u/Overall-Equal-7808

here's an example i recently experienced, and have explained to my boyfriend since:

if i ask for a back massage, and it ends with you trying to stick it in... i am missing out on a full back rub. my intention wasnt foreplay, but muscle pain relief (and the pleasant scent of my rose Lush massage bar).

Back rubs feel nice. I like it as much as someone braiding my hair. Sex feels nice too, im not against sex, but now my back rub is interrupted

men are so simple, i guess my comparison would be turning the TV off in the middle of the world cup game to give you a BJ. like theyre great, im sure he'd like one later that day or week, but NOT in exchange for missing the game. sometimes they just want to watch soccer and arent horny... just like women!

now when im offered a back rub, or something similar where a typical man would initiate or anticipate sex, i either decline and miss out, or i accept and then basically dread it because i expect something is going to change.

maybe its worse for me with ADHD and pathological demand avoidance, because when im explicitly asked for sex, i IMMEDIATELY dry up. i think the only way i like it is spontaneous passion. no "hey what if we did xyz later?" because now im trying to convince myself im like totally horny!

where in vancouver (or surrounding areas) can i find adult clip on earrings?

im going to a wedding and never had my ears pierced. would love to wear some nice accessories

bonus points if you can help me find what im looking for: silver (coloured, not literal silver) and or purple to match my dress!!!

where do you go for a long hair trim? i just missed Big Joy's wednesday $5-10 cuts.

i dont necessarily need a charity cut, but i also refuse to drop $100 on a trim with no fringe, no colour, nothing crazy.

i havent cut my hair in years, i had no idea it was so expensive!!!

i live in coquitlam and work in richmond, so anywhere is fine, doesnt necessarily need to be vancouver

i hate this whole "double D" trope, when that has very little to do with size.

most people dont understand bra sizing. so they think "A = small, D = huge, B and C are in between. there is nothing beyond these letters"

Im a very average sized woman. 5'9, 145lbs. i wear size small shirts. i am a 34D. when i was thinner but my boob volume stayed the same, i was a 28G.

nobody in my life believes this. i mostly wear sports bras or bras with less support i.e. no padding or wire. so nobody thinks of me as "chesty" (until i do wear underwire)

its very caveman thinking, that someone with a 40 band and D cup would be the same as someone with a 30 band and a D cup. not every thin person is flat, not every fat person has a huge rack.

if this is too complicated, look up "sister sizing" and youll understand

i do social media for a small brand, so id like to upgrade from my 12 pro max. i have been searching for a smaller phone, so since the mini will probably never come back, im super interested in this.

i know about the single camera. i dont care about zoom or wide angle shots. just taking pics of coffee and pastries haha

is the single camera going to be enough of an upgrade? my 12 works pretty well. not the best battery and has a couple minor glitches that i work around. i dont *need* a new phone for work, but if i bought the 17e, would i be making a mistake?

alternative is waiting til september for 18 pro, but im turned off by the large size. nothing is beating the 6.1 screen for me

i work in marketing for a cafe, and the actual location is not the prettiest. i have to create a portable background, similar to those mini photoshoot lightboxes you can order online.

my budget is under $200. we already have the mentioned photo studio box so please dont mention that.

i am thinking of those large art porfolios with the handles, and then sheets inside that i can switch out. peel and stick tiles, plywood with a teak-like MCM stain, anything aesthetically pleasing

i have questions like, can i grout peel n stick tiles to look more realistic? what would you do if you were tasked with this?

i for one, LOVE the white painted lines at the commerical broadway and cambie broadway (broadway-city hall) major bus stops for the 99. yet, nobody seems to be able to figure them out. it bothers me so much. theyre ridiculously straight forward, and everyone wants to invent their own (less efficient) line ups

can we all agree to just... step in front of people who are standing in the wrong spot at what they *think* is the front of the line?