u/RayasOasis

This is a long shot, but I saw two Carmine red Porsches (a GT4 I think but with a big tail and a Boxster) on Friday near Palmyra/Colebrook and I’m trying to find the owner of the former as it was stunning.

Mods please remove if this isn’t allowed, I’m so sorry!!

There seems to be a recent influx of people asking for usernames to use on social media. Every post just shares the individual’s name and nothing else.

Please let us help you by sharing what you want to accomplish with your username, or what kind of media you’re going to be posting. We’re likely to come up with very different names for “Beth” vs “Beth who loves cars and wants to post engine rebuilds”.

I’ve recently started getting into cars, and find myself at a blocker. I just got a “nice car” and can rattle off every spec about it, but don’t fully understand what all those things mean. I’m trying to find a YouTube channel (or something else entirely! I’m open to ideas!) that’ll teach me the 101 and 201 level information of how cars work. I want to understand what actually happens when you shift gears and why. I want to know what transaxle means, and why different engine locations really make a difference. When someone describes their car and the work they’ve put into it, I want to be able to be excited with them.

Any and all advice is appreciated!

EDIT: You all are amazing, thank you. Hopefully I can be a car guy (gal) in my own right soon.

(Please read edits for important details)

I am a married 30ish YO female (edit: married to a 30 YO male) with an 80ish something “sugar daddy”. I put “sugar daddy” in quotes because he is only my sugar daddy jokingly, as an internal nickname/joke in my friend group.

I went to a posh boarding high school completely on scholarship, a portion of which was covered by a scholarship funded by “sugar daddy” (we’ll call him Mark). I won a competition to get the scholarship, and part of the requirement was a twice yearly report to Mark over a formal dinner on my learnings. Mark was incredibly kind, even once giving me extra money for a prom dress, taking me to extra coffee outings with his wife and grandchildren, and so on. His scholarship deeply impacted my life, and I chose to keep in touch with him after high school. Even now, we get dinner maybe once a year, usually now with his wife and my husband, but sometimes just the two of us if our spouses are busy.

I recently purchased something of high monetary value, and was joking with my husband at his parents house how I didn’t need a sugar daddy anymore. He laughed along, but his parents (late 50s) got really quiet and uncomfortable. I asked what was wrong, and they said it was very awkward that I had a sugar daddy as a married woman. I explained that he wasn’t actually a sugar daddy, sharing all of the above, but they doubled down and said that him buying me a prom dress (over a decade ago!) and me continuing to get dinners with him (some of which I pay for!) was evidence that he really was a sugar daddy. They said it made them extremely uncomfortable to know that I had this close monetary relationship with any man other than my husband, and that I should cut it off immediately.

I was flabbergasted and told them they were being ridiculous and that I wouldn’t cut off a 15 year friendship just because the friend is male. My husband immediately sided with me, telling his parents they were being so unreasonable they should talk to their pastor about what it means to give and have grace (they are religious, we aren’t so much). We ended up leaving after a few extremely awkward minutes.

Maybe we could have handled it better, but I don’t think I’m in the wrong here. AITA?

EDIT to address the most common comments so far (sorry for the weird formatting)

1. When I said it, I was only talking to my husband. My in laws just overheard. I actually usually get along really well with my in laws, and appreciate that I don’t have to watch what I say outside of a few very select topics and cursing. I guess that’s why I didn’t think about i

t, and I am VERY careful to otherwise never use this nickname in any other setting, not even with my parents, siblings, or other friends. In those scenarios he is Mark or my benefactor.
2. More importantly, regardless of the above, it is time to retire the nickname. It was funny as a high schooler who was trying to find levity in being the poor kid, but I’d be crushed if Mark ever found out I called him this, and he doesn’t deserve this nickname. So I’ll stop using it wholesale at this time.

EDIT 2 (please read)

As mentioned above and in my comments, you all are completely correct and the nickname, regardless of it being a rarely used inside joke or not, is inappropriate, unfair, and borderline mean and I will immediately stop using it, full stop. If possible, I would really appreciate commentary specifically on the conflict with my in laws, and not on the nickname itself. Thank you.

Does anyone have any pictures of Guards vs Carmine next to each other?

Or does anyone have a strong opinion on which they prefer?

I don’t live in a big Porsche area so it’s almost impossible to see these two in person.

Thanks in advance!