I’m 17 AFAB and I was wondering if I can consider myself non binary if I dress more feminine as someone who wears alternative/emo fashion, I want to try get more into a more androgynous style but unsure how too!
I accidentally deleted my other post so rewriting it again…
I’m AFAB (17 yrs old) and yesterday came out to my mum as bisexual and non binary, though I think she took me being bisexual better than telling her I’m non binary. Although she did say I shouldn’t feel pressured to label myself which I do get because I might change my mind about my sexuality.
I also expressed the thought of not liking my chest because I feel “uncomfortable” (I wanted to mention the possibility of a binder but I wasn’t true how she’d react) she kept talking about how I have a perfect body and why I don’t want to look nice.
I have also expressed wanting to get a different haircut (currently have a wolfcut with a fringe but I want to experiment with an emo/scene haircut) to my mum and she said she doesn’t want me to cut my beautiful hair,my dad has also made comments about this aswell, but I will definitely never feel comfortable coming out to him.
I’ve decided to trial a different name with afew close friends at school and going by they/them pronouns and I feel x10 more comfortable and happier responding to that name than my other name which my family and school go by. I feel like I can’t truly be myself around my family (especially my mum, dad and brother,except my twin sister) as I’m scared they’re going to reject me.
edit 1: I did talk to my mum again about being non binary, bisexuality, getting a binder, I think it’s confusing to her because I dress feminine a-lot of the time, wear a bra but when I suggested getting a new haircut and a new style, she didn’t mind so I was overthinking of what she would say about it. She said she loves me but just doesn’t know how to help me.
So today I came out to two of friends at school. It didn’t go how I expected, just felt like I shouldn’t of said anything? Basically I came out as bisexual, non binary and asexual (not sure where on the spectrum) and I’ve known this for awhile but just didn’t know how to tell my friends?
When I finally did tell them today because I kept saying I wanted to tell them something important and I didn’t want to keep putting this off, after I told them about me, one of my friends came out again, (they have come out recently) and I felt like it ruined my moment as it’s been really hard accepting who I am but also its nice that they trust telling me and my other friend.
Idk am I being dramatic, also if you need more context because I feel like I haven’t explained this properly.