u/Pokemom2025

My 17 yo son is rather large chested and it gives him a lot of dysphoria. He has a binder but even with it he still has a visible chest. We’ve tried sports bras too and it’s the same.

Does anyone have any suggestions for bigger chested boys? I hate seeing him in oversized shirts. He will be in a wedding in Nov and he wants to wear a well fitted suit.

Also, money is an issue for us.
Thank you all!

I need a small tattoo done and I need someone who is excellent with straight lines. It’s not a big job but it’s a super important one to me.

How do you communicate with your partner when it’s something that needs to be said “in person” but you don’t get to see them that often? I have some things that I need to say and they are going to be hard for my partner to hear (maybe). But, it feels like something that should not be conveyed via text. We rarely call or video chat.
The things:

1. ⁠I need more attention. I feel like my partner is a huge part of my life and I want to talk more and spend more time together (by phone) and I’ve tried hinting at it but I’ve never come out and just said “Hey! I need more attention!”
2. ⁠I’m now 100% sure I don’t want to move from my town. I love it here and all my people are here and I feel there is an expectation that once my son leaves for college in ‘27 that I will be moving either in with or closer to my partner.
3. ⁠When I try to make plans to do fun stuff over video or text or phone my partners almost consistently flakes out. To be fair we are both adult with jobs and there is a time difference. But in the beginning my partner would stay awake and talk to me and now that doesn’t happen anymore.
4. ⁠I know we both love each other deeply and we’ve known each other on and off since we were 5 but I no longer know if the love I feel is enough to deal with the absolute frustration that comes along with being in a long distance relationship.

I will see my partner in July but we won’t get any alone time this trip because I am helping a family member move. And honestly I’m scared if I wait until then I will chicken out.
Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Does anyone here actually enjoy the distance? Maybe it’s because I’m older and have gotten used to having my own space and routines but I enjoy the distance sometimes. I didn’t at first and I do love my partner so much but I also enjoy being in my normal routine too. It’s like a nice peaceful balance. I’m not sure if my partner feels the same but he appears to. I’ve contemplated just flat out asking him but if he doesn’t like it and I say I do it may hurt his feelings. Just curious if anyone else has these feelings.

Can anyone recommend a book about the experience of being trans, specifically FTM. Thank you in advance!

I’m looking for a standalone or at most a trilogy that is dark, enemies to lovers but like I want them to HATE each other. Also, I need spice but super slow burn. Thanks in advance. Oh! Also, if there is technology in it I don’t want it. I need pure fantasy!

This weekend my best friend kept my youngest child for an entire weekend and so I decided to ask my partner if he wanted to come stay with me. He did not hesitate to come down. He drove in after work on Friday and stayed until early Sunday morning. I don’t know how to describe the feeling other than heavenly.
He bewitched my evil old dog, spent time hanging out with my 17 yo son, and doted on me like the King that he is.
This was the first time we’ve spent a night together and, oh buddy, I was not ready to let him go Sunday. Now I’m sitting on the floor in my kitchen crying because I miss him so much. This distance is just getting harder.
This man is perfect. He is kind and gentle and he is into a lot of nerdy stuff like me. He and my son bonded over comics and I started him a Pokemon card collection. How do you handle the ache when they leave? I fear it will only get worse.

My papers were filed 45 days ago and my ex has still not been served! For anonymity’s sake I can’t say where I live but it’s in the US. I talked to my lawyer Friday and she just said something along the lines of, “I guess a lot of people in this town are getting divorced!” Not funny! We’ve been separated since Aug 2025. I’m just so ready for this to be done. Does anyone else have experience with their divorce being dragged out?