party from 5-7pm is better because it’s cooler outside and they can swim after eating too. Never in my life have I wanted to drive to a child bday party at 5pm. I have some guests coming from an hour away with kids to swim, eat, and put wet clothes back on to swim again. My sister in laws both have very little babies and she is saying it’s better for the babies if it’s cooler outside. Has anyone ever had a 4 year olds birthday party at 5pm?

We had our son in ISR swim lessons last summer and he did AMAZING. He was a little afraid the first few times but he excelled after that, he was safe, confident and loved the pool. We swam all the time and he was such a great swimmer. Fast forward to this year, he’s almost 4 and we just decided to hop in and do a refresher course just to be safe and I figured it would be a few days of him doing great work and he’d be done but he is doing so much worse than last year. We’ve been to the pool several times this year and he just clings to us and says he doesn’t want to swim or go under water or do anything so I’m not surprised by his response to his lessons. Screaming, flailing all the things. It’s the same instructor at the same pool and he is really struggling. I’m not sure what happened in the last 6-7 months to make his so afraid. Do I keep pushing through or quit ISR and just let him do his own thing that the pool? He can go under water fine in the bathtub, fine with splash pads, etc. just for reference the pool is 88 degrees so it’s not cold water or anything. I don’t want him to be afraid but I also want him to be safe in the pool like he was last year.

I have been plagued with spotting or bleeding during every pregnancy I’ve ever had for various reasons. My first was a previa starting at like 14 weeks that resulted in an early delivery at 25 weeks. 1 miscarriage. Then a pregnancy that had a sch, spotting, PPROM that resulted in a delivery at 16+5. A chemical pregnancy. And now I’m 12+2 and I’ve had two small episodes of spotting when I wipe, once at 9+0 that was attributed to a sch but I was rechecked literally yesterday and it was gone and then I wiped this morning and had more red when I wiped. I don’t get it. Developing another previa? Residual sch? Irritated cervix? Preterm labor? I don’t even know anymore. Nothing is ever easy around here that’s for sure.

My almost 4 year told legitimately said this to me this morning during breakfast. It takes this long because you never stop talking and all you do is look at your food expecting it to just magically go into your body through your eyeballs or photosynthesis or something. Please stop talking and just eat the food. It could be over in 10 mins but here we are 30mins-1 hour later having eaten 3 bites. Every. Single. Meal. He’s a 1st percentile kid and has been his whole life so it’s definitely affected his growth but we’ve done everything we can so I just go with it.

My thirst is absolutely unquenchable. I drink cold waster with electrolytes, plain water, cold fruit and I’m still so so thirsty. 6+3 today. Please help

I feel like I haven’t seen much about this but it’s such a weird situation. My almost 4 year old boy basically has buyers remorse about every choice he makes. I give him choices for things, usually 2-3 choices (I.e. snacks, toys, helping me do a chore or not, what clothes to wear, etc) and he always chooses something but usually immediately or shortly after he’s begging and crying and pleading that he wanted the other choice. He could finish the snack he chose and then go on to say, “but I wanted such and such” and then it’s a meltdown. For context he’s extremely emotional and very headstrong and hard to handle in most areas of his life as well. It seems like it would be better for me to just pick for him and tell him what we’re doing or eating but everything I’ve ever heard about parenting is that choices are key. Advice?

How are we feeding our families, washing clothes, cleaning the house and keeping kids from destroying our homes and entertained in the first trimester? My husband works 60 hours a week plus is gone on Saturdays. I’m alone with my 3 year old 10-12 hours a day. Even if my husband cooked dinner when he got home we would be eating so late our toddler would be flipping out. My kid doesn’t nap so I get no break until bedtime. I have to clean constantly, we have 2 large hairy dogs, chickens who need feeding and watering a few times a week, daily egg collection. WTF am I supposed to do? I guess just tough it out, but that feels almost impossible. Help me please

This is going to be very interesting. Technically I am a January due date. But since I had a classical C-section with my first I will have a scheduled C-section around 36-37 weeks (hopefully closer to 38) this time around. I just realized that my wonderful step son who visits around Christmas will arrive about 2 weeks after the delivery. And to say I’m stressed is an understatement. He’s amazing, about 13 years old so very self sufficient and helps with my first born who will be 4. But having 3 kids in my house is just stressing me some. Especially trying to breastfeed when having a teenager in the house who I only see about 2-3 times a year. I know everyone and everything will be okay it’s just one of those things on my mind these days. So if anyone has experienced having visitors living in their house soon after delivery has any advice it would be welcome