u/QuiteBearish

Hello!

A handful of years back I spent a decent amount of money having three custom, monogrammed suits made, plus several custom dress shirts.

The thing is, at the time I weighed ~300 pounds. In the last year, I have dropped to ~180.

These expensive suits obviously no longer fit me, and honestly I doubt they can be resized to such a drastic extent without having to be completely recut.

I hate to get rid of them, feels like just throwing away a couple thousand dollars, but also they're just taking up space in my closet.

Anyone have any suggestions regarding what I should do with these suits? Are there any good charities in the area I should consider donating to, or what? Don't want to just toss them into a goodwill bin or something

Every one of these properties has some of the best CTA access in the city - multiple train lines in the vicinity not to mention a plethora of major bus lines.

Absolutely no reason for the majority of these people to even own cars.

In the interest of transparency, shouldn't we know who the CEO actually is instead of just hiding behind an anonymous letter?

u/Cherry_Pomegranate is this really y'all's idea of transparency? Come on.

Especially with the CEO of another telehealth being arrested for fraud within the last few months, it seems especially important we can verify who is actually running the show here.

I had surgery earlier today for an inguinal hernia repair.

First time I've dealt with serious medical issues since starting a GLP1. It was scheduled less than a week out from when it was diagnosed, so no time to stop taking GLP1s and instead had to go on a clear liquid diet. That absolutely sucked.

Anyway. Just getting home. But what really stands out to me is the way I was treated through all this.

I'm honestly used to being treated like shit by most doctors. My PCP is cool, but any other time I've had to see a specialist or have any kind of actual procedure I've always been made to feel like completely disrespected.

But no. This time, everyone from the admissions desk to the nurses to the anesthesiologist to the surgeon, literally everyone treated me with an absolutely unbelievable amount of kindness. I wasy my nurse's last patient of the day, so she ended up just sitting with me and chatting with me for an entire hour as we waited for me to be ready.

And honestly now that I'm home I'm seriously crying my freaking eyes out. Not from pain thankfully not feeling much of that right now at momentary ll but I'm just so emotionally drained. Why did it take losing 35% of myself to be worthy of respect? I'm still the same person I always was and I always deserved respect. It's just not right.

So, y'all will probably think I'm the most casual fan ever, but like, I only recently found out Linkin Park was back. Seriously hate I missed their concert in Chicago last August.

My husband may be getting tired of Linkin Park at this point but I've been playing their music on repeat the last 24 hours or so. Watching Rock am Ring though right now and beyond enthralled.

This was my #1 favorite band in high school, and while no one can ever replace Chester, I'm loving Emily.

I just ordered the From Zero album and their concert tee. I may not have been there but I'm going to own the tee damnit. I'm looking forward to watching the Unshattered documentary when it comes out.

I'm like seriously in nostalgia bliss right now.

Anyway, sorry I just needed somewhere to fan-out for a minute but I realize there's nothing really of value here of course all of y'all already know 😆

Last week on Memorial Day I had been working out when all of a sudden I felt intense pain in my right testicle all the way up through my right abdomen. The entire right side of my groin was extremely swollen.

I went to the emergency room. The swelling basically immediately went away when I lay down on the exam table, but the pain was still there. So I guess that explains why when they felt around they decided the most likely explanation was testicular torsion and ordered an ultrasound. Spoiler alert: no torsion. No anything else on the ultrasound, either. They decided it was most likely a case of orchitis and sent me home. No real explanation for the sudden severity or anything but whatever.

Took a whole week to get in with my PCP, during which time I noticed the pattern or the swelling going down when I'm laying down and coming back after standing up for a while. And I've also realized I can definitely feel a mass inside the swelling.

Anyway, get to my PCP on this past Monday. Really wish she would have agreed to examine me standing up first, but no, lie down. And of course it immediately went away. Asks me to stand up and do the cough thing. Finally says she'll order another ultrasound.

Manage to get in for it earlier today. And of course, they insist on me laying down first 😬 ultrasound tech is examining me and insisting she doesn't see anything. Kept asking me to flex my abs and asking me if I'm sure I'm actually flexing my abs?

Finally she agrees to ultrasound me standing up. She's examining, and I flex my abs this time...

"Oh wow. Where was that hiding?" She then makes sure to ultrasound the entire area, every little nook and cranny on both sides of my groin.

Tells me I actually have a very large hernia, and she'd get the images over to the doctors at the facility, who would get a report over to my PCP within the next two days and my PCP will follow up with me from there. I'm frustrated, because two more days means it will be at least Monday before we move on to next steps, but at least I have confirmation that there really was actually something there.

Anyway, that timeframe was apparently not correct because I have an appointment for a consult with a general surgeon first thing tomorrow morning.

So yeah. My guess is I've had a small hernia for a long time and it just got suddenly worse last week. It never was diagnosed on a physical because it hides when I'm laying down and doctors really prefer examining you while you're horizontal.

Is this something you wish you had access to when you were younger?

Wegovy and Saxenda are both approved for teens. I've been trying to (gently) encourage my younger sister to get my nephew on Wegovy when he is old enough next year.

For context: my entire family is naturally thin... Except my (now deceased) uncle, except for me, and except for my nephew. It's weird how that played out I guess. All three of us were thin during early childhood, and then rapidly increased in size starting at around age 10 or 11. Doesn't seem to impact the women in our family but it hits basically all the men.

Recently my mom came up to me and apologized for how she handled my weight when I was younger, she just didn't know what to do about it. She also confided she sees my sister doing the same things with my nephew.

I truly wish I had access to GLPs when I was younger, and especially since my nephew was born with a congenital heart defect, I figure it is especially important to begin managing these things earlier. Plus I can't help but wonder how my mental health may have played out differently.

Idk. I'm struggling. Is this something I should push my sister on or should I just stay out of it? She's big on doing things the natural way but I just don't think that's going to cut it for him just like it never did for me.

Hello

The other day I received a sub via RedditRequest. Unfortunately, the old mod and some of the old members are quite unhappy about this.

They have been posting about this to multiple other subs, tagging me directly, and sharing screenshots and bragging about their bans and some have ban evaded. Additionally, every single post in the group has been getting reported multiple times.

I have filed a MCOC report for the brigading with over a dozen links to different posts and comments. I've reported the individual comments/posts naming me for harassment. I've reported the report abuse. I've reported the ban evasion.

Recently I've implemented an automod rule that will let me essentially shadowban users instead of giving them the satisfaction of the ban messages. At which point one of them is now complaining about how they tried to get banned but instead all I did was remove their comments.

I've turned on crowd control and reputation filter and set an automod rule to filter every new post for manual review, but that isn't tenable in the long-term.

Does anyone have any advice as to how to handle this while waiting for Admin to take action on my reports?

Since some people have things confused. Criticism is ok. Hate it not.

Criticism: talking about his actual actions in the show and how they impact the people around him. For instance, talking about how Stolas is an abysmal parent who engaged in transactional relationships and put his criminal boyfriend ahead of his daughter. Or talking about how he was a horrible husband and a cheater who is responsible for the bed he now lies in.

Hate: Making up bad-faith arguments that have no plausible basis in reality. For instance, making the bizarre accusations that Stolas raped Blitz. Or claiming that he was the only one in his family that fucked up.

You're also allowed to just not like a character and say you don't like the character. That's perfectly fine. Not every character will resonate with everyone. But if you like a character someone else dislikes, you need to be civil. Conversely, if you don't like a character someone else likes, you still need to be civil.

We can engage in civil, thought-provoking criticisms of the actual flaws of the show and the actual flaws of the characters without breaking into a blind rage, attacking each other, and making shit up.

Hope that clears things up.

I recently was given moderator access via r/RedditRequest

Unfortunately, automoderator isn't on the mod list and I don't seem to have the option to create automod rules.

How can I get it added?

Sub currently has no mods.

Note: hopefully this is ok to resubmit. It was removed because I didn't have 2fa enabled, but the modmail said once I enable it I can resubmit. I am not trying to circumvent the 15 day limit.