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I finally have insurance and going to a doctor in a little over a month for my anxiety and insomnia. Unfortunately this was the soonest they could take me. All the docs seemed to be booked up in my area so this is what I’ll take.

I have done lots of therapy. I have some other health issues as well. Never done EMDR but has been recommended to me in the past. Not currently seeing a therapist because everyone I’ve gone to in recent years I don’t feel any better or worse going to appointments and seems to be a money drainer.

I have struggled with insomnia consistently with short periods of not struggling at all with it since I was a kid. I remember being 5 years old laying awake at night thinking about death/afterlife (was raised in a religious household).

What advice do you have for going into this appointment with new doctor?

General practitioners in the past have always told me to just take Benadryl and never referred me out to anyone else. So frustrating. Of course I don’t do that because I don’t want to see the hat man, lol.

I’ve gotten to the point where my memory is getting bad and my other mental health issues are heightened. The last time my insomnia was really bad was about 10 years ago and was hallucinating often. I am not having that now as my life circumstances are much better and have gone to therapy. Sometimes I feel like I’m drunk driving because I’m so exhausted. I also work a night job so that messes with me too. The job market is shit here so I’m stuck at the moment, paycheck to paycheck. Relying on the job for insurance.

But, the insomnia remains. It is definitely linked to stress over work and finances, so I’m slowly working towards a new career. However, training for a new career is requiring brain power I just don’t have, which goes back to not sleeping. And it just goes round and round in a circle.

Side note, I’ve tried a few different nootropics and it has triggered what feels like something in between mania and psychosis, very scary. My brain is very very sensitive. I guess that would be the autism. So nootropics don’t feel like a safe thing for me to help with brain energy.

I’m hoping that if I can get the sleep/insomnia solved that I can improve my life a lot…I hope.

Any advice for how I should prepare for the appointment? Sleep tracking? Making sure the doc takes me seriously? Anything I should be wary of? Thank you.

Edit to add: if I’m going to sleep, the things that I have found help me are a sleep mask, ear plugs, cold room, noise machine, fan, and weighted blanket.

I am a very very light sleeper. Noises that wake me up send me into a panic attack.

I am not currently on any meds

When I do sleep deeply, I have vivid nightmares.

I was on fluoxetine in the past but it affected me badly when I got my period. Likely due to the PMDD that I was diagnosed with.

Part time female manager in my 20s here. I work with a few other older male managers in their 40s who are (miserable) career managers. I’m only managing part time, but they manage full time. The rest of the time I bartend or serve. I never wanted to have a leadership position but they needed the help.

Recently there’s been a number of issues (customer caused issues and some minor employee issues as usual). They’ve started to subtly be more disrespectful towards me and blaming me for issues even though they’re the ones there full time and see the rest of the staff way more than I do.
I fear I’ve become the new scapegoat. They seem to rotate between scapegoats when they’re stressed.
Usually, when I stick up for myself they shut up temporarily, but this crap is exhausting.
They’ve been saying I need to go to a new doctor and get on meds because I seem to be emotionally unwell. That shit was humiliating. And then still not taking anything I say seriously until someone else brings up the exact same thing.

Whenever issues arise, I address the issues, unlike them who are avoidant. One of them doesn’t have a spine and the other is someone who tries way too hard to be a tough guy and thinks everyone else is beneath him (customers and staff)

I don’t know what else to do besides complain to the owners which I worry would cause more issues and really I’m just trying to pay my damn bills. They are good people but I just don’t see the point, I’m dealing with too much other stuff to try and cause more drama.

Honestly, I’m on my way out. But in the mean time, how can I stick up for myself in ways I may not be thinking of? When is enough enough? I definitely don’t get paid enough but the job market is absolute garbage in my city and definitely going to transfer to a different field.

I never even wanted to be in restaurant management lol. They are the ones who asked me to help THEM out. But it seems like they don’t appreciate my help anymore. If I just peace out, I wouldn’t have much guilt because clearly they think they can do better without me. But ya know…money.
I’m the only manager that staff feels comfortable talking to about issues that need to be addressed because these other ones don’t take anyone seriously and view issues as an inconvenience even though it’s literally their job. Staff always tells me how much they appreciate me and that I’m doing a good job and I’m the “only good manager they’ve ever had”. I’m thankful for the affirmation because I know I’m doing my best, but at the end of the day my happiness matters.

Again, just looking for advice to deal with this in the meantime before finding a new job.

Thx

Currently burned out and miserable at my job. Not getting paid enough, sobbing every time I leave work. Horrible insomnia. It’s wrecking my mental health. I’ve worked so hard my whole life, have so much work experience, a degree, multiple post-grad certifications, etc.

What affirmations would you recommend for me? I’ve found that affirmations are the most effective form of manifestation and timeline shifting for me.

One I am trying right now “I deserve a job that I enjoy and provides _____ amount of money annually”

Any other ideas? Maybe I should just stick with that one and see where it takes me?

Diagnosed ADHD + Level 1 autism here. Also CPTSD, anxiety, insomnia, depression etc etc BUT WE OUT HERE MAKING IT 😭😂 on top of endometriosis.

I have struggled with “looping” thoughts or what you would call ruminating or obsessing over things that I’m having trouble emotionally processing.

I work in a restaurant/bar management position and it is highly stressful between dealing with customers, other management, and staff.

I feel like I forget how to take care of myself more often than not. I really really really struggle to switch from “work brain” to “home and relax or have fun brain”. Work definitely takes most of my enjoyment out of my life outside of work. Even that said, this is one of the “best” jobs I’ve ever had. And not because of the title, but because I enjoy the atmosphere (when things aren’t going wrong) and because the owners really do value the staff.

I have pretty much completely stopped doing my hobbies though. I don’t see any of my coworkers struggling with this like I do.

When the stress is really bad, it seems like the only thing I can do is sob, take a shot of tequila and drink sleepytime tea and hope that calms me down enough. But I’m still not doing anything I enjoy anymore. I don’t know how to. :( help.

Note: I do plan on switching careers, I’m teaching myself coding so that eventually I can maybe get a work from home job where I’m not interacting with people so much and hoping that will help.

I want to learn another language. I already have a learning foundation in French and Spanish. But I have a lot of Russian heritage and very interested in that.

I am transitioning into a tech career and wondering which languages are best to learn for that? I have been told many different things. The feeling I get is that it really depends on what company you’re working for and where they have international ties to.

Currently in the United States.

I am fascinated with so many languages and have trouble deciding what to learn.
I started learning 2 other languages when I was younger and thinking about just sticking it out with those.

However I have been doing lots of ancestry research and I’m also very interested in learning some of my ancestor’s languages.

I think the wisest thing for me to do is just sticking it out with the other two that I have foundations for.

At the moment, it doesn’t seem like any of them would be more or less useful for my current work situation. My life goals are a bit up in the air. I do want to travel a lot but that’s about it.

What’s your advice?

I had a friend in elementary school that came to America for part of our school year many years ago.

She was from Russia and moved back. I have her old address in Krasnodar Krai as well as her email address, but it seems the email address no longer exists, and I’m not sure any paper mail has gotten to her. I could try again but the address is from 15+ years ago.

Are there any specific social media that is more popular for Russians that she might be on? I can’t seem to find her on Facebook either. I have her full name. We were so young though, I don’t remember anyone in her family’s names either.

We barely could speak each other’s language at the time but she learned a little bit of English and I learned a little bit of Russian and we still had fun together. I think of her often and want to know how she is doing.

Any advice is appreciated, thank you!

EDIT: this was NOT a romantic fling like you all are assuming. We both were ten year old girls at the time, lol.
Also, she wanted to stay in contact years ago after moving and was in tears when she left as we had a great connection. I have her full name, email, and full residential address.

Hi all, I have had lots of luck finding direct lineage back to the 1400s for 3/4 grandparents which is amazing.

Unfortunately, I can’t find anything past great great grandparents for one side. They are from western Russia. My grandpa went to visit back in the (80s?) apparently and was told that his village was destroyed during WW2 so there was nothing he could tangibly visit. Unfortunately he has passed away when I was younger so I can’t pick his brain at all. All I know is it’s western Russia which doesn’t narrow anything down. For the great great grandparents, I have a photo and first name of my great great grandma, and then the first and last name of my great great grandpa but that’s it. No other info.

Any advice? Do you think I could find more of my distant family based off of my great great grandpa’s last name? It is different than mine because it goes through a maternal line.

As far as my last name goes, it was anglicized or germanicized I guess when my great grandparents immigrated here to the US around WW1. So I’m not sure exactly what my “real” last name is supposed to be spelled as.

On SimpliLearn it says if you get 2 friends to enroll in courses then you get unlimited free courses. I have already had 3 enroll but haven’t been notified yet of being able to get unlimited free courses. Did I do something wrong or do I just have to wait?