u/Raccoon2523

No where near starting the process, doing lots of research before hand but im used to fish and realising now that its more different than i thought.

They will be in a seperate tank (obviously,) with low water, so how am i meant to heat this water and filter it with such low levels?

How do i begin to create a good land space such as how to build the base and what plants are the best?

Just literally give me the biggest rant on every little thing please! every tiny detail on how to create the perfect tank, i know the very basics but i dont want the bare minimum

Is it seen as weird/annoying to bring someone to a tattoo appointment? its my first one and he 100% wouldnt be in the way (as much as he could be.)

Iv asked my tattoo artist and im waiting for a reply but i want to double check its not seen as rude and hes saying yes because its easier than saying no/could be seen as rude.

Not bringing them for moral support or anything, theyre staying at mine and i dont want to ditch them at mine for hours while i get it done.

for some reason i literally feel like a 6 year old when i talk to anyone but my boyfriend and friends.

Dont know why. I saw someone say go befriend employees at aquarium shops to talk about ur fish with and it flashed into my head and i realised i feel like a 10 year old embarrassing myself whenever i talk to anyone at all.

I feel so much less than everyone around me, maybe not 10, maybe genuinely just a feeling of being pathetic and below everyone that makes me think “like a child trying to make friends.”

I went into a shop before and i always say “ill wait to see if it works” with a laugh when i use my card so i can have something to say without being overly friendly. And i feel like an absolute nugget? Even looking back at how i smiled too big when it worked

Family members? I feel like im trying to get a seat at the grownup table when i interact with any of them

Why do we get absolutely wasted and then drink 2 days later?? even addiction aside, people will have terrible experiences like end up cuddlinh a homeless man in his pee soaked sleeping bag and still go on a night out.

why?!? as with all substances, how can one have so many absolutely atrocious experiences and be so chuffed about their next drink (or other things) the second all symptoms ware off?

atleast 30 times now i have done the usual go in my notes app or a straight up note book and write “never drink again.” And yet, right back at it 4 days later.

what will finally deter me

To clarify, not violent, I dont scream, not explosive anger.

Iv had depression and anxiety for years and been suicidal for 90% of it, tried so many forms of therapy, all the medication thats available for me, i have changed everything about my life and im surrounded by great friends, no longer in a bad relationship and no bad habits.

My biggest problem is that i am so sensitive, i feel like im actually crazy. I am not and never have been violent, or snappy, or agressive so its not that type of anger. But its like everything effects me so deeply its unbearable.
It feels like a festering pain in my body, like a physical sickness that i need to stop any way i can.

My boyfriend gets the brunt of it, lost my cool a few times but theres only one occasion where i wasnt nice at all. Because hes the only person im open with hes the only person who sees it.

But its like every week i lose my mind and all i can feel is the need to get rid of the feeling however i can, its a physical pain that takes my breath away, it makes my chest hurt and my body ache and the type of pain that makes you just curl up into a ball and cry.

I dont sit there at night and feel depressed and think nothing will ever be better. i feel like i need to get rid of the feeling because its so unbearable, its such an overwhelmingly horrible feeling that all i can think is all the ways i can solve that problem.

Theres no just breath and calm down, i can sit there and do breathing exersises for hours and feel exactly the same. Go on a walk and feel the same. Have a shower and feel the same. I feel like a lost cause, and i think people dont grasp that i have perfected every single tequnique iv been taught in every type of therapy, it doesnt work for me in any way.

What can i even do now

I tried to go on this thinking i might join an already set world and play with random people but im a bit confused by it. What is that feature? Do i need to have a friend who i invite in to play with?

Never owned fish before, I have bought a 40L fish tank with a heater and filter and i will buy an oxygen thing! What im wondering is the best pairs/ numbers. I would like to have one little blood red shrimp, but are they better in pairs/ groups? I also would like two small fishes that dont grow past 3” but is the tank too big for only three little fish? Im not sure which little fishes work well in smaller ammounts, but also not sure the max i should put in a 45L tank, im just assuming 3 for now. I also wouldnt mind having one bigger fish if it prefered solitude and also fit very comfortably in the tank.