u/ProblemBrilliant3666

Hey all!

Currently I have a condo in Apple Valley and absolutely hate it here. Its loud, walking around is so difficult, the food is boring, and I get gross looks all the time (I'm African). I was going to sell my condo this fall and move into St. Paul, but not fully sure where. We're looking at homes around $250k or less. Not super big into night life or club/bar scene, but I definitely want to get out more and make more friends/connect with my community. I'm single and have 2 cats. Definitely looking at a fixer-upper for budget and self fulfillment reasons. I was told to avoid South St. Paul because its smelly (idk what that means).

Any recommendations are very helpful!

Hey all! I just turned 25 a month ago and since then, I've been kind of freaking out about the future. I live in the South Twin Cities Metro area and live alone. I own a condo I bought in 2022 for $150k, I make about $5000 per month (full and part time jobs), and I have 2 cats. The last 4 years have been a massive whirlwind of emotions and stress. I've had a few jobs (current one I've had for over a year), have had a 9 month relationship that taught be SO MUCH about myself and have been in therapy for a few years, went no contact with my entire family as they are super abusive, and have been dealing with one of my cats having an autoimmune disease for a year (shes 2 now and manifested right after her 1st bday). I travel a lot for work so I bought a 2025 Civic last year that I can fully pay off in abut 2 months, but that leaves me with about $2k in savings. I don't hate, but I don't love my job; I'm not sure about my future there because I don't have that big of an interest in lateral progression into management. I do plan on sitting with my boss to talk about my future tho. I went to community college for 2 years, but don't have a bachelors since I had no idea what I wanted to do, so I thought to not get one to not waste time and money. I don't have any major career passions and that's partially freaking me out.

I love studying history and political science/geopolitics in my free time and have considered a potential career shift into government. I just have no idea what to do with my life. it's been hard for my to map that out with everything that's happened. I'm tired, burnt out, sad, alone, and I just want to relax. I've stressed about money since I moved out. I don't plan on ever having kids so that's one thing I don't have to stress about which is nice lmao(planning on getting snipped)

I've considered trades to have a good career that I can tolerate, but I will not take out loans as money is already tight. My #1 priority right now is paying off my car and then rebuilding my savings.

Ever since I was a kid I've loved history and also making people smile and just trying to make someone's day better. Not sure how that translates into a career, or if it even does. Sorry for being kind of vague with the advice, but I'm just so lost right now, I have no idea where to begin outside of finances. The last month has made me strongly reflect on life, the meaning of it, and what I value most. Money is not my #1 priority. I have no desire to be wealthy, I just want to not stress about buying groceries and be able to take a trip once or twice a year. Nothing crazy. Since I won't have kids, passing wealth on isn't a concern, but whatever I have left when I croak I do want donated to causes I care about.

Any advice is greatly appreciated!

I tried buying tickets during the presale, but Ticketmaster didn't work at all. It required me to verify my identity by sending a code, but it never sent the code so I had to buy them from stubhub and paid an extra $70 for the ticket. I've never bought a ticket for a show before (comedy shows, concerts, etc...) so I panicked.

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Also, I bought a ticket for row J and then I got an email saying my ticket was ready, I got moved to row G and didn't pay more. A win I guess?

This is a weird question I know, but I'm a 25 year old guy and wanna go to the upcoming live show in my city, but idk if it would be weird to go alone. I don't really have any friends to go with, and I'm not looking necessarily to go to make friends, but just wanna enjoy the show. It seems like the demographic skews heavily towards a women majority fandom. I don't wanna be a creepy guy at the show, but I've been a fan of the BJ Boys for a fat minute now.

Just wanted to ask and get a temperature

Edit: thank you to everyone for such kind replies!! I'm definitely going to go!!

I'm kinda dumb so sorry, but I have a 2026 Honda Civic Hatchback. I'm from Minnesota but I travel to Iowa for work often. The Costcos in Minnesota have 87 and 91 gas, but the Iowa ones have 88 and 91. Can I use the 88 gas? It's still marked as Unleaded and the pricing matches up

Hi everyone,

I(M24) started dating my girlfriend(F22) about 2 months ago and things have been good. It's definitely moving a bit fast which I'm concerned is throwing off my feelings about this topic. I am someone who enjoys deep conversations and discussing history, politics, etc. My girlfriend also enjoys deep conversations, but she is a lot more spiritual and strongly believes in aliens. She believes that they will come and guide humanity to a better future. I've always struggled to want to talk to her about deeper topics, beyond basic stuff about work, school and other surface level topics.

Today, I tried to have a conversation about where I believe the world is headed based in current and previous events. She said, "Yeah but what about the aliens?" we had a bit of a back and forth discussion where she trailed so far away from the original topic, that I had to remind her what we were talking about and tried to circle it back, but there was no remote connection to it. I'm a bit vague with the details intentionally to not break any rules.

The topic is one that's important to me and I have mentioned it before in the past, but it gets shrugged off or aliens get mentioned. I really want to have these conversations with her, but I am genuinely getting angry about it inside. She fully believes it all and says it with sincerity, which is almost worse than it being a joke.

I'm considering ending things because I think our brains just don't gel the way I wish they would, but part of me thinks I'm just overreacting.

TLDR: I can't ever have important conversations with gf because she believed in aliens. Tried today, aliens mentioned again, I feel frustrated. Considering ending things

Hi all!

I just started dating this girl 2 months ago and things have been great so far. She's really nice and makes me feel really comfortable compared to my ex who was very controlling and dominated the relationship. This time it feels significantly more even between us. I normally don't date people who are younger and tend to be attracted to older people, but my current girlfriend is someone who I saw potential with so I wanted to give it a shot.

Lately however, I've been finding myself very frustrated with our communication. She tends to interrupt me a lot while I'm talking and will raise her voice to say what she wants to say. I mentioned this to her and said how it's different to talk to her sometimes because she cuts me off. She said that she has been told this before by other people, and that when she has a thought, she has to say it. Also, she doesn't care what people have to say but is trying to cut people off less. She did not say she's trying to listen more, but I'm hoping that's what she meant.

Also, I got my place 4 years ago and thought it would be temporary so I got cheap furniture and some of it is gray, but some I got for free that also happens to be gray so I obviously took it. I don't love it anymore since my design tastes have changed. She has gone out of her way multiple times so say how much she genuinely hates coming over since it feels gloomy and that I need to change things to make them better for her. I was already working on changing some of my furniture since I'll be there for a bit longer, but also wanted a bit of her advice and input on how to make some things nice. I talked to her about that, and she said that she can't help herself that she hates it, said I should get rid of basically everything she doesn't like, that she HAS to say these things, and ended things with what kinda felt like a half assed apology. After that conversation, she tried to say that she never actually said I need to get rid of my stuff, but I called her out on it and she admitted reluctantly.

There have been a few other things, but maybe I'm just reading into things but it's just really frustrating that I'm needing to have these conversations with her. She said she wants to get better, but has changed none of these behaviors. I'm thinking of just waiting it out and seeing if she does mature more.

Any advice is appreciated!!

Edit: totally forgot our ages sorry!! She's 22 and I'm 25