What’s with all the women on this subreddit dating the shittiest of men????
For a feminist space that constantly preaches self-love, mental health, ambition, boundaries, and resistance to misogyny and patriarchy, the women here seem to have a peculiar penchant for entertaining some of the worst men imaginable. Every new post somehow manages to be worse than the last. It genuinely makes me wonder why so many women are willing to invest years of their lives trying to make a less-than-mediocre man love them properly when that same time, energy, and emotional labour could be invested in understanding themselves, rebuilding their self-worth, and pursuing therapy. I’m sorry if I come off as back-handed, but I’m so tired of watching women compromise their own principles in relationships. Like why are we so willing to negotiate our own standards for the sake of being picked or chosen by a man?! I love you my girlies. I’m just exasperated on your behalf!
I empathise with women who are trapped in toxic relationships or marriages because of financial dependence, coercion, or circumstances that make leaving difficult. This is not about them.
Recognising misogyny in theory isn’t enough hey? You need to be examining the ways you internalise it and reproduce it in your personal lives.
