u/Patient_Asparagus875

Even after years of separation?

Genuinely curious

Not judging just genuinely curious and want to know people’s experiences. Were you in love with the man at some point or why did you have kids with him?

Kinda bored let’s link up my ig @diana.dulanto , (no kids please just adults) I won’t follow yo if you’re under 23

I am bisexual myself but I am baffled by how many women who obviously had crushes and attraction to me, ended up marrying men and having kids years later.
The one that shocked me the most is my first love. This girl was head over heels in love with me and I was in love with her, still am. We ended due to very difficult life circumstances I had to go through and misunderstandings. She decided to give up on me and move on. Well now 10years later is married and has a kid with a man. Like I understand they can be bi as well but when you look at the difference between emotional intensity and intimacy between a woman with woman vs man and woman it is stark.
I as bi woman am way more interested in women don’t really want to date men unless is casual sex. I don’t get it these other women

I’m a woman and I fell in love with this girl when we were in high school. I’m completely positive she was head over heels in love with me as well. Life got difficult and I had to leave the state and didn’t connect with her again until 10 years ago. It didn’t workout again becz she found out I was married before I could tell her. (She stalked my sm) she thought I didn’t love her anymore but I married out of necessity. And I ended it to come back to her. Anyway I decided to move on since she rejected me. Now recently I felt a huge pull towards her again. I found out she got married at basically 30 and had a kid with a man. She’s 34 now. I’ve been devastated. But in her sm she posted a subliminal message about “some who stop loving her and seeing her as the love of her life”…why would she post something like that if she’s supposed to be happy with her husband and kid?

Anyway my question is do women get married to men even at 30 when you’re supposed to know what you want? But might be a mistake?

So last time I had connection with my TF was 10years ago. It didn’t workout because at the time I was married and going through a divorce and she found out before I had a chance to tell her and she thought that I was making her an option which wasn’t true but she didn’t want to hear me out and ignored my msgs. I decided if she didn’t want me in her life then I’d try to move on with mine.

Fast forward to later last year I started to feel a huge pull and wanting to reconnect. I saw an interesting subliminal msg on her SM (about a someone who considered her no longer the love of their life), and thought maybe it was about me. Anyway, well now I found out that she got married and had a kid 3years ago and it has really affected me as I was Holding on to the hope for reconnection.

What’s most confusing is that we are both women and she never really had relationships with men, until marrying this one. It really hurts. Why would she post about someone who no longer consider her a true love when she’s married and with a kid? It’s confusing but I just needed to hear some advice if anyone has gone through something similar as well

Like the tittle says. Last time I had a strong contact with my twin was 10years ago. She cut me off because she thought that I considered her an option when in reality she was my first choice. I was got in through a separation when I contacted her and she also found out I was married before I could tell her. We met years before that.
Fast forward to now I started to feel her energy intensely. Haven’t stoop thinking of her the past year and I think she feels it too since she’s been posting subliminal messages on her social media. I went to a p-sychic and she was on point about a lot of things however she told me if I don’t contact my twin I’d lose her permanently. And it scared me because at the moment I can’t do it due to being in a partnership that I’m financially dependent on due to illnesses. I am just starting to get back on my feet but I have no other support and I wouldn’t want to contact her and she find out that I’m with someone and leave me again. I don’t know what to do…I wish I had some reassurance that she’d always have me in her thoughts and heart and that I could take my time to get ready for her again