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TLDR: Told my grandparents they could watch my son while I was pregnant (set for a couple times a week for a few hours each day when I return to work) and they have been so excited since, am now realizing they are not physically in a state where I feel comfortable leaving my son with them alone.

I am a new mom (3 weeks pp!) and I have gotten myself into what feels like the most horrible situation. My grandparents whom I am very close with offered to help us with childcare for free when my son arrived and I excitingly agreed. They were set to watch him twice a week for a few hours on each day. They watched my sisters, cousin and I growing up and both had careers where they worked with children.

However, they are almost 80 and really struggle to get around these days. Now that my son is here, the visits that we’ve had together have made me completely backtrack on wanting to let them babysit. Seeing them hold him/ try to transfer positions makes me feel like I am going to have a panic attack because their strength and coordination is just not there (I don’t feel like this with anyone else so I don’t think it’s pp anxiety, also my partner says he feels the same way). My grandma has a lot of trouble walking/ getting up and down now as well.

They have done so much for me and are some of the most important people in my life but I cannot leave my baby alone with them. I know this is going to crush them, they are so excited to watch him. I guess when I agreed I was somewhat blind to their physical state, I knew they were aging but they still felt like the same grandparents that can do it all. Actually seeing them interact with him has been such a wake up call.

Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? I am just dreading this conversation. I can‘t stop crying thinking about how much it’s going to hurt them, but I need to put my son’s safety first. If anyone has any advice on how to gently talk to them it would be greatly appreciated!

TLDR: Told my grandparents they could watch my son while I was pregnant (set for a couple times a week for a few hours each day) and they have been so excited since, am now realizing they are not physically in a state where I feel comfortable leaving my son with them alone.

I am a new mom (3 weeks pp!) and I have gotten myself into what feels like the most horrible situation. My grandparents whom I am very close with offered to help us with childcare for free when my son arrived and I excitingly agreed. They were set to watch him twice a week for a few hours on each day. They watched my sisters, cousin and I growing up and both had careers where they worked with children.

However, they are almost 80 and really struggle to get around these days. Now that my son is here, the visits that we’ve had together have made me completely backtrack on wanting to let them babysit. Seeing them hold him/ try to transfer positions makes me feel like I am going to have a panic attack because their strength and coordination is just not there (I don’t feel like this with anyone else so I don’t think it’s pp anxiety, also my partner says he feels the same way). My grandma has a lot of trouble walking/ getting up and down now as well.

They have done so much for me and are some of the most important people in my life but I cannot leave my baby alone with them. I know this is going to crush them, they are so excited to watch him. I guess when I agreed I was somewhat blind to their physical state, I knew they were aging but they still felt like the same grandparents that can do it all. Actually seeing them interact with him has been such a wake up call.

Has anyone ever been in a similar situation? I am just dreading this conversation. I can‘t stop crying thinking about how much it’s going to hurt them, but I need to put my son’s safety first. If anyone has any advice on how to gently talk to them it would be greatly appreciated!

Hello!

Today I attempted to make yogurt for the first time. I used whole milk and heated it up (it did get to about 190*F, I had been aiming for 180*F) I let it cook for kind of a while at that (maybe 30 minutes or so, I got a little side tracked while letting it warm up). I then cooled it to about 100F* and then added in some store bought plain Greek yogurt. (1/2 gallon of milk to about 1.25 cups of Greek yogurt- just wanted to use up what I had left). I then put it in my oven with the light on to ferment and after about 6 hours it was still all liquid so I figured it wasn’t warm enough. I took a heating pad and turned it on low and wrapped that around the yogurt on the counter for about 4 hours instead and now it’s nice and thick/ smooth but it doesn’t smell like yogurt at all, it smells more cheesy but not in a bad way! I put it in the fridge to cool for the night to see how it finishes setting.

I know there were probably a lot of spots where I could have messed it up since I wasn’t super exact while following the directions, just curious if this is normal or any advice anyone has for next time! Also, is this safe to try to eat even thought it doesn’t have the normal, tangy/sour yogurt smell?

The glass container I used to ferment the yogurt in was sterilized right before transferring it from the pot that I heated my milk in and the lid was kept on the entire time.

Hi everyone! I am an ECE professional myself but also expecting my first child in the next couple of weeks! I want him to have a nice home library and have been gifted many books, but while sitting and organizing them I’ve noticed that they are really lacking in the inclusivity/representation department. I was just curious what fellow teachers favorite books for exposing children to different types of people and families are! I want to be sure to really supplement what we already have with these types of stories as I find it to be really important!

I hope it is okay for me to post this to this sub, I was going to do it over on parenting but honestly was a little nervous of backlash I may receive, not sure how accepting they are over there!

Also would love to use some of these suggestions to add to my classroom as well ☺️ Thanks all!

Hi! I’m a FTM and my partner and I are expecting in a month now! I plan to take all of my leave immediately (12 weeks PFL plus 6 weeks disability) but we’re trying to figure out how much time my partner should take off the bat. We plan on him saving a good chunk of his as in the fall I will be going back to school and working part time so he can take a couple days a week to be home with our son. I’m just wondering when everyone felt ready to be alone during the postpartum period? We were thinking he takes 2 weeks and then saves the remaining 10 (he can use it at any point, by the day, during the first year of our son’s life). Is 2 weeks enough?