The sexual tension between my boyfriend [26M] and me [24F] seems to have faded
- We still have sex, but it feels routine, and I miss the desire and flirting we had earlier. Is this normal, or is the spark dying?
- In the beginning, the sexual chemistry between us was amazing.
- He used to actively crave me, and I could really feel that desire from him.
- We still have sex now, but it has started feeling more like a routine/pattern.
For example, it’s mostly become “Friday night = sex.”
- Otherwise, I sometimes get the feeling he’s too tired over the weekend, even though he doesn’t explicitly say that.
- What I miss most is the spontaneous sexual tension outside of actually having sex.
- Earlier, when we were apart because one of us went home, he would send me flirty/steamy reels.
Lately, there’s been basically none of that for around 3 weeks.
- Sometimes I’ll joke around or try to initiate that kind of flirting, but he doesn’t really reciprocate.
He’ll say things like someone might come into the room, and it feels like he’s dodging the conversation/flirting rather than engaging with it.
- I don’t necessarily expect him to want sex all the time, but I do crave that feeling of being desired by him.
- I’m worried that the spark we had in the beginning is fading and that it might not come back.
Tldr; sexual tension faded after 9-10 months of being together