u/P1nky09

Does this make me selective sharing?

Okay so I yumeship with Kirishima from MHA, I have an oc made for him and I post about them on tiktok.

I've grown quite the following, and people often ask me to be moots and I agree since I really don't mind.

A bit ago someone asked to moot me and I said yes, now today their page came on my fyp, they have made an oc which was nearly identical to mine, by looks too, and they also gave her the same mother as my oc (The character I have made my OCs mother is my familiar yume too😭) they also ship her with Kirishima and basically yeah it's a knock off of my oc,

Usually I block doubles as I've always been non-sharing, But idk her page didn't bother me as much. I mean it sucks that she basically copied my oc but she looks like a child in her videos where she posts her face and I'm not about to beef with a kid😭 I understand it may come from genuine admiration for my oc and she means no harm, I commented that she looks a lot like my oc and she confirmed I was the inspo.

But does the fact that her page doesn't bother me make me selective sharing or is it just the fact that she's basically having a second version of my oc shipped with Kirishima I can't tell anymore 💔

Just saw a ranter on tiktok say Yumeshipping is parasocial which, fair. But they also said it's predatory, basically shat on non sharing Yumeshippers and said the excuses Yumeshippers make to 'justify' Yumeshipping sounds like the excuses pedophiles make to justify pedophilia 💀 mind you the excuse we apparently use to justify it Is that it's 'just online' as IF so many ranters hadn't made so many videos explaining exactly how Yumeshipping works. I am so tired of the antis bro

Okay so I know this shouldn't matter to me and stuff and it's probably not that big of a deal but sometimes if makes me feel so bad when people like INSIST My F/O is gay😅 [ talking about Kirishima here ]

I see him as bi, but everytime I find a sexualities headcanon video about Mha he's always headcanoned gay or bi with 'heavy preference in men' because of that one manga panel where it apparently says he's popular with men, idk where that comes from. And while I know no headcanons and sexualities are canon seeing SO MANY of these people think like that make me feel kinda bad like I'm I being disrespectful Yumeshipping with him?

Some people act like it's an offense too like I saw a video basically calling the fact that he's gay canon and people who denied it homophobes so like

So this isn't really anything big or deep just a small rant

But like I wish I had a friend who was a huge fan of my F/O without like actually Yumeshipping him (since I'm non-sharing 😭) but everytime I try to find people like that people who ARE really big fans of him, are also usually crazy about a ship of his too. And usually I don't mind if someone ships my F/O with a canon character as they don't overstep my boundaries, but it's sort of an issue when the ship is their entire page🥲 Idk how to even look for the type of ppl I wanna interact with and befriend lol

Okay so basically I just wanted to ask what are some reasons people are non-sharing? Yes I get it Seeing doubles make us uncomfortable but is there a specific reason *why*? I'm a yumeshipper myself, a non sharing one too. The character is kind of a hyperfixation to me currently, and I feel invalid/uncomfortable by seeing doubles but I can't quite place why. I saw this point being made on tiktok and it had me thinking...

I'm also concerned now on this getting out of hand and becoming unhealthy for me, how can I ensure that it won't? Someone made a point that sure people block their doubles to have a safe space but that safe space can eventually turn into a bubble of their delusions and I honestly didn't know how to reply to that because that a damn good point, and my mental health is already shit lmao so I'm not trying to make it worse.