u/Reasonable-Cherry180

Hello! To make this story short, I thought I was dating the love of my life last year. One day out of the blue he dumped me and gave no explanation. I loved that man and to say it destroyed me is an understatement.

The breakup happened in October 2025 and I went straight to no contact. My birthday comes around (April 2026) and I get a text. I did not expect I would spend my birthday crying but here we were. I respond to the text and after a bit of back and forth we schedule a call for the weekend as I told him that even though he didn’t owe me anything I felt like I needed to know what happened in order to move on. Before the call I told him I could not have a friendship with him and he understood.

Call comes around and it is 2 hours long (felt like 15 minutes). He tells me he feels like there was something missing yet couldn’t explain what it was. He suffers from depression and only got help 2 months after our breakup (I personally think the “lack of spark” he described was a lack of willingness to live while he got his depression under control). I told him that and he said that he had talked to his therapist about that being a possibility but I didn’t pry.

While awkward at the beginning as I had many hard questions it felt like nothing had changed. Our chemistry was still there. He had stories he had been waiting to share from the 6 months where we didn’t speak. I also kept saying I wasn’t looking for reconciliation (which was a lie I was telling myself).

At the end of the call he says how great of a conversation that was and that I should text him if I ever want to talk again. I repeat that I cannot be just his friend. He gets quiet. He says he is scared to text me first and I say “so am I so I don’t think we’ll speak again”. He responds “not even on my birthday?”. As in, he wants me to text him on his birthday.

The end of the conversation left me in shock because (and I know I’m over analyzing here but how could I not…) I could tell he started to reminisce which I was not expecting.

Anyway, his birthday is in two weeks and I obviously want to text him but I am not sure if I should. All I want is for us to try again now that he finally found help for his mental health issues. Would texting him for his birthday signal I am looking for a friendship? If there was any chance he was doubting the breakup, would he had already reached out (convo happened about about 5 weeks ago)? What would you do if you were hoping for reconciliation?