u/PetriMobJustice

Edit typo: hear* the song

Goin through some personal shit, left the Bay Area just to escape and ended up in sedona. One of my comforts is a quiet bar with pool tables. Google isn’t much help. Hoping Reddit will be

None of her partners know she’s partnered. Her ex does not know we’re together. She takes the promise ring off I got her when she goes out. She tells people she’s single. But does not like the idea of me making connections.

Am I even in a relationship? How do I logically rationalize this. Please ask me questions I can answer.

Edit: question answered. It feels wrong because it is wrong. And I have a lot to think about. I appreciate everyone’s support in helping me understand what I’m involved in.

Edit: tl;dr I’ve learned that I’m in currently can be categorized as 1 of 2 things: 1. Cheating, or 2. Unethical non-monogamy. I’m going to take this information and see a therapist for a while. I have a lot to process and thank you to this whole community for being supportive.

Final Edit: I ended the relationship today. We will continue to be best friends and roommates. We will continue to love and support each other, but we will not be having intimate relations together because I have no desire to be a friend with benefits. We can revisit this later once we have a better understanding of what is right, ethical and fair to both of us. I want to preserve and prioritize having my best friend in my life. And I don’t want to lose myself because I finally learned to love myself pretty recently. Thank you to everyone today who helped guide me to doing what truly feels like the right decision for me.

New to the area. Don’t know shit about this place. Just wanna drink play pool and watch basketball