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Ik ben 40+2 en kom net van een afspraak met mijn verloskundige. Ze heeft mij gevraagd om na te denken over de komende twee weken en wat ik zou willen: afwachten (tot wanneer) of ingeleid worden (wanneer precies). Ik voel me overvallen en kan jullie input goed gebruiken.

Omdat de meeste eerste baby’s tussen 40 en 41 weken komen, wil ik zeker 41 weken afwachten. Er is geen medische reden voor een inleiding, de baby beweegt goed en heeft voldoende vruchtwater.

Maar na 41 weken weet ik het niet.

De verloskundige zei dat ik rekening moet houden met de drukte in de maand augustus en dat het handigste is om alvast een afspraak voor een medische inleiding (met een ballontje) in te plannen. En dan zien we het wel of het nodig is. Maar ik weet niet met welke termijn ik dat zou willen?

Strippen is natuurlijk ook een optie, maar dat werkt maar in ongeveer 1 op de 6 gevallen. Ik wil het wel proberen, maar ik weet niet wanneer precies.

Al met al, ik voel me een beetje overweldigd met deze keuze. Er schijnen zowel risico’s te zijn bij het afwachten tot 42 weken, als bij het inleiden.

Als iemand tips heeft of ervaringen wil delen, heel graag.

I’m 40 weeks and was wondering how everyone else is feeling around their due date (approaching it or past it). Are you excited, impatient, calm or just ready to meet your baby? I’d love to hear your experiences! I’m mostly excited and curious.

I almost exclusevly read Nordic thrillers, but decided it was time for something else. Since I do find it interesting when a book has a component of a mystery/murder I picked up The Secret History by Donna Tartt and am almost done with book 1.

How did everyone like it? A lot of people seem to swear by it, some seem to find it overrated. Just tell me about your experience!

This is a question out of pure curiosity. If you were told that you’re having a big baby, was it actually big?

Or the other way around, if you were told that the baby was measuring small, was your baby actually small?

Or maybe your provider didn’t measure the baby at all, how was your experience?

Im 35 weeks and I’m so tired. I was planning on staying active throughout the pregnancy (light exercise, yoga and walking), but since around 32 weeks I’m too tired to do anything, even chores already feel too much. I can give up exercising, but I find it so frustrating that even having a lunch with a friend outside already feels like running marathon.

How do others deal with this? Do you feel energetic enough to do stuff? Anything you do to help the exhaustion?

My partner and I are expecting a baby soon, and I’ve been thinking a lot about multilingual upbringing.

I currently live my entire daily life in Language A (a Germanic language). I use it for work, with friends, with my partner, and pretty much in every day-to-day situation.

My native language, however, is Language B (a Slavic language). I grew up speaking it, and it is my mother tongue, but I rarely speak it. My family lives abroad, so we mainly communicate through text messages and voice memos. As a result, I write in the language fairly regularly, but I hardly ever speak it out loud. Getting on a deeper level in language B is also a challenge nowadays, oftentimes I struggle to express myself (think: exchanging ideas, expressing emotions, explaining concepts). This did get a lot better for me when I stayed 6 weeks in my home country.

I would love for my child to have some connection to Language B, both for family reasons and because it’s part of their heritage. At the same time, I’m unsure whether it’s realistic. I’m afraid that I won’t be able to express myself well and that it will only challenge the development. Or that I will get frustrated with myself and switch to language A.

Has anyone been in a similar situation? How did you approach this?

I am still very new to the methods of bilingual upbringing. All advice is welcome!

Thanks!