u/PercyJ823

I know every show/movie has them, but this one made me laugh. The episode where Adam sends a video in to AFV where Bob Saget is hosting, and the election is going on. AFV didn’t start until 1989, and the Reagan/Mondale election was in 1984 😂 I just watched this episode last night, and the only reason I know that election was in 84, is because I live in Minnesota, and we were the only state that voted blue that year. 1980 something!

I was with an avoidant on and off for almost 7 years. Technically, the breaking up didn’t start until a year into it, and lasted until last month. To make a long story very short, he lied to me about a p*rn addiction (I’m not watching it anymore!), smoking, drinking, and gambling. He had wandering eyes. In 5 1/2 years, he ended things 4 times. I did last year in April. He called me 5 weeks later, and of course I got sucked back in again. Last month, I discovered that he had again been searching up half naked girls on Facebook, and a singles group. I immediately ended it, and we haven’t talked since. (5 1/2 weeks later) *I don’t think he’ll ever contact me again, because I basically went off at him when I ended things (in text, because he lives an hour away) and we’ve been down this road before. A couple of my friends think he’ll call me eventually. I never block anyone because I’m too nosy and want to see if people try and reach out 🤣

I will NEVER get back together with him, but of course my brain is all, “will he call? Will he not call? Do I even want him to?” because he always calls. Sorry this is random, I guess I’m just getting it out of my brain.

Also, when will I stop thinking about him every day??? So annoying lol 😁

I’m going to the Twins game tonight, and with the blue line down, I want to park at US Bank and take the green line to Target Field. (Busses take forever to get there. It’s insane.) Where’s the best parking spot? I also refuse to pay $25 to park at TF.

I normally don’t care about music from my neighbors, but it’s not necessary for it to be so loud that my floor is vibrating 🙄 Rant over.

I’m really curious what the “grieving” process is for an avoidant after a break up.

I recently ended an almost 7 year off and on relationship with an avoidant. (LONG story, but he broke up with me a few times during that. I should have left sooner.) Anyway. When he’d end things, we’d sporadically keep in touch for a few weeks, then officially get back together. I ended things last year at one point, but there was zero contact, and he called me after 5 weeks. I regret letting myself get suckered back in. I ended things for the final time 3 weeks ago. I’m done.

My question is, why, after he would end things, did he want to keep talking, but when I did, there was no contact? How do avoidants process this? He’s already in a singles dating group on FB 😆 Two of my friends say that he’ll eventually reach out again because he did before. It’s confusing lol

Severed all ties last week with the avoidant I was with for almost 7 years. LOTS of lying, hiding stuff, lying about smoking, p*rn addiction, drinking, gambling, etc. Every time he’d break up with me, he be back on dating apps within a week or so. A couple of weeks ago, I saw in his FB search that he was looking at a singles group. That’s when I finally ended things for good, because how are you about to tell me constantly that you’re not looking for anyone else, you don’t want anyone else, and then do that?? I don’t get it. 💔

I just joined this group and need to vent and possibly get input. (For context, I’m 50, he’s 51. We’re both divorced and have adult children) Last Tuesday, I finally severed all ties with an avoidant I was on and off with for almost 7 years. Honestly, I can’t believe I stayed so long. He has wandering eyes, a 🌽 addiction (which he said he hasn’t done in a long time. Sure Jan) lied to me all the time about everything, and broke up with me multiple times during our relationship. Every time he ended things, he was back on dating apps within a week or so. We’d get back together, and he’d tell me that he was on there because he was lonely. He did all of the right things too; We went on trips, dinners, had fires at his house, etc. I obviously have my faults too, but not once did I ever say or do anything to intentionally hurt him.

A week or so ago, I found a singles group on Facebook he had been looking at. Never mind the, “I’m not looking for anyone else, I don’t want anyone else” BS that he always said to me. A few days later was when I ended things for good. I looked at that group today, and of course he’s since joined it. Do these types of people always need to be talking to someone?? I ignored every red flag at every turn, thinking he truly wanted to be with me, but never changed.

I think what confused me the most is that he was ALWAYS there for me whenever I needed him. He fixed my car all the time, fixed my son’s car when stuff went wrong, etc.

I find myself asking why ME. I loved him unconditionally, always supported him, wanted to marry him, etc. He said he wanted to marry me too, even talking about it just a few months into us dating, but obviously never took that next step.

I guess I’ll just never understand why people are like this. He was teased and bullied a lot growing up, had a good relationship with his parents and brothers, etc. (his mom died two years before we started dating, and his dad died 9 days after we started dating) but he just couldn’t (or wouldn’t) move forward with me. I try not to take it personally, but damn. I was good for him. His loss.

I just joined this group and need to vent and possibly get input. (For context, I’m 50, he’s 51. We’re both divorced and have adult children) Last Tuesday, I finally severed all ties with an avoidant I was on and off with for almost 7 years. Honestly, I can’t believe I stayed so long. He has wandering eyes, a 🌽 addiction (which he said he hasn’t done in a long time. Sure Jan) lied to me all the time about everything, and broke up with me multiple times during our relationship. Every time he ended things, he was back on dating apps within a week or so. We’d get back together, and he’d tell me that he was on there because he was lonely. He did all of the right things too; We went on trips, dinners, had fires at his house, etc. I obviously have my faults too, but not once did I ever say or do anything to intentionally hurt him.

A week or so ago, I found a singles group on Facebook he had been looking at. Never mind the, “I’m not looking for anyone else, I don’t want anyone else” BS that he always said to me. A few days later was when I ended things for good. I looked at that group today, and of course he’s since joined it. Do these types of people always need to be talking to someone?? I ignored every red flag at every turn, thinking he truly wanted to be with me, but never changed.

I think what confused me the most is that he was ALWAYS there for me whenever I needed him. He fixed my car all the time, fixed my son’s car when stuff went wrong, etc.

I find myself asking why ME. I loved him unconditionally, always supported him, wanted to marry him, etc. He said he wanted to marry me too, even talking about it just a few months into us dating, but obviously never took that next step.

I guess I’ll just never understand why people are like this. He was teased and bullied a lot growing up, had a good relationship with his parents and brothers, etc. (his mom died two years before we started dating, and his dad died 9 days after we started dating) but he just couldn’t (or wouldn’t) move forward with me. I try not to take it personally, but damn. I was good for him. His loss.

Who doesn’t look at underwear they’re buying, much less putting on??? 😂

My autistic 23yo deletes pictures off of my phone, and then goes into the recently deleted album and deletes them out of there. He plays games and such on my phone, but I really need the pics to stay! Is there a way to lock each album, or just pictures in general? I googled it, and saw a million different ways, so idk what would work

I time traveled, went to Harv’s Island, and I don’t know how to decorate for the wedding. Where do I find items? I googled it, but still can’t figure it out 😂